Post a Picture of Your Fraternity or Sorority House (Part II)

[HawaiiTKE]

Greekchat posters have some serious issues if they think that posting a thread like this is digging a hole.

[SWTXBelle]

Originally Posted by HawaiiTKE

Greekchat posters have some serious issues if they think that posting a thread like this is digging a hole.

It's not just the one thread.

What is really sad is that you can't even SEE the hole you've dug yourself.

Also, I am singular. I am a poster, not posters. Although I am now tempted to use the royal "we".

We are not amused.

eta - And I really, really miss OTW.

[Benzgirl]

Look, your chapter isn't that large. There is a member directory posted online with all of the members' photos, phone numbers and personal information. I don't think any of the regular posters who you think "have some serious issues" will stalk you but there are some trolls who monitor this board who might. Remember, nothing you say on the internet is anonymous. It can come back to bite you in the a$$ some day.

Calling OTW....can you drive over and give this guy the proverbial shovel that SWTXBelle is referring to?

[HawaiiTKE]

What exactly will bite me in the a$$ though? Creating a new thread because the other one is outdated and is extremely long? I guess...


What does my chapter size have to do with any of this? It seems pretty irrelevant. I don't have anything to hide. You make it seem as if I committed some type of crime or something.

[victoriana]

Look, I'm sure you're a great guy who is just trying to get to know people, but you came on this forum making a lot of assumptions and jumping into a lot of threads at once without knowing the dynamic of this forum or perhaps all the facts. We (or at least I) appreciate your enthusiasm, but respect the posters who are older and wiser than you. Not saying you're dumb, but this forum has a lot of members who are much more informed about Greek Life than you could be, since you're recently initiated. So, for future reference, follow these few rules:

1. Don't post on super old threads.
2. Don't try to comment on issues you know nothing about.
3. Don't ask provocative questions which could make people angry at you.
4. Be respectful of everyone, don't attack people.
5. You don't have to comment on every single thread you read. Some things are better left unsaid. That's why we all have a filter.
6. BE RESPECTFUL and you will get respect back, once you prove you're worth it.

I don't presume to be a veteran member, but that's just my two cents.

[HawaiiTKE]

I appreciate the advice. And I'm not trying to be rude but,


1. It's a forum, people post.
2. Plenty of people comment on things they know nothing about. And I have not really commented on anything that I didn't know about.
3. Provocative questions are all subject to personal interpretation. As it seems a lot of people think any and all questions are provocative on this site.
4. I haven't disrespected anyone.
5. Again, it's a forum, people post.
6. I have been respectful.


I don't see how only the 'veteran' posters can talk about issues on this site. If it was that way then nobody would be able to post because not everyone is a veteran. And personally I don't see someone who has spent 10 years posting on a website with thousands of posts as a "veteran".


This forum seems dead. I just like reading and placing my opinion on threads. Whether or not people don't like it is up to them. I'm not trying to offend anyone. I'm just browsing the forum and engage in some conversations about Greek Life. It's not as if my intentions are to personally attack a certain group or anything.


Again, it's all based on the interpretations of readers I guess. Oh well...

[HawaiiTKE]

Because I made a thread about rivals? I don't see any harm in that. Plenty of organizations compete with other ones. Other than that I don't see any particular thread that might dig myself into a hole.

[HawaiiTKE]

Again, I appreciate the advice but I SERIOUSLY don't see anything wrong with anything I have done on this forum. Maybe people are mad because I post a lot ? But then again is that really a legitimate reason to constantly throw negative comments my way? I don't really think so.

[SWTXBelle]

Here's the deal - while it may be true that "plenty of people comment on things they know nothing about" on this site they WILL be called on it. So post away, but don't whine when other people comment on what you chose to post. Also, "respectful" is subject to debate - when many posters tell you that you have not been respectful perhaps you should step back and reconsider. Stating that I must have "issues" because of the good advice I gave you? Disrespectful. I didn't say "STFU" - I suggested you stop digging yourself in a hole, advice that you chose to ignore as you dig it deeper and deeper.


eta - If you are going to start a thread on posting pictures of fraternity and sorority houses, it would be a good idea to have a picture with which to start the thread.

[victoriana]

I'm sorry if you feel that your interpretations were misinterpreted. It's not so much that we don't like your opinions, it's that we don't like your attitude. I disagree with the idea that you have been completely respectful. Granted, you started out that way, but as soon as you felt attacked, you became defensive and mean. If you look at some of the things you have said in your posts, they are not all nice.

You said this to a user named Barbie's_Rush: "did someone touch you when you were younger? you seem to be extremely angry with life. every post you make is negative. you're probably some ugly fat white girl who hates herself. yeah, definately, that's it." There are SO many things wrong with saying this to someone! You did not need to call someone fat, ugly and angry. You did not need to ask if someone was sexually abused as a child. What if they were? Honestly, that is just completely inappropriate. I understand that you were frustrated, but saying things like this, in a public forum, while representing your fraternity are not okay.

[HawaiiTKE]

One thing with one person and everyone on this forum is on my case. Wow. Haha. The only reason I responded that way was because every post I made she followed and commented negatively and sarcastically. But I guess it was uncalled for in a way. When everyone is on your case I think you have a right to get defensive. But I get what you're saying.


I just wanted to see houses of fraternities and sororities. Our chapter doesn't have a house out here in Hawaii which is why I didn't post one. Greek Life is pretty much non-existent out here (the schools don't recognize fraternities and sororities as part of the school) and the housing is ridiculously expensive. If I had a picture to post I would. I apologize.

[victoriana]

I appreciate your effort to understand our perspective, but you should be apologizing to the people you specifically offended. I know trying not to get defensive is hard, but it's a good thing to work. As for the housing topic, same here! I can imagine that land in Hawaii is at a premium. Do you guys have a floor or a suite in a dorm or something?

[HawaiiTKE]

We've tried to get the school to assign our fraternity a floor on the dorms but they wouldn't give it to us. We even tried just getting a floor for just greeks as a whole but it hasn't happened.


We have an unofficial house where a few of our members stay but it's nothing compared to the houses that people post pictures of on this site.

But YES! Land out here is extremely expensive and limited.

[victoriana]

Well I guess you do what you can. It's good that you have an unofficial house. Maybe you could try to get a group of of your brothers to live on the same floor in the same dorm, without making it "official" with the university. Just all sign up as room mates and request rooms next to each other. At least you guys have gorgeous beaches and lots of fun activities to do.

[HawaiiTKE]

Yeah that would also be hard because our school has a lottery system for housing. So everyone chooses a number. The highest numbers get to choose their dorms first. So it would be pretty hard or we'd have to be very lucky for that to happen.


We are improving out here though in terms of numbers. We doubled in size over the past year which is going to help recruitment out a lot next semester during rush. I'm excited because it's going to be my first rush. lol.