I'm gonna beat her .....

[AKAtude]

Originally posted by novella000
The key to discipline in my own limited experience is to START EARLY! That way a swift LOOK or motherly growl works well into the older years...

This is soooo true! One of my cousins and her husband have an 11 year old little girl going on 31. But my cousin doesn't have to put a hand on her. Her voice and look is enough. My sister was like, dang, teach me how you do that!

[tickledpink]

I know I've stated this before when we've talked about it, but, yes, I am beating that behind!

We started early as far as disciplining our children. You have to get a hold of them early. When they were very young, I was one of those "beating in public" (more of a pop, "whoopings" occured in the bathroom) moms that some of you dread. It let my children know, if you show off in public, I'm getting you in public. I remember once, my son had the audacity to show off in front of a policeman. Hmmmmmm. He got "popped" right in front of him, no questions asked. I see alot of manipuative children that know bad behavior embarrasses the parent show off in public on purpose. They worry about sufferring the concequences later. Now that my children are older, all I have to do is look at them and that ends the madness in public before it begins.

[novella000]

Originally posted by AKAtude


This is soooo true! One of my cousins and her husband have an 11 year old little girl going on 31. But my cousin doesn't have to put a hand on her. Her voice and look is enough. My sister was like, dang, teach me how you do that!

I bet your cousin does/used to do a lot of talking with her discipline. Kids HAVE TO understand what the heck is wrong with what they did, or ANY form of discipline will eventually be unsuccessful.

And you know the thing about it is that a lot of people, well - some of my friends and acquaintences, believe that discipline should began after kids start walking... SOOOOOO untrue! Babies and infants are wayyyyy more capable of learning/understanding than most adults give them credit for.

I remember when my son was three months old -- he had a thing (as most babies do) for chewing earrings and necklaces. Of course I did not spank him -- or really get all of that stern with him... But there was a DEFNINITE change in tone when I told him that he should stop what he was doing.
[Certain tones & facial expressions]= [A NO-NO]
I would then give him something else to play with, and let him see a more pleased look and hear a sweeter tone. He didn't fully understand much except for my tone and facial expression, but it payed off. As he got older and more defiant (as children do) I would incoporate corpoal punishment, as needed. But that's rare. I will continue to work it this way, because it has been working so far. I think it really pays off if you discipline and talk to your children from the cradle up.

[Dexter]

I spank my son. Although that's not my preferred punishment in every situation, I get him when he needs to get got! One thing that I don't do is spank him when I'm angry. That's how Children get hurt.

[soulsearchin]

i don't have children...but i do not believe in corporal punishment...for any reason...whatsoever...i believe that the body is sacred...and as such...even a child should not be brutalized...

"we"...blacks...i believe...tend to jump on the "get that ass" bandwagon when a child does something wrong because "we" have been conditioned...as a byproduct of slavery...to believe that corporal punishment is THE answer to correcting a childs "bad" behavior...when in reality there are a plethora of disciplinary options that just take a little more effort...attention...care...time...and PATIENCE...on the part of parents...and those with the authority to guide a child...

some may say...well you don't have children so how would you know...i've been around enough children to know that they will have much more respect for you...listen to you...for real...and trust and respect you...if you respect them as individuals...and not demolish their little temples...you be an example to your child...correct them right when they do something "wrong"...and not build up anger towards your child to a point where your "only" corrective alternative is to "beat they ass"...then everything should be cool...they are just as much individuals as we are as adults...and as such...no one method will work for all children...but corporal punishment should not be on your top five choices of "corrective" methods...

all corporal punishment does is create fear and docileness...like a slave...the child doesn't do "it"...not because they have genuinely comprehended why they shouldn't do whatever it is they did...but because they fear the punishment...the point of correcting a child is learning that they shouldn't do what ever they did and why...not learning to fear their parent or getting "whooped"...

check out this link http://www.corpun.com/
peace and blessings...

[CrimsonTide4]

As I read Tickled Pink, I remembered somethings. My mom was one of those people who disciplined from the getty up. I never got whooped in public instead she would say, "Wait til we get home, girl." That used to make me OOOO-TAY .

A few years ago, my former cousin was out at the mall with her 3 kids and her youngest would not stop cutting up. They were in a jewelry store and she told him "Little Man stop!" (names have been changed to protect the innocent ). So he kept running through the store. She finally pulled off her belt, he fell to his knees and prayed, "Jesus save me." His mom and the jewelry store people fell out cracking up. BTW, he did get the whooping -- at home though.

Your kids have to know from getty up who is the parent and who is the child. As a teacher, I OFTEN have to remind my students who is in charge and who is still a child.

[ClassyLady]

Originally posted by AKAtude


I remember kids that got sent outside to pick their own switch! LOL. Those were the days.

I was one of those children. My grandmother would send me outside to pick my switch. I would try to spend as much time as I could getting it or pick a tiny switch. That would only get me beat worse. Finally, one Saturday night, an old drunk man from around the corner peed on that bush. I was so happy. That old bush dried up and died.

Back to the topic. I got my little behind torn up on quite a few occasions. I turned out to be a productive member of society. When and if I have children, I will do the same thing to them, not with switches though. Spanking should be used a final resort.

Professor, I have a neice too. She is twelve going on twenty. Her figure is changing and her little mouth is getting very fresh. I'm the nice aunt who spoils the kids, so she thinks that she can get smart with everyone and run to me to protect her. Somebody done told her wrong!!! Yeah, she can get new clothes when she does well in school, but disrespect will not be tolerated. I'll probably be the one to punish her hardest for acting up.

[Enforcer00]

I was one of those who got a spanking while growing up. My mom stopped doing it after a while cause I learned my lesson at an early age. My younger sister on the other hand was a different story entirely. I don't remember ever acting up in public I was too afraid of what my mother might do to me right then and there. My father never spanked me cause he had the LOOK. I am 23 now and to this day it still scares me. He even did it to our puppy and it stopped right in its tracks. I just wanna know how you learn to do that.

When I eventually do have kids, yes they will be spanked but hopefully it won't be often. It'll be just my luck to have some bad-behind kids.