Another SEC Recruitment Story, Cut Short

[gatorgeneration]

I asked a couple of my Pi Chis what they recommended, and they all said to try again in spring during the informal recruitment. I did contact the office of Greek Life at my school and they said no COB was done at UF, and again recommended to try in spring.

Obviously my chances are pretty slim, but I've recently begun to bulk up my activities on campus, including a few that are predominantly Greek. I'm hoping to meet women from the handful of chapters I felt I clicked with, and will be getting several recs for each house, which should help a bit.

When I told my mom about what happened just minutes after I got that call from the Pi Chi, I had flowers at my door a few hours later, it was very sweet! What girl doesn't love flowers?

[FSUZeta]

Sounds like you are headed in the right direction. Hope it works out for you. Please let us know.

What a sweet mom!

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by Venusloves11

Bluepink had great advice about asking your Pi Chi's for future advice. I was in a similar situation in college (had to drop recruitment the first time for a family emergency, was dropped the second time as a junior). I went to a smaller Big East school though that only had 450-475 women in recruitment each time for 7 sororities. My Pi Chi's suggested that I get involved with other organizations on campus and one of them even helped me do it. I am still friends with two of them now on Facebook, even though we live far apart from each other.

By the way, I know that being released sucks, especially after you secured recs and put work into it. My mom came up the weekend that I was released as junior to make me smile and laugh (by the way, I was released 2 hours before Bid Day). She had just left the weekend before and probably didn't think she would be back that quick. I was sad for a few days, but then I picked myself back up. I met quite a few people from the sorority that I was interested in that year and they told me that a big part of me not getting a bid wasn't because they didn't click with me, it was because I was a junior. When I reminded them that their letters were for life, they all realized just how wrong the "year in school" thinking was.

As an alumnae now, I look back and think that there might have been a reason why I was not extended a bid and that it wasn't meant to be at that time. I am not even going to pretend to understand the whole process.

Did you later get a bid? Through COB or formal rush?

[Venusloves11]

No. The sororities did not do informal recruitment that year and the next year I had an opportunity for an internship that took me away from my school for a semester. I also would have been a senior if I did formal rush again.

[TexasLara]

Dear Gatorgeneration, I want to tell you quick story about a friend of mine who was dropped from Rush at Texas Tech one year. My friend, Liz, was a Kappa Kappa Gamma double legacy, from a hugely wealthy family and very involved in community volunteerism. One would assume, based on her resume, she would be perfect for KKG membership, right? Not so much, they dropped her along with everyone else. She decided to "re rush" the following year after getting to know some of sorority girls on campus and ultimately joined Alpha Chi Omega! Look ahead to next year and get to know some of the girls in the chapters.

[gatorgeneration]

Hey ladies, so I received a phone call from a sister of a house who is extending COBs. This was not one of the houses I was invited back the second round, but they were very sweet the first day of recruitment. She invited me to a get together so I'm excited to have a chance to speak with more of the girls and get to know them in a less formal environment. I'll admit I never saw myself as a sister at this particular house, but I just never have personally met any of the sisters, so I'm keeping an open mind! I'll give an update later on!

[KDCat]

Originally Posted by gatorgeneration

Hey ladies, so I received a phone call from a sister of a house who is extending COBs. This was not one of the houses I was invited back the second round, but they were very sweet the first day of recruitment. She invited me to a get together so I'm excited to have a chance to speak with more of the girls and get to know them in a less formal environment. I'll admit I never saw myself as a sister at this particular house, but I just never have personally met any of the sisters, so I'm keeping an open mind! I'll give an update later on!

That's wonderful! Good luck! I hope it works for you!

[Sciencewoman]

That's great news! Remember that in a large house, there are bound to be plenty of women you could click with!

[MaryPoppins]

Originally Posted by gatorgeneration

Hey ladies, so I received a phone call from a sister of a house who is extending COBs. This was not one of the houses I was invited back the second round, but they were very sweet the first day of recruitment. She invited me to a get together so I'm excited to have a chance to speak with more of the girls and get to know them in a less formal environment. I'll admit I never saw myself as a sister at this particular house, but I just never have personally met any of the sisters, so I'm keeping an open mind! I'll give an update later on!

Good luck!

[SigKapSweetie]

Best wishes on your COB opportunity! I knew some wonderful women at UF who joined their chapters through COB. I'm not sure why the Greek Life office would tell you that there is no COB at UF; although it has been my observation that there are less opportunities now than there have been in the past, with RFM and the equalization of chapter sizes over the past 5-6 years, my understanding is that there are still a handful of houses who tend to have a small number of spaces available in the fall. Perhaps they aren't telling PNMs about this because there are so few spots these days? Regardless, this can be a great opportunity for the outstanding young women who always seem to somehow slip through the cracks during formal recruitment, as well as for those young women who are new to the university and might not have realized how much greek life at UF has to offer until the school year had already begun.

[FSUZeta]

What great news gatorgeneration. This may be the chance you were hoping for!

[IrishLake]

Originally Posted by gatorgeneration

Hey ladies, so I received a phone call from a sister of a house who is extending COBs. This was not one of the houses I was invited back the second round, but they were very sweet the first day of recruitment. She invited me to a get together so I'm excited to have a chance to speak with more of the girls and get to know them in a less formal environment. I'll admit I never saw myself as a sister at this particular house, but I just never have personally met any of the sisters, so I'm keeping an open mind! I'll give an update later on!

This is wonderful news! Fingers crossed that you have a great outcome.

[AZTheta]

Originally Posted by Sciencewoman

That's great news! Remember that in a large house, there are bound to be plenty of women you could click with!

THIS.

Now go, be yourself, relax and trust the process! There are a gazillion reasons for a "disconnect" between a college's Greek Life office and individual chapters that would account for the "not knowing about COB opportunities". The reasons don't matter. It matters that you got a phone call!!! That's what to focus on!!!

I'm very excited for you and am sending positive intentions in the direction of Florida.

[gatorgeneration]

Thank you so much for everyone's kind words!

I spoke to about a dozen girls and met probably close to 25 while out with the ladies. I felt a little awkward while there, but the recruitment chair that invited me helped to introduce me to others. Unfortunately, I just didn't feel a connection with these ladies. I had a feeling this wasn't the chapter for me during formal recruitment, but I wanted to give this opportunity a shot. While nice, they did not seem to be a group of girls I would personally go out and befriend for various reasons. The whole PC 12 was there, along with probably 50 or so additional sisters, and I just couldn't see myself as apart of this particular sorority's PC. No one seemed to have similar interests as me, and many of them had different, I guess, priorities than me. I'm a very observant person, and I usually can trust my gut instinct, and this time it was telling me I just wouldn't fit in here.

During my short recruitment, I did get this feeling of belonging at three houses. Trusting my gut, I decided to send an email to the three chapters thanking them for their hospitality and asking about COB. Two have replied, one saying they would keep me in mind if they happen to have any drops. Keeping my fingers crossed!

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by gatorgeneration

Thank you so much for everyone's kind words!

I spoke to about a dozen girls and met probably close to 25 while out with the ladies. I felt a little awkward while there, but the recruitment chair that invited me helped to introduce me to others. Unfortunately, I just didn't feel a connection with these ladies. I had a feeling this wasn't the chapter for me during formal recruitment, but I wanted to give this opportunity a shot. While nice, they did not seem to be a group of girls I would personally go out and befriend for various reasons. The whole PC 12 was there, along with probably 50 or so additional sisters, and I just couldn't see myself as apart of this particular sorority's PC. No one seemed to have similar interests as me, and many of them had different, I guess, priorities than me. I'm a very observant person, and I usually can trust my gut instinct, and this time it was telling me I just wouldn't fit in here.

During my short recruitment, I did get this feeling of belonging at three houses. Trusting my gut, I decided to send an email to the three chapters thanking them for their hospitality and asking about COB. Two have replied, one saying they would keep me in mind if they happen to have any drops. Keeping my fingers crossed!

You met 25 women and not a single one was interested in the same things as you? What are your hobbies, nuclear physics and 12th century religious art?