Good timing for letters of rec

[CopterDad]

Originally Posted by Drolefille

It depends on the school, it's not fulfilling the "every girl must have a rec" rule, but it provides the chapters with information and a positive recommendation of the PNM from an adult. They do exist and yes for "University Panhellenic Council sororities."

Schools that get and expect PNMs to have individual recs for each chapter may not care. YMMV as always. I believe i had a rec from my aunt and my grandma although neither of their chapters were on my campus as well as a family friend or two.

Checked my undergrad's FAQ because I knew they accepted them at the Greek Office:

I wasn't clear. It was the "or not" after the "Greek" that I was referring. I don't think that type of recommendation exists for any purpose for UPC organizations, that is I wouldn't send a recommendation from my aunt if she wasn't an alumna of a Greek organization..

But, I have been wrong at times.

[Titchou]

Originally Posted by Drolefille

It depends on the school, it's not fulfilling the "every girl must have a rec" rule, but it provides the chapters with information and a positive recommendation of the PNM from an adult. They do exist and yes for "University Panhellenic Council sororities."

Schools that get and expect PNMs to have individual recs for each chapter may not care. YMMV as always. I believe i had a rec from my aunt and my grandma although neither of their chapters were on my campus as well as a family friend or two.

Checked my undergrad's FAQ because I knew they accepted them at the Greek Office:

I don't know of a single NPC group that will take a rec from a non-member. Seriously. And I've been doing recruitment for decades. They may be sent but I can tell you they go in "file 13."

[FSUZeta]

Originally Posted by Titchou

I don't know of a single NPC group that will take a rec from a non-member. Seriously. And I've been doing recruitment for decades. They may be sent but I can tell you they go in "file 13."

i had never heard of that either and to my knowledge we have never received one at any of the chapters i have advised. if we did, we most likely would not have used them.


thanks drolefile for filling us in.

[AnchorAlumna]

I've seen those tossed in the trash. Nobody's got time to read them, and since they don't count, why bother?

[Drolefille]

Originally Posted by FSUZeta

i had never heard of that either and to my knowledge we have never received one at any of the chapters i have advised. if we did, we most likely would not have used them.


thanks drolefile for filling us in.

I cannot guarantee that they're used, but not everyone has greek connections

[gee_ess]

Not everyone may have Greek connections, but it takes a member to write an official rec for a pnm. At a non-competitive campus, I am guessing a rec, of any sort, is not necessary. So a general recommendation is not that helpful. It has been stated elsewhere on GC that in those situations, the chapter advisor or some other alum member takes care of the requisite paper work to offer a girl a bid.

In the case of competitive recruitments, a nonmember recommendation is almost the same as getting a negative rec. This would, in my opinion, stigmatize the pnm. "Oh that's the girl who had her employer write her a letter of recommendation! titter, titter"

I think the suggestion made by the school "to send the rec to the Greek Life office" was probably made as a helpful comment. In other words, send us the rec, and we will make sure it gets to the right house. But I may be reading too much into it. And, I STILL don't think it should be done. There are too many opportunities for misuse of the information.