Preference Invites/ Bids

[Alumiyum]

Originally Posted by bellaxlocaa

Thank you so much, ladies!! I'm still kinda confused tho. So if I got a preference ceremony invite from sorority ABC but not one from sorority XYZ, I could still put sorority XYZ on my bid list?

The bid list is the list the sororities have. Each sorority has their own bid list. You will just list ABC.

[DeltaBetaBaby]

You can, but why would you? You want to commit yourself to a chapter that didn't invite you to pref?

I can't speak for how every chapter prepares a bid list, but the odds are good that every girl they invited to pref would appear higher than you on their bid list.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by bellaxlocaa

Thank you so much, ladies!! I'm still kinda confused tho. So if I got a preference ceremony invite from sorority ABC but not one from sorority XYZ, I could still put sorority XYZ on my bid list?

As Alumiyum's post says, the sororities are the ones with the bid list. What you will have is a bid card.

You can put XYZ on your card if you really want to, but your chance of getting a bid from them is very very very very very very very very very very very very very very very very small.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

You can, but why would you? You want to commit yourself to a chapter that didn't invite you to pref?

I can't speak for how every chapter prepares a bid list, but the odds are good that every girl they invited to pref would appear higher than you on their bid list.

They may not have invited her because they had to release a higher percentage of women than most other groups, not because they dislike her. I'm not trying to blow sunshine, but with RFM it sometimes is the truth.

She can list XYZ and ABC (and for that mattter PQR if she feels like it and has 3 slots), but if she hates ABC so much that she doesn't want to list them, she shouldn't. Any PNM has the right to list any sorority on her bid card. She may screw herself out of a bid, but it honestly is her prerogative.

[Drolefille]

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

You can, but why would you? You want to commit yourself to a chapter that didn't invite you to pref?

I can't speak for how every chapter prepares a bid list, but the odds are good that every girl they invited to pref would appear higher than you on their bid list.

But if she was released, she will not get a bid from them (barring something weird and incredibly unusual). If she cut them, she could be on their bid list, but otherwise, she's not there.

So add a few (hundred) more "verys" on your list.

[violetpretty]

Depending on the software used, listing a chapter that did not invite you to pref may not even be an option. You may just have to drop out. But seriously, XYZ cut you. Maybe you should focus on the chapter(s) that WANTED you.

[gatordeltapgh]

Just an FYI...The new MRABA script states that you can only list on your MRABA chapters that you actually attended preference events.

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by 33girl

They may not have invited her because they had to release a higher percentage of women than most other groups, not because they dislike her. I'm not trying to blow sunshine, but with RFM it sometimes is the truth.

She can list XYZ and ABC (and for that mattter PQR if she feels like it and has 3 slots), but if she hates ABC so much that she doesn't want to list them, she shouldn't. Any PNM has the right to list any sorority on her bid card. She may screw herself out of a bid, but it honestly is her prerogative.

Sure, they may like her. I am questioning how she knows if she likes them. At most schools, prior to pref, you spend a grand total of about two hours with a chapter in the preliminary rounds.

[bellaxlocaa]

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

Sure, they may like her. I am questioning how she knows if she likes them. At most schools, prior to pref, you spend a grand total of about two hours with a chapter in the preliminary rounds.

What you said makes no sense. Obviously I would know if I liked them or not, because why else would I want to put them on the bid... And to clear any confusion that everyone clearly has, my roommate is in the sorority and she told me that they really liked me. There were a lot of girls there during rush week, so that could poss be why I didn't get a pref invite. Who knows. Whatev, I'm gonna rush again during formal rush in the spring and see what happens.

Anyways, thanks for the responds, ladies.

[Barbie's_Rush]

Originally Posted by bellaxlocaa

What you said makes no sense. Obviously I would know if I liked them or not, because why else would I want to put them on the bid... And to clear any confusion that everyone clearly has, my roommate is in the sorority and she told me that they really liked me. There were a lot of girls there during rush week, so that could poss be why I didn't get a pref invite. Who knows. Whatev, I'm gonna rush again during formal rush in the spring and see what happens.

Anyways, thanks for the responds, ladies.

And they just weren't that into you. Now you're starting to sound like a sorority stalker.

[violetpretty]

Originally Posted by bellaxlocaa

Whatev, I'm gonna rush again during formal rush in the spring and see what happens.

Wait a tick. Does your school have two formal recruitments per year? Was this formal or informal recruitment?

[IrishLake]

Originally Posted by bellaxlocaa

And to clear any confusion that everyone clearly has, my roommate is in the sorority and she told me that they really liked me.

Perhaps she just didn't want to hurt your feelings.

[bellaxlocaa]

Originally Posted by Barbie's_Rush

And they just weren't that into you. Now you're starting to sound like a sorority stalker.

hahahah obvs, because that's my life goal *rolls eyes*

Originally Posted by violetpretty

Wait a tick. Does your school have two formal recruitments per year? Was this formal or informal recruitment?

we have a formal one in the spring, and an informal one in the fall.

Originally Posted by IrishLake

Perhaps she just didn't want to hurt your feelings.

perhaps, but i highly doubt it since she was the one who told me out of the blue.


I mean honestly I'm gonna do what I wanna do, which is to rush again in the spring. I just wanted answers to my questions.

[Tulip86]

Originally Posted by bellaxlocaa

hahahah obvs, because that's my life goal *rolls eyes*


we have a formal one in the spring, and an informal one in the fall.


perhaps, but i highly doubt it since she was the one who told me out of the blue.


I mean honestly I'm gonna do what I wanna do, which is to rush again in the spring. I just wanted answers to my questions.

wow. just wow.

[Barbie's_Rush]

Originally Posted by bellaxlocaa

hahahah obvs, because that's my life goal *rolls eyes*


we have a formal one in the spring, and an informal one in the fall.


perhaps, but i highly doubt it since she was the one who told me out of the blue.


I mean honestly I'm gonna do what I wanna do, which is to rush again in the spring. I just wanted answers to my questions.

It obviously is that important to you since you were desperate enough to put the name of a sorority that didn't even think enough of you to invite you to their preference party. But good luck with that formal recruitment.