Rushing as a Junior (Fall Semester) - Questions!

[rachiexo]

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[rachiexo]

Originally Posted by psusue

Have you let them know that you were planning on going through recruitment? What did they say?

i havent asked anyone yet. should i bring it up? what should i say?

[AOII Angel]

OMG at the pledge class mommy! SMH. You know freshmen are people, too. Some of them even are as mature as juniors and seniors. Do it or don't do it, but don't go into it expecting that everyone in your pledge class will need to come to you, the two year older and wiser woman for advice. My class had women of all age groups, and you'd have never known it. We didn't focus on it. One of my best friends my freshman year was an alum in grad school that I am friends with to this day. Also, I was always really good friends with at least two or three of the new members from each pledge class. I wasn't their mentor or big sister; I was just their friend. This included my senior year with a freshman. You'd miss out on great friendships if age is a limiting factor.

[AXOrushadvisor]

Rachiexo,

Here is my advice to you. Tell your sorority friends (did you loose touch?) that you're interested in going Greek. Don't put them on the spot and ask them if you have a chance. They probably don't know and might not be truthful with you. You having a chance could depend on a 100 different things-grades, do they take juniors, competitiveness of the Greek System, do you have a good/bad reputation, did you steal a boyfriend, are you involved on campus, do you party to much and are you one of those girls? just to name a few. At some schools a lot of juniors go through at others no. It really just depends

Some times you have to take risks. You have nothing to loose. Go through the process but make sure you are prepared. Also, as a junior you need to keep an open mind. That sorority you want may not want you but another one might.

[rachiexo]

Originally Posted by AOII Angel

OMG at the pledge class mommy! SMH. You know freshmen are people, too. Some of them even are as mature as juniors and seniors. Do it or don't do it, but don't go into it expecting that everyone in your pledge class will need to come to you, the two year older and wiser woman for advice. My class had women of all age groups, and you'd have never known it. We didn't focus on it. One of my best friends my freshman year was an alum in grad school that I am friends with to this day. Also, I was always really good friends with at least two or three of the new members from each pledge class. I wasn't their mentor or big sister; I was just their friend. This included my senior year with a freshman. You'd miss out on great friendships if age is a limiting factor.

you are right, now that i think about it, that was kinda dumb. good points^^

[rachiexo]

Originally Posted by AXOrushadvisor

Rachiexo,

Here is my advice to you. Tell your sorority friends (did you loose touch?) that you're interested in going Greek. Don't put them on the spot and ask them if you have a chance. They probably don't know and might not be truthful with you. You having a chance could depend on a 100 different things-grades, do they take juniors, competitiveness of the Greek System, do you have a good/bad reputation, did you steal a boyfriend, are you involved on campus, do you party to much and are you one of those girls? just to name a few. At some schools a lot of juniors go through at others no. It really just depends

Some times you have to take risks. You have nothing to loose. Go through the process but make sure you are prepared. Also, as a junior you need to keep an open mind. That sorority you want may not want you but another one might.

yes i did lose touch with them. but maybe i should get back in touch and just let them know i want to rush this semester and ask them if they take juniors?

[AOII Angel]

It looks like you go to a school with a small greek system. I doubt being a junior would be a death sentence. That, however, does not mean that you would get a bid. There is always a risk of not getting a bid when going through recruitment, but there is a 0% chance if you don't.

[Greek_or_Geek?]

Interesting that she goes to Bloomsburg, the same school as another famous troll. Such a small world!

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by Greek_or_Geek?

Interesting that she goes to Bloomsburg, the same school as another famous troll. Such a small world!

Which famous troll? Is that where Southern said she went?

[Greek_or_Geek?]

Use Bloomsburg for the search term.

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by Greek_or_Geek?

Use Bloomsburg for the search term.

Will do...I'm trying to stretch my work to fill the rest of the day!

[amIblue?]

Originally Posted by rachiexo

another question - is it a bad idea to ask a sorority member if you have a chance? i dont want to go through this and come out without a bid. there are a couple sorority girls i know and am wondering if i should ask them this?

Not unless you want to put them in an awkward situation. Follow the rules and don't approach them about it.

Membership selection is confidential information, but I will say to you that there have been situations where a PNM has friends in a group who want her while there may be other members who don't want the PNM. It sometimes goes the way of the ones who want the PNM. It sometimes goes the way of the ones who don't want the PNM. To me, sorority membership is not worth screwing up a friendship over.

[ree-Xi]

Originally Posted by rachiexo

1 - do you think this is weird or embarrassing? I feel a little awkward about it.

2 - would someone younger than me want me as their little? since, girls younger than me have been accepted into the last pledge class, i more than likely will have a big who is younger than me.

3 - do you have any tips or strategies i could use? i was thinking maybe telling the girls i may be older, but i could be like a pledge class mommy to all the other girls and they can come to me for advice.

4 - are my chances very low?

#3 No. Just no.

Originally Posted by rachiexo

5 - do COB's have a higher chance of getting in the sorority? I have a good idea of what sorority I want since I have been on campus for a couple years already. Also, I have enough credits to COB.

What do you mean by this? Are you saying that your school doesn't allow freshman to go through recruitment, but that since you are a junior, you are eligible? Nobody can tell you if you're more likely to get a bid during COB/informal recruitment. It varies from campus to campus and chapter to chapter.

Originally Posted by rachiexo

i have no friends really at my school now....i used to but they all joined sororities and we all lost touch. i love to party and i want to be a part of a sisterhood. i hope in this case its better late than never. i want to enjoy my last two years here and be part of something. when girls join sororities you can tell they make so many friends and theyre lives are amazing, i want to experience that. so many girls i know said their bids day was the best day of their life!

Are they still your friends? I would suggest telling them that you want to go through recruitment but if you wouldn't or don't otherwise talk to them anymore, they may be wondering why they weren't good enough to keep in touch with in the first place.

Second, you don't need to be Greek to "party" or be part of something. You seem to have an idealized view of membership. It's not all parties and playtime; there is a "business" aspect to membership (formal meetings, dues, service/philanthropy, rituals, etc.). And no, simply being Greek doesn't mean that someone's life is "amazing". People are still people and still have the same life problems and challenges they had before going Greek.

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by Greek_or_Geek?

Use Bloomsburg for the search term.

Ha ha...I totally for got about "i skipped so many classes cuz of that jesus"!

[WCsweet<3]

Originally Posted by AOII Angel

Ha ha...I totally for got about "i skipped so many classes cuz of that jesus"!

I just got to that post.

wow.