Marriage Preparation

[DubaiSis]

We didn't go through any organized counseling, but I think it is critical to discuss point blank details like kids/no kids/how many/when? If one of you gets offered a great job in a far away place, what will you do? What if it's you and not him? How much is an acceptable amount of money to spend without consulting the other? How much debt do you each have right now? Are your parents/siblings/cousins/friends allowed to live with you at some point in the future? For how long? TV in the bedroom or not?

Some of the really important questions can't be anticipated, but while you're wildly in love and utterly tolerant, you should be covering all the uncomfortable questions you can come up with.

I refused to get married in the church (to my mother, not my husband) so we weren't required to go through any of this stuff, but I've heard enough about pre-Cana that I thought we'd go through as many issues as I could come up with. That's the one part that seemed valuable to me.

[sceniczip]

Originally Posted by flirt5721

I am in the process of doing all the marriage preparation classes to get married. I was just wondering what type of preparation everyone else did.

Here in Phoenix (for the Catholic church) we have the following steps:
1) Meet with your Pastor
2) Marriage Preparation Inventory aka FOCUS (We took our and the church office lost it. Now we have to go do it again)
3) Married Life Skills Workshop
4) God's Plan for a Joy-Filled Marriage
5) Natural Family Planning Instructions
6) Sacraments of Reconciliation
7) Final Meeting with your Pastor

This makes me feel like I need to get my job just to plan/get ready for my sometime in the way distant future wedding!

BF's parents actually help out at the pre-cana weekends at their church. Apparently there was a woman who was just atrocious last weekend, completely rude, etc...