A little disappointed - Page 2

Parfait · #1 08-29-2010, 07:47 PM

I'm really glad that I went to the info session, even though I went alone. Not many people showed up, but it was just a "a bit about Greek life" type thing.
I really liked how honest they were at the meeting about grades, bids, being released or withdrawing, alcohol, what the parties were like, and stereotypes.

So I guess we'll just see how it goes. =) I'm pretty excited for it, I love meeting people. Hopefully they'll see my roommate and I are not the same person although I'd like to remain friends.

Kansas City · #2 09-03-2010, 10:51 AM

Don't worry Parfait. Get to know the chapters and let them get to know you. They will see your enthuaism and will take note of your roommate's lack of such. The chapter's know that you are two seperate people. I'm certain you will have a very positive experience once you actually get a full weekend on campus and get to know people outside of your residence hall and classes. Recruitment is the best way to meet new people and get involved in the university community and it all starts with your Gamma Chi group. Thoes ladies will be going through the same thing you are at the same time and will have many of the same fears, excitements and disapointments no matter the outcome of recruitment. Your roommate, especially if you were randomly placed, obviously will not have the same feelings towards activities as you so it's time to seek out others that have similar likes and dislikes. Good luck in finding your home. I hopeto hear how things turn out for you. ; )

Parfait · #3 09-03-2010, 03:39 PM

Thank you, the replies have all been great. =)

Unfortunately I'm quite ill right now so my social life has been put on hold. I was really looking forward to the game yesterday but was just too sick. It does worry me a bit for grades, although I went to the campus health center and got a note saying I was sicker than a dog and was told I'm allowed back to class until Tuesday at the earliest. I called my doctor's office at home who basically said the same thing. Thankfully it's a three day weekend so I'm missing just one day of each class.
Hopefully I'll recover by the time recruitment starts.

My roommate and I are VERY different people, I disagree with a lot that she says, but we keep it civil. In her opinion sororities would take her in a heartbeat but she wants nothing to do with such stuck-up people, which is kind of odd. :S I dunno, she brings it up in the middle of a conversation about something completely different. She's a bit stalker-ish and an odd duck, but overall she's nice.

KDMafia · #4 09-03-2010, 04:10 PM

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In her opinion sororities would take her in a heartbeat but she wants nothing to do with such stuck-up people, which is kind of odd. :S .

I remember when my freshman year roommate decided to rush after talking to her sister. My roommate had the same view of being "stuck-up" etc of sorority women. Her sister was older and in Sigma Kappa. I remember one night her talking to her sister and she was telling her sister about how she would never rush, blah blah blah, and her sister said "so you think you're too good for a sorority?" and my roommate's response was "No, you guys think you're too good for the rest of us." And her sister responded, You're the one judging 50 girls without getting to know them" . My roommate tossed that around in her head and eventually decided to go through recruitment.

I always think about that when I hear freshman girls repeating the "stuck-up" line or girls that get cut from a top house and drop out because sorority girls are "petty." Judgement goes both ways, but at least the sorority women are willing to get to know any girl who's interested. Can't say the same about some PNMs.

ProudandTrue · #5 09-04-2010, 01:12 PM

Parfait, I am glad to hear that you decided to attend the informational meetings about Greek life at your school. It is somewhat intimidating to do something like that alone, but you did it. It sounds like you are an independent and motivated young woman, and frankly, those are the very qualities that many Greek organizations are looking for in their new members. Good luck with recruitment, and I hope that you feel better enough to truly enjoy this once-in-lifetime experience.

AnotherKD · #6 09-04-2010, 04:33 PM

Don't worry- you'll be fine! You won't get along with everyone you meet, no matter how pleasant you try to be- something I learned throughout college and the working world. Hell, I didn't get along with my roommate 1st semester of college and was lucky enough to move into the sorority house for the second semester, taking someone's place who was going abroad. Let it roll off your back and spend time with others who appreciate your personality and what you do!

Parfait · #7 09-04-2010, 07:40 PM

It's always nice (in a twisted way) to hear others don't get along swell with their roommates.
I know it happens that people hate the roommate, don't quite mesh well, or have some sort of conflict, but my friends (sadly at other schools) all LOVE their roommates. I like mine well enough, but I don't see us being best friends or even good friends.

agzg · #8 09-04-2010, 07:52 PM

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Originally Posted by Parfait

It's always nice (in a twisted way) to hear others don't get along swell with their roommates.
I know it happens that people hate the roommate, don't quite mesh well, or have some sort of conflict, but my friends (sadly at other schools) all LOVE their roommates. I like mine well enough, but I don't see us being best friends or even good friends.

Totally normal. I didn't LOVE a roommate until I got to start choosing them myself.

honeychile · #9 09-04-2010, 09:16 PM

Parfait, when I rushed (yeah, I wasn't "recruited"), NOBODY in my lunch bunch was the least bit interested in going greek - even the ones who were legacies! The women in my Rho Chi group (especially 3 I had met a parties) became some of the closest friends I've ever had.

When I was a junior, there was a debate held on greek v. independent, and I'll repeat here what I said then: (at least at my school) It was harder to get to know people who weren't greek than those who were - there was no vested interest in others on campus & in the college itself among independents.

Don't worry about your roomie - I've only known one person who had the same roommate for four years!

Parfait · #10 09-04-2010, 10:02 PM

I will say one positive thing since I've been quite boohoo about it on the thread: We like the same room temperature. Thank goodness, it would be very uncomfortable for one or both of us if we didn't.

Does anyone have any absolutely AWFUL roommate stories? Certainly people have dealt with insane people! Mine is just somewhat annoying but nice, it could be much worse.

33girl · #11 09-04-2010, 10:12 PM

My first roommate was the polar opposite of me, as you could tell by the statue of the Virgin Mary on her side of the room and the shirtless Jim Morrison poster on my side.

She wasn't a bad person, we were just utterly mismatched. I think the best thing is to find a roomie who you're congenial with, but not BEST friends with. All the best-friend roomies I saw ended up at each others' throats.

OHNOITSJESS · #12 09-04-2010, 10:23 PM

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Does anyone have any absolutely AWFUL roommate stories? Certainly people have dealt with insane people! Mine is just somewhat annoying but nice, it could be much worse.

I lived in a 4 person suite, and 2 of my roommates were bffs before moving in. One of those two got pregnant.... (first week of classes... i guess she missed her bf

) So she was pregnant the whole time i lived with her (while her bff would sleepover at her boyfriends house.... every night). There were several instances where pregnant girl and bf would be really loud (laughing, talking, doing the things that got them in trouble in the first place) at really early hours. I also walked out of my room to find him sitting in my room in his boxers.... and just the boxers

(this was pretty much a weekly thing :/)