-sniffles- My boyfriend dumped me. In a email. -sniffles again-

[aggieAXO]

I have another horrible story-though it does not involve me, but my friend (I don't know about ya'll but hearing other peolple talk about their break-up and boy problems helps me feel not so alone when it happens to me)

Anyways:

My friend had just graduated from veterinary school and moved to Austin-the year was 97. During our 4th year of vet. school she started dating a radioloist resident (he is one of the radiologist on the emerg. vets animal planet show-but I will not reveal his name cause I am too nice). In May upon graduation he asked her to marry him and of course she said yes. They planned to marry in May of 98-1 year later. He finished his residency and moved to Colorado and again she moved to Austin. So, in early May of 98 she quit her job, called the moving company and packed her bags. A week before she was going up to Colarado to be with him, he sent her a letter breaking it off (very very devastating-what is even worse is she read the letter in the Wal-Mart parking lot). A few months later we found out that not only was he engaged but he had a child on the way. It took awhile, but my friend made it through this. It made her stronger and not to mention wiser (this guy had been divorced 2X already-possible pattern?) The most important thing is to have your friends around (esp. single friends-at least for me) YOU WILL GET THROUGH THIS!!!

K

[aggieAXO]

oops-spleeld Colorado wrong

[The1calledTKE]

Fratenity guys are good but they are just like GDI's but much cooler. Just go talk to the quiet one they will be the ones treating you good. My gf got me that way

[GmuTeke]

Originally posted by Dejajeva
What i NEED is a hot frat boy, right gals??
-grins-

nah, thats not what you need. you need a fraternity MAN, who has grown and matured through the years, who isn't afraid to tell you how he feels, and when things aren't working out, isnt afraid to break it off in person (though he will break it off in a space free of heavy blunt objects, we didnt say he was a stupid fraternity man), and of course, a man who washes his hands every time he uses the restroom.

they are out there. honest.

[Dejajeva]

You taken?

hmmm.

-smiles-
I actually THOUGHT i had a real fraternity man. Scott's an Alum of Sig ep.

-sighs-

Oh well.

[DeltaBetaBaby]

So my party had an impromptu last Thursday, and I asked my man Monday night if he would go (I always know about these things in advance). He said yes, and that was the last time I ever heard from him. Just like that, stopped returning calls, etc.

At first, I was worried about him. I really thought something must have happened when I didn't hear from him. My fears were relieved, though, when a sister informed me that he hit on her in the bar Wednesday night. At least I knew he was still alive and kicking.

I went to the impromptu alone, and it ended up turning out pretty well for me. Lots of men had been invited, so it wasn't really a date function because some girl invited the entire TKE house. So as it happens, I met a pretty nice boy.

So I traded in a sketchy grad student for a quality fraternity man. Funny how those things work out.

[Dejajeva]

whoo hoo.
Ugh, seriously.

I'm gonna go nun.

Unless billy optimist works out.
-grins-

[aephi alum]

DGPhoney, I don't mind you saying that about my "evil ex" at all He was worse than scum - but he's been out of my life for years, and if he knows what's good for him he'll stay out of my life

James, my school wasn't very big, and he and I were in the same dept, so we did cross paths in the halls from time to time... And a few months later, both he and I got invited to our mutual friend's wedding, and I took my new boyfriend... oh, the look on my ex's face every time I danced with the new BF. You know, like one of those Mastercard ads: "New dress, $100. Strappy sandals, $30. Manicure, $15. The look on the ex's face: Priceless." (Yes, I know... I'm mean... )

Dejajeva and zntke711, ironically enough, my "evil ex" was in 2 fraternities - a social one and a service one - and my husband is a GDI! Come to think of it, everyone I ever dated in college was in a fraternity, except for my husband. Ah well... funny how things work out, indeed

[Salience]

Originally posted by Dejajeva
whoo hoo.
Ugh, seriously.

I'm gonna go nun.

I feel you, really I do. I just had to tell my mom not to expect this sibling to walk down the aisle. She says I'm just going through that "almost 30" phase, but I'm thinking I won't get hitched. But you know what? You ARE young, on a campus full of men. Be glad you got rid of that baggage early in your life. I wasted almost two years with my college boyfriend. When all I had was Senior Year left to date, I was pissed at all the missed opportunities!

My horror story:

Dating a then-first-year law student, long distance. Did the "starting not to call so much" thing, the "call her while I'm drunk over a woman's house" thing, all the while saying we're together. I buy a non-refundable plane ticket to meet him for a special weekend. 10 days before I'm supposed to go, he e-mails me he's not coming, and he needs to devote time to law school, "so let's just take it down to a friendship level." I replied that that so-and-so needed to cough up for my ticket which he insisted I get. Didn't hear from him for over 6 months. I got the "here's all your stuff" package in the mail.

The kicker? There was a pair of pants that weren't mine in the box.

[Dejajeva]

Omg.

Now I feel like a complete idiot b/c of the stuff Scott did to me! I had it easy compared to you guys!

I'm seriously going through withdrawl though. We get our bids monday and all this stuff, including last tuesday's events still fresh in my mind. It's so much all to deal with and I really miss my boyfriend.

-sighs-

I miss him a lot, Guys.

[Salience]

And you will for a while, and that's okay. Just don't mope too long!

[AlphaSigLana]

In June my boyfriend dumped me by email. I'm sure if you searched you could find it in the chit chat section. I have been hanging out with his brothers lately and they have treated me soooo nice. No one knew he dumped me by email. One of his brothers was going ot have a talk with him- he asked me why we broke up and I was like good question. I have found a new guy, but that is another long story. I decided I am no longer angry because my ex could have waited to break up with me when school started- which was already stressful, he could have waited until we dated a long time which would have sucked bc the longer you are together the more effort you put into a relationship. I decided I amthankful he dumped me when he did becuase it prevented me from wasting any of my time. Of course he could have done it in a more mature way, but maybe he was scared. One brother told me that he knew Kenny did not want to hurt me. So live and learn. I forgive my ex and i am happier because of it.

While I do sympathize with you and I do agree, breaking up via email (and breaking up for that matter) does suck, I just find it interesting how you went from devastated one day to worked up about Billy the next day.

[TigerGirl52]

Originally posted by OohTeenyWahine
While I do sympathize with you and I do agree, breaking up via email (and breaking up for that matter) does suck, I just find it interesting how you went from devastated one day to worked up about Billy the next day.

It's funny if you read the posts over and over. Not too be rude because I love Billy but COME ON!!!!!!!!! But hey...whatever floats your boat.

Allison

[Dejajeva]

Okay, Teenieweeniewhiney person. The posts about billy were JOKES. It was a JOKE. JOKES... I live in Indiana and obviously my LAST long distance didn't work out.

I'm not really sure why this seems to bother you so damn much. I'm very upset and hurt, so I use laughter and fun and being with friends to help ease the pain. Like I'd really hook up with Billy. (not that billy isn't an AMAZING guy)

I mean, COME ON.

It was obviously for fun. I mean, our first date was on the academic forum. How serious can you take that?????

ME haplessly flirting with a guy I've never seen or met on GC should be the least of your problems.

Please lighten up.

Jess