Why Rejected from a Sorority? - Page 2

33girl · #1 09-25-2011, 10:40 AM

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Originally Posted by Bamarox

2.References, I don't care what your campus said, most national sororities invite pnm's back for a second round if a reference has been written on their behalf. A reference is a letter of introduction from an alumnae who knows you. It is a formality, but at many schools PNMs are automatically released if they do not have one.

NO NO NO NO NO NO NO. This is just plain flat out not true. Maybe it's the case with your GLO and your school, but it is NOT true many places. A lot of people on here will see they never saw a rec in four years.

Please exit the "Bama bubble" before making assertions that are just wrong.

#2 09-25-2011, 10:58 AM

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Originally Posted by 33girl

NO NO NO NO NO NO NO. This is just plain flat out not true. Maybe it's the case with your GLO and your school, but it is NOT true many places. A lot of people on here will see they never saw a rec in four years.

Please exit the "Bama bubble" before making assertions that are just wrong.

+1. My chapter has never received a rec and I truly doubt receiving one for a PNM would alter any decision we made unless it was written by a woman my whole chapter knew personally/a National Council member.

ree-Xi · #3 09-25-2011, 11:17 AM

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Originally Posted by Libertylove

I wasn't asking it to be fixed now was I?

Perhaps you could understand that (or maybe you didn't read thoroughly) that I got rejected from all five sororities on the first day of rushing, so I am just looking for some constructive criticism. I of course already understand that

1) You wouldn't know what the sororities, this is obvious
2) Other sororities are not allowed to talk about why they would reject me.

I am not moping, I am just wondering about reasons someone would be rejected from a sorority especially in my case when I got rejected to all five in one day.

Can anyone give me an idea on that?

WE. DON'T. KNOW.

There are million possible reasons, but we weren't there.

Perhaps your lack of ability to "get it" is part of the reason? You can ask the same question twenty ways, but if no one can answer it, you're not going to get an answer.

My suggestion is to keep up with the things that you are already doing, and make a name for yourself on campus. Greek life isn't the end-all be-all. Yes, it can be a blast, but like everything else, it's not for everyone.

For example, not everyone who wanted to join our campus newspaper as a reporter were accepted. Not only did you need impeccable writing skills and have a certain GPA, but you needed to be confident and be able to ask questions and get the answers in any situation. Some of the qualities were hard to describe - you needed a certain personality to do that kind of thing. That's about the best I can do in explaining how you can have certain qualities, but you may not be WHAT or WHO they are looking for.

IrishLake · #4 09-24-2011, 05:46 PM

Yep, like everyone else said: we don't know, and even if we didn't we couldn't tell you membership selection processes. best thing for you to do, if you badly want to join a sorority, if to talk to the Greek Life office on your campus and ask about COB or informal recruitment events.

Do you have BO? Did you shower and dress nicely? Did you smile and look the other women in the eye? Did you use proper English and not use swear words? First impressions are everything.

Libertylove · #5 09-24-2011, 05:48 PM

IFC is coed at my school, and I have a completely clean record. I'm not transgendered. I don't even drink.

knight_shadow · #6 09-24-2011, 05:54 PM

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Originally Posted by Libertylove

IFC is coed at my school, and I have a completely clean record. I'm not transgendered. I don't even drink.

What the fuck?

33girl · #7 09-24-2011, 05:57 PM

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Originally Posted by knight_shadow

What the fuck?

I read that and I don't know why, but it immediately turned into a Garth Brooks song. "I'm not transgendered, I don't even drink, I love you so baby, I cain't even think."

Recs are recommendations from alumnae of sororities. They do not = extracurricular activities.

And I don't know how IFC could be coed at your school, unless you have coed groups, but coed groups are usually called fraternities, not sororities.

AZTheta · #8 09-24-2011, 05:48 PM

Yes.

Your needs and interests weren't compatible with theirs.

That is my idea.

greekdee · #9 09-24-2011, 05:51 PM

GPA and lack of recs are common reasons for being cut so early in the process. You answered the GPA question. Titcheu asked a very important one -- did your school require recs?

Libertylove · #10 09-24-2011, 05:51 PM

From ALL five?

Libertylove · #11 09-24-2011, 05:54 PM

Do you mean recs like extra curricular activities? I do ballroom dance, I am part of YAL, Socratic Society, PreLaw Society and starting a radio program with the radio station at my school.

Formal Rush

I signed up in advance

We weren't required to give recommendations. Our application is online so there is no way I could've put them in.

Titchou · #12 09-24-2011, 05:57 PM

You don't understand the question about recs. Recommendations come from alumnae members of the various sororities. They are like letters of introduction. Are they required on YOUR campus? If so, did you have them for all 5 groups? If not, then that's why you were released.

Do upperclassmen typically receive bids on YOUR campus?? That's a very important question which you also haven't answered.

We can't tell you why those groups released you but we can help eliminate some reasons...if you reply to the questions.

Libertylove · #13 09-24-2011, 05:58 PM

Do you have BO? Did you shower and dress nicely? Showered right before hand, wore nice pants and shirt, but wore sneakers because of all the walking

Did you smile and look the other women in the eye? Did you use proper English and not use swear words? Yes I did, I'm very articulate and proper when meeting new people.

My recs - Ballroom dance, YAL, prelaw society, socratic society, and I am starting a radio show with my school's radio program.

33girl · #14 09-24-2011, 05:59 PM

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Originally Posted by Libertylove

My recs - Ballroom dance, YAL, prelaw society, socratic society, and I am starting a radio show with my school's radio program.

Please wait a minute to read the posts before replying. Recs have nothing to do with extracurricular activities.

Titchou · #15 09-24-2011, 06:04 PM

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Originally Posted by Libertylove

Showered right before hand, wore nice pants and shirt, but wore sneakers because of all the walking

OMG! Well, that was a HUGE faux pas! Seriously, you should have brought dress shoes to wear into the parties and just worn the sneakers from house to house. I know what you are going to say but you wanted to know so I am telling you this was a giant mistake. This was equal to a job interview...and I certainly hope you would never wear sneakers to a job interview of any kind.