Big girl does recruitment~

I think one would need to be blind to see how a big waist line can hold someone back from getting into a sorority. While lurking I found a thread that talked about how overweight girls get cut heavily during recruitment. I figured mentioning it would spark some conversation. =)

I know at my school, a few sororities pride on not really discriminating on looks. They focus on if you're a good fit for a sisterhood or not. In all honestly, the couple of sororities that do that, do VERY well all round.


At my college a few sororities focus less on the 'looks.' In all honesty, they do VERY well with GPA, volunteering and have an amazing bond. I think you just need to find the house that best fits you. I don't think you'd want to be in a sisterhood that would be sort of fake. Rush and find a good fit.

[IrishLake]

Men, you never understand

Originally Posted by IrishLake

Men, you never understand

So true! Sure it's a little off from a typical introduction thread- but it makes the ensuing conversation that much better!

EDIT
I found this archive while searching about upperclassmen quotas: http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/ar...p/t-96742.html

It sounds like, because I'm from a school with an upperclassman quota, I won't be cut purely for being a junior? Perhaps I am interpreting this wrong?

[Blue Skies]

Originally Posted by aylagator

It sounds like, because I'm from a school with an upperclassman quota, I won't be cut purely for being a junior? Perhaps I am interpreting this wrong?

You can still be cut for being a junior. All things being equal, chapters tend to prefer freshman because they will have more years available to devote to the chapter. Some chapters may elect to take only freshman pledge classes.

But having a separate quota for upperclassman does give you a better chance of getting a bid.

It's impossible to predict how your recruitment will go. Some juniors have dream recruitments. OTOH, don't be surprised if you hit a few more bumps in the recruitment road than your freshman compatriots. Just keep an open mind to all the chapters and enjoy your parties. Don't take the cuts personally. Just keep your chin up and keep at it. Everything will sort itself out in the end.

[summer_gphib]

A lot of it will depend on the university that you are going to as well. The more competative the Greek system the more likely you will be cut for ANY reason, and no one here or there will tell you why. The selection process is different for each group, and can be different for each chapter within a group. Remember to be geniune and friendly, and don't judge the groups until you get to know them. Back a million years ago when I was an active, I would advise girls to go through just to meet people. If you got a bid, great, if not, great. You could end up meeting a lot of friends and making contacts just through the experience.

You seem to have a good head on your shoulders, but remember that getting into a sorority is not everything. It doesn't define you and shouldn't be a defining factor on your self worth either. If you get a bid or if you don't, get involved in other groups, too. Join a service organization or other clubs and meet people, Greek and Non-Greek. There is so much to the college experience, just remember that being Greek is only one part of the fraction!

And good luck! I hope you continue to post on this board.

[DaemonSeid]

But...you went though that big exposition about all of this school credit you have and then end it with ...

"I've never let my size 16 jeans hold me back from doing anything else before, and I'm not going to let them start controlling my life now."

SERIOUSLY?


sigh.

If they aint feeding financing or fucking you why worry?
How is getting into a sorority and your size going to dictate your life?

I just don't get it.

Daemon- I would have said the same thing if I had a disability. It's a part of who I am. It's not attractive to most people. You might think women don't care how other women look, but the sad truth is that they do. This is the biggest (haha- pun intended) thing holding me back from joining a sorority.

Summer- I love your advice. That is exactly how I'm looking at this, a chance to meet people. I've been living in the dorms this summer while completing a summer course and I've met barely anyone. Even if I don't get accepted into a sorority, I'm going to have a fun week getting to know a bunch of girls, who I can hopefully stay friends with after recruitment ends. =)

[DaemonSeid]

Originally Posted by aylagator

Daemon- I would have said the same thing if I had a disability. It's a part of who I am. It's not attractive to most people. You might think women don't care how other women look, but the sad truth is that they do. This is the biggest (haha- pun intended) thing holding me back from joining a sorority.

Summer- I love your advice. That is exactly how I'm looking at this, a chance to meet people. I've been living in the dorms this summer while completing a summer course and I've met barely anyone. Even if I don't get accepted into a sorority, I'm going to have a fun week getting to know a bunch of girls, who I can hopefully stay friends with after recruitment ends. =)

But do YOU care how you look are you happy with you in the morning when you look in the mirror?

I have horrible self esteem, so no. I wish I could say yes, I wish I could think I'm beautiful. But deep down I don't see myself that way. I know I have other redeeming qualities though, those are what keep me going. =)

[UFgatorLove]

Your best asset in Recruitment is that you believe in who you are as a person and have faith and confidence in yourself. Self esteem is also important and comes along with these things. Just take the time until you take your first step into Recruitment making sure you are confident in yourself!

Hope that helps, I know it sounds silly, but it makes you a stronger woman.

[preciousjeni]

Originally Posted by aylagator

I have horrible self esteem, so no.

Unfortunate

[qbt1990]

Originally Posted by preciousjeni

Unfortunate

agreed! If you hate it, either learn to love it or change it Life's too short

[preciousjeni]

Originally Posted by qbt1990

agreed! If you hate it, either learn to love it or change it Life's too short

In this case, I doubt her self-esteem would improve if she lost weight. If you're not self-assured in any stage of life, it's doubtful you would be in any other. I know women who are quite literally twice as big as the OP who are DIVAs. Granted, they're all older, professional women.

[DaemonSeid]

Quite frankly...if you have horrible self esteem, then you need to see someone professional and not expect GC to help you work through it.

This is the last place you want to come to and drop your info like this and do not be surprised if others come behind me and tell you the same.