Is this too much interest too soon?

[preciousjeni]

Originally Posted by Scandia

I mean that I like his coloring. That the coloring falls within my preferred type range, even though his height and build are not.

What in the world? LOL

[Dionysus]

Originally Posted by epchick

So as long as the dude is not darker (or lighter) than you "prefer," then screw everything else?

If I can recall correctly, she's a Latina who has really strong preference for men with blond hair and blue eyes.

Having color preferences is OK, but going by her past GC posts and posts on other sites, it seems to be close to an obsession.

[Scandia]

Yup, when they handed out luck and skills for romance, I was totally behind the door.

If they offered classes like these, whoever taught them would be a millionaire.

Anyhow, I have realized that if I were to go out with him, it would be out of gratitude and not true interest. I have met someone else on POF who seems to have more in common with me anyway.

[KSUViolet06]

Not so much just the romance part of things. It seems like you need to get out more and hone your social interaction skills a little bit before you date.

[christiangirl]

Originally Posted by kddani

Seriously, there has to be some sort of class for people who don't have the first clue. If not, there's a great business idea...

It's decently written and gives the basics for those without a clue. Yes, I know this firsthand.

[VandalSquirrel]

Originally Posted by kddani

Is there such thing as a remedial dating class? Because from all of your posts on GC with these such random requests for advice make you seem to know zero about dating and just general interpersonal interaction. You're stressing over something so minor... this isn't like some big dramatic dating question.

Seriously, there has to be some sort of class for people who don't have the first clue. If not, there's a great business idea...

I've actually "shadowed" friends when they go on internet dates, for safety and for entertainment as well. I should get a graduate degree in Psychology and do this as a business. Hire actors to help people learn about dates and give them makeovers. I should make it a tv show and have people from GC as guest commentators.

I seriously think my cohost should be 'Shid so we can cater to 'mos and 'ros.

[Scandia]

I have realized that if I were to go out with him, it would be out of gratitude and not true interest.

That, and this weekend would not be a good one for it anyway.

Still haven't replied to him.

[ree-Xi]

Originally Posted by Scandia

I have realized that if I were to go out with him, it would be out of gratitude and not true interest.

That, and this weekend would not be a good one for it anyway.

Still haven't replied to him.

Um, then don't go. This whole thread is quite odd.

[PrettyInPink777]

Just because you aren't noticing any 'deal-breakers' doesn't mean that you have to go out with him and give him a chance. That logic appears to imply that he meets your lowest standards. I am a firm believer in intuition -- If you are feeling hesitant, keep it movin' ... You don't know this joker...and there are definitely 'plenty of fish' in the sea. Surely there is someone outstanding out there for you .... not just some one who just barely meets your standards.

[Munchkin03]

I don't know, I don't have a ton of experience with online dating, but for the month that I tried it, any guy who just messaged me being pushy quickly ended up on my "ignore" list. I really trust my intuition, and if anyone does something that gives me a bad vibe, I'm done with that person.

It sounds like you need a lot of experience dating, or at least interacting with more people.

[PrettyInPink777]

Originally Posted by Munchkin03

I don't know, I don't have a ton of experience with online dating, but for the month that I tried it, any guy who just messaged me being pushy quickly ended up on my "ignore" list. I really trust my intuition, and if anyone does something that gives me a bad vibe, I'm done with that person.

It sounds like you need a lot of experience dating, or at least interacting with more people.

Amen.

[Scandia]

And your intuition is usually right.

I should have listened to it back then- but I was just 15/16 and a total dork.

Now I know better. And I have blocked people on POF who got immediately sexual, or who were way too forward and explicit.

I just need practice and to tweak things.

[kddani]

Originally Posted by Scandia

And your intuition is usually right.

I should have listened to it back then- but I was just 15/16 and a total dork.

Now I know better. And I have blocked people on POF who got immediately sexual, or who were way too forward and explicit.

I just need practice and to tweak things.

If you're still using an experience that you had over 10 years ago as a crutch and an excuse now for your poor social interaction and dating skills, then you need the help of a professional in the mental health field to help you deal with that. Not random dating advice from strangers on the internet.

[KSUViolet06]

You need to get out more, seriously.

You need to interact with people more and develop your social skills a bit before you start doing any dating.

It seems as if your social interaction skills are a bit lacking.

You are making this a bigger issue than it needs to be. Really. If your intuition tells you not to go out with this guy, then don't. It needn't be analyzed or rationalized in any way.

[Scandia]

Sadly, I analyze everything since I am such a rational person.

Don't worry- I won't go out with him. Or even reply to his emails any longer.