Pan-Hellenic Council Regrets To Inform You...

[carnation]

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

Really? You give specific reasons? Like, "Sorry, no membership for you, you have BO!"?

-rolling hysterically on the floor at the idea of putting this in a letter--

[tld221]

Originally Posted by carnation

-rolling hysterically on the floor at the idea of putting this in a letter--

(only speaking for Sigma here) IIRC, we will send an interested member a letter if they are not selected for membership. If specific reasons are listed, i don't know. I would hope that if an interest made it as far as an interview, they wouldn't be the type that would receive such letter.

But we know stuff happens...

[ladygreek]

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

Really? You give specific reasons? Like, "Sorry, no membership for you, you have BO!"?

LOL-- no, more general.

[ladygreek]

Originally Posted by tld221

(only speaking for Sigma here) IIRC, we will send an interested member a letter if they are not selected for membership. If specific reasons are listed, i don't know. I would hope that if an interest made it as far as an interview, they wouldn't be the type that would receive such letter.

But we know stuff happens...

Really? Until the interview all you have seen is what is on paper.

[AOII Angel]

Our "knock" definitely had no good connotations. I remember sitting in my dorm room when I rushed listening to women down the hall wailing when their Rho Chi knocked on their doors. I think that having someone present to counsel the PNM after such a rejection does not send out the message the it's the worst thing that has ever happened in the history of the world. Rather...it just allows the PNM to have her ego stroked a little before sending her on her merry way. I don't think anyone in the process wants to be cruel.

[UGAalum94]

I don't know. The more I think about this, the more I wonder. I think it does seem nicer to have someone personally tell the pnm, but on the other hand it does make it seem like it's a bigger deal.

I can remember as a kid trying out for teams and not making it. They would post a public list of who made the team, and you went and checked the list.

If you didn't make it, you felt bad and you could resolve to practice harder and try out again next year or look for another activity or sport to try.

Had they had counselors come to see us or insisted on delivering the news in person, I think it would have been more intense, more personal and seemed like a bigger deal.

Again, I think getting an envelope with a regret note instead of a bid as part of a public ceremony like many campuses have would be a terrible way to handle this issue.

I think the phone calls are fine and better than making someone come in and get the news, but we don't need think of PNMs as such fragile flowers.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by ladygreek

For example it took me two tries and it took my daughter two tries.

Same here.

Deuce Deuce.

[KyleMcGuire1983]

IFC is informal year round at my school so bearing the bad news to a rushee is the job of the chapter president and recruitment chair or pledge educator.

It totally sucks and it's a job I wouldn't want to have.

[UGAalum94]

Nor would I, but it seems like a truly manly way to handle it.

[SoCalGirl]

IFC is informal year round at my school so bearing the bad news to a rushee is the job of the chapter president and recruitment chair or pledge educator.

I'm surprised by that. When it came to COB you just don't get a bid. There's no call to say "sorry, please try next time!"

[KyleMcGuire1983]

Originally Posted by SoCalGirl

I'm surprised by that. When it came to COB you just don't get a bid. There's no call to say "sorry, please try next time!"

Well usually we just hope people get the picture but sometimes they come to us and ask questions and then some Execs show up and sit them down in the study room and try to explain away the no bid thing in the nicest way possible.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by AOII Angel

Ten years ago when I was a Rho Chi we had the "Knock" period. For an hour, all PNMs had to sit quietly in their rooms hoping they did not get a knock.

We did something similar, only ours was a phone call. I feel so bad for any unsuspecting guy or parent who called during that time only to get a freaked out rushee yelling "GET OFF THE PHONE!!" (No call waiting back then.)

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by 33girl

We did something similar, only ours was a phone call. I feel so bad for any unsuspecting guy or parent who called during that time only to get a freaked out rushee yelling "GET OFF THE PHONE!!" (No call waiting back then.)

Yeah...we were on pins and needles! If the room across the hall from yours got a knock, it was hard not to jump off the bed startled. I almost think it's cruel to add to the suspense, but these women have to be informed in some way. Our recruitment was a week before the beginning of school with all PNMs living in one of the dorms for the week. You couldn't send a letter...it would never get to them.

[PhoenixAzul]

I was a PX twice over, my Sophomore and Senior years. Sophomore, my PX partner handled the "no matches" because she was simply more tactful and better at delivering it. Senior year, I handled it because I had had more time being involved in the Panhel stuf, knew the rules, etc. We called girls who didn't match or didn't receive invites. If they wanted to, I would go and meet them.

Although, I will say that it was really frustrating that girls didn't list their REAL phone numbers!!! Room extension, cell phone, homing pigeon, SOMETHING! I'm trying to get in touch with you, and you are not meeting me half way, kids!

[honeychile]

Originally Posted by ladygreek

LOL-- no, more general.

"You have BO and bad breath?"