Calling all moms! - Page 2

rusheemom · #16 07-28-2006, 08:24 PM

My daughter will be starting recruitment in 2 weeks at a competitive school (not SEC), but with 13 sororities for 1100 rushees. I went through rush at the same school 30 years ago and joined a sorority I loved. I had a blast during rush, even though I was cut by some of my favorite sororities (I wish I had paid more attention to my grades in hs.) Anyway, I'm with "proudmom" on the fact that I'm so anxious for my daughter, but excited as well. I know how disappointing it can be to get cut by a house that you love, and we moms don't like our children hurt. We all know that our daughters are the smartest and the cutest, but we can't hold their hands during rush (I would if I could!). I too, like "proudmom" have helped with recs, clothes shopping, advice (probably too much), and now after finding this wonderful network, realize that I need to back off and put this all in my daughter's hands. She is a capable young woman, and I need to let her guide her own destiny. I will still be a wreck from Aug. 13-18, and will try try try not to offer anything but a sounding board, and pray that she finds her happy home. I'm hoping also, that being a legacy won't hurt her chances. I have absolutely no strong feelings about her joining my house, and have conveyed that to her explicitly. Anyway - good luck to your daughters, good luck to you moms on keeping your sanity during the process, and good luck to the dads and brothers who have to deal with us all!! Happy Rushing!!

KyleMcGuire1983 · #17 07-29-2006, 09:42 AM

wow this is intense! I go to school out in California where greeks are hated and resented by the vast majority of the student population....

my parents went to college in 1976-1980 and were NOT greek.....they HATE that I'm greek now and keep trying to get me to quit as they feel it takes up too much of my time (I'm vice president of my chapter).

I heard stories about how at our Grand Chapter (national convention) there were stories of alumni crying when they saw their sons get pinned as Sigma Nus and I was shocked! I could never imagine my parents, let alone my father, coming to my pinning ceremony. I'm pretty sure it's a cultural thing in California where fraternities and sororities are seen as evil backwards right wing organizations or something....

weird

rusheemom · #18 07-31-2006, 11:11 AM

We're doing the countdown now at our house. Going over the "move into dorm list" daily. Our guest room has been overtaken with crates, bedding, mini fridge, bags from target, wal-mart,etc. My daughter and I are doing the "this may be the last time we do this together..." thing. When we asked my son, who is in a fraternity at her school, if he could get a couple of guys to help us with the dorm move, his reply was " Gee Mom (pointed sarcasm), a gazillion girls going through rush, moving into the dorms - I could make some money selling raffle tickets for that!" So, I guess we'll have all the help we need. I really would like to hear if other Mom's out there are getting knots in their stomach like I am. My daughter is as cool as a cucumber, just excited and ready to get it started! I try not to let it show, as I'm excited as well!

CutiePie2000 · #19 07-31-2006, 11:20 AM

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Originally Posted by rusheemom

I really would like to hear if other Mom's out there are getting knots in their stomach like I am.

If only justamom was still on GC (JAM for short). She was awesome and her daughter went Delta Gamma at LSU.

tunatartare · #20 07-31-2006, 11:29 AM

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Originally Posted by CutiePie2000

If only justamom was still on GC (JAM for short). She was awesome and her daughter went Delta Gamma at LSU.

whatever happened to her? she was great

CutiePie2000 · #21 07-31-2006, 02:52 PM

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Originally Posted by KLPDaisy

whatever happened to her? she was great

I don't know the specifics, as to why she left. I think she had had "enough" of GC, for whatever reason.

33girl · #22 07-31-2006, 03:07 PM

I think it was some sort of political issue.

proudmom · #23 08-10-2006, 06:52 PM

I'm bumping this thread up as we start the "season." It seems like there's several recruitment threads from moms (some of whom have already posted on this thread) but maybe there's a few new ones who could use some cyber hand-holding. Trust me, every mom out there is keeping fingers crossed and fervently wishing and hoping that every little girl, oh, excuse me, daughter, out there gets her magic wish fulfilled!

Remeber when they were little and you'd be in a crowd and some little voice would yell out "mom!" and you'd automatically turn your head - as would every other mother in the vicinity - and it wasn't even your kid? Same thing here - the universal mom is still turning her head ready to come running! Every PNM is someone's daughter and we're all rooting for each and every one.

mythreedd · #24 08-10-2006, 07:16 PM

I from the old school when we called rush, rush. I tried to use the new term, "recruitment" and someone said, "I didn't know she was joining the military." So, rush it is!

Daughter goes through rush in three weeks. She's going out of state and knows nothing specific about any of the sororities, which is good for all the "keep an open mind" advice. A few people have offered to write her letters, which we have gladly accepted, but the Greek website for the school says they are not necessary, so we are believing them.

She is excited, and not too nervous...yet. I'm only a little nervous, partly because of this website..., but the information has been invaluable. I just can't believe how clueless I was 25+ years ago when I went through rush. I had no clue...

Good luck to all the pnm's, and to the moms. Not only is this whole sorority thing a bit nerve-wracking, but so is sending our dd's off to college. It all happened so fast!

leesek · #25 08-10-2006, 07:28 PM

My daughter is a senior at an SEC school and is preparing for the final Recruitment experience. When she went through recruitment 3 years ago it was really tough on both of us. All of you are right about the parents having a tough time with their kids being "judged". She was looking to forward to a very positive experience; then, her best friend(at a different SEC school) was cut (she had a full party schedule through six party) by everyone!!! My daughter's expectations immediately changed. She was very nervous. THings worked out really well and she is a proud member of AGD.

Friday evening I get to go to Friends and Family night and see all of the skits that they will do during recruitment. I have been every year and have always become very emotional during the pref performance. this year she will be part of that and it will be just as exciting and emotional for me as it will for her.

I was part of that seventies group that someone has already mentioned and did not join a sorority. I always wished that I had. I have to be very careful not to live vicariously through my daughter. I can enjoy the experience though her but with no pressure on either of us.

leesek · #26 08-10-2006, 07:31 PM

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Originally Posted by mythreedd

I from the old school when we called rush, rush. I tried to use the new term, "recruitment" and someone said, "I didn't know she was joining the military." So, rush it is!

Daughter goes through rush in three weeks. She's going out of state and knows nothing specific about any of the sororities, which is good for all the "keep an open mind" advice. A few people have offered to write her letters, which we have gladly accepted, but the Greek website for the school says they are not necessary, so we are believing them.

She is excited, and not too nervous...yet. I'm only a little nervous, partly because of this website..., but the information has been invaluable. I just can't believe how clueless I was 25+ years ago when I went through rush. I had no clue...

Good luck to all the pnm's, and to the moms. Not only is this whole sorority thing a bit nerve-wracking, but so is sending our dd's off to college. It all happened so fast!

A few people have offered to write her letters, which we have gladly accepted, but the Greek website for the school says they are not necessary, so we are believing them.

Don't believe it!!!! My friends daughter, a legacy, was cut by everyone pretty quickly. Just look at it this way.... it never hurts to have a rec but it might be fatal not to.

TigerOwl · #27 08-10-2006, 09:42 PM

Agree-----Get a resume and picture to each NPC chapter on campus!

I've said this before, and I will continue to say it (til I pass on!)----SET YOUR daughters, granddaughters, neices, friends, etc., UP TO SUCCEED!

texasmom · #28 08-10-2006, 09:54 PM

Thanks for the cyber "hand-holding", proudmom. My daughter is going through Rush/Recruitment in a couple of weeks at a Texas school. I think what we're dealing with is a fear of the unknown, at least in our case. I have to say that these threads have been a great help to us over the past few months. At least now we know what a "rec" is, though that term could also be used to describe my mental state at times!

AGDLynn · #29 08-10-2006, 10:26 PM

I'm not a "mom" but I was VERY nervous when my niece went through recruitment 2 years ago. I hoped she would get a bid..yea she's terrific, etc. but at this large SEC school, unfortunate twists happen through no fault of the pnms.

Thankfully, she got a bid and is very happy with her sorority. She's not an AGD but she got 2 of the letters

Take it from a Chapter Advisor, it's tough on us too! We see all the wonderful pnms go to through, wish we could take all we wanted but know that we can't.
Esp. when the CA's don't get to vote, lol.

BadSquirrelBeta · #30 08-11-2006, 05:24 PM

I AM THE MOM OF THREE BOYS!!