Could I get some advice?

[whitelily]

Originally Posted by navane

Welcome. Have you read the thread titled "NPC Alumnae Intiation - Read This First"?

http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/an...ment.php?f=208

I'm curious, you mentioned that some people warned you about this forum. Is this to say that you've already been getting personal advice about AI from others? If so, I'm not sure why you're posting here asking for advice. What kind of "advice" were you hoping to receive?

If you wanted to ask something that you can't seem to find the answer for (that wasn't already covered by the thread linked above or by the other threads posted here), by all means, ask away. I just find it hard to help since your posts seem a little bit ambiguous.

.....Kelly

I have been getting private messages from people warning me about what I post on here. So, I have been trying to watch what I say. I have read the forum. I guess I am trying to test the waters before jumping in.

[navane]

Thanks for the clarification. As you could see from the threads, some of the AIs here have been successful and some just ended up dropping out of their search. It's a tough road to take and I hope you find the outcome that is best for you!


.....Kelly

[Tom Earp]

# 1, ignore some of the snide,sharp, and inapropprite comments.

There really are people who are on GC here to be of help.

You have to make up your mind to do what you want to do and just do/go for it!

It can be an amazing experience as some have So Done AI and are verey loving Sisters of their Sororities.

I do like to put anyone one the spot, but navane and jill are two of the very best.

Why? They have been there, done it, and are very good at what they have done and accomplished!

[_Lisa_]

Anyway whitelily, once you are contacted by a GLO who thinks you'll make a valuable member, I'm sure you'll find lots of support here.

[Sister Havana]

Originally Posted by KLPDaisy

So that narrows it down to Kappa or ZTA. Yup, you're being very discreet here.

I was thinking ADPi or Phi Mu because of the lion mascot.

[CutiePie2000]

Originally Posted by whitelily

I never rushed. I went to a party and met the girls. I then was offered a bid at the end of the party. I did not go through rush.

It sounds like you went through COB (Continuous Open Bidding) or what some people refer to as "informal rush" (including my alma mater, back in the day). Rushing (whether it be "formal recruitment" or COB) is essentially the Panhellenic concept of "mutual selection"; you meet them & they meet you, you see if you like them & they see if they like you....I'm sure you catch the drift.

I just wanted to mention that as you are seeking "alumnae initiation", not alumni initiation. Yes, it sounds nit-picky, but if you are clear on the nomenclature, it just kinda sounds more like you know what you are talking about.

If you are still in contact with that person who is now an alumna, they might be a good option to start with. Somewhere along the line, you will likely need a sponsor for membership, in order to 'seal the deal'. They could also serve as an introduction to the alumnae chapter, which is better than going in "cold" (IMO). I think it depends on where you live (regionally speaking) but if you are approaching the group on your own recommendation, rather than being introduced via your sorority friend, you could be in for a tough(er) journey.

[valkyrie]

Originally Posted by Tom Earp

There really are people who are on GC here to be of help.

What kind of "help" do you mean, exactly?

ETA:

Originally Posted by whitelily

I have been getting private messages from people warning me about what I post on here.

I'm wondering why anybody would do this by PM instead of here. What's up with that?

[GeekyPenguin]

Originally Posted by whitelily

Hello all.

I am trying to learn more about the alumni initiation process. I have a specific sorority in mind. I feel that the philanthropy and ideals of this group are reflected in my life. I had a slightly personal connection in college. Although, I never rushed. I was stupid and listened to my boyfriend/ex-fiance who convinced me that I wanted nothing to do with sorority life.

I know there are a lot of people who seek alumni initiation. I don't know many who make it into their desired group, though.

Any encouragement or advice would be appreciated.

Thank you so very much.

whitelily, I would strongly advise you to not discuss your AI pursuit with anyone on GC, even in PMs, except perhaps women who are members of that sorority. People on GC can come off as well-meaning, but many times they are not. Once you are a happily initiated member, if you are lucky enough to get to do so, come back and let us know what happened.

[PenguinTrax]

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