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WinniBug · #16 07-13-2010, 01:54 PM

We had Sub Deb at my high school, but I wasn't popular enough to have known much about it.
(Except they REALLY haze, and all I ever heard of them doing other than hazing, was having parties to get drunk and have sex)

ThetaPrincess24 · #17 07-13-2010, 02:04 PM

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We had DBS where I grew up. All of my friends were members. The way you find out (at least in my town) that you have been accepted for membership is that they arranged with your mom to "kidnap" you one night. She made sure you had pajamas that were acceptable for public viewing and that the front door was unlocked. They snuck in, woke you up and took you out to the car (or pickup), and you spent the rest of the night going around with them to kidnap the rest of the new pledges.

Everyone had breakfast together, and they took you home, after giving you a time and place for the pledging ceremony. If you decided not to pledge, you simply didn't show up for the pinning ceremony.

When they contacted my mom, she said no.

However, 8 years later she let my sister join.

Go figure!!

The organization has a long history, and does a lot of good philanthropy. It's kinda "sorority lite". They are a legitimate organization.

I'm sorry but as a step-mother of a 14 year old getting ready to go to high school in the fall, I find that whole 2am thing to be rather silly and ridiculous.

ThetaPrincess24 · #18 07-13-2010, 02:09 PM

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Originally Posted by WinniBug

We had Sub Deb at my high school, but I wasn't popular enough to have known much about it.
(Except they REALLY haze, and all I ever heard of them doing other than hazing, was having parties to get drunk and have sex)

This is why I'm not too keen on the idea of high school sororities. At that age, I'm not sure they really get it, are more likely to have inaccurate views of sorority life (what we do, what we're about, etc), and there is usually not a governing body to bring hazing under wraps. That is just my opinion.

WinniBug · #19 07-13-2010, 04:01 PM

The new "initiates" would have stuff dumped on them and then they'd have to go to school the next day without bathing. Sometimes they had to do embarrassing things or wear crazy outfits to school.
(From what I saw)

33girl · #20 07-13-2010, 04:03 PM

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Originally Posted by WinniBug

The new "initiates" would have stuff dumped on them and then they'd have to go to school the next day without bathing. Sometimes they had to do embarrassing things or wear crazy outfits to school.
(From what I saw)

Did they have to ask the guy from Rent to marry them? LOL

WinniBug · #21 07-13-2010, 04:19 PM

LOL (What's in it for me? Anything you want? Anything? Anything.)
I don't know exactly, but when I was a senior one of my classmates had to wear a sequined prom dress to school.

AlphaFrog · #22 07-13-2010, 05:12 PM

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Did they have to ask the guy from Rent to marry them? LOL

Holy crap - that IS the guy from RENT. I knew he looked familiar.

ree-Xi · #23 07-13-2010, 05:47 PM

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Originally Posted by ThetaPrincess24

I'm sorry but as a step-mother of a 14 year old getting ready to go to high school in the fall, I find that whole 2am thing to be rather silly and ridiculous.

Not to mention potentially dangerous. A bunch of teenagers driving around even younger teenagers in the middle of the night, being silly - that's kind of scary. Some states have restrictions on teens driving - such as no driving between midnight and 5 am, passengers limited to just siblings, or people over 18 with a valid license, etc. There are good reasons for that.

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Originally Posted by ThetaPrincess24

This is why I'm not too keen on the idea of high school sororities. At that age, I'm not sure they really get it, are more likely to have inaccurate views of sorority life (what we do, what we're about, etc), and there is usually not a governing body to bring hazing under wraps. That is just my opinion.

I agree. It's like playing house - all of the privileges but none of the responsibilities. This organization apparently has a governing body, but I don't know what level of oversight there is. And again, if it has to take place in the middle of the night, it makes me wonder what else is going on.

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I don't know exactly, but when I was a senior one of my classmates had to wear a sequined prom dress to school.

Apparently, pledges wore silly outfits (which would be considered hazing these days) back in 1948/9. I found a link on some ancestry page (note that the URL has the words "hell week"). Sure, wearing giant bows appears to be in good-natured fun (then again, not so much when you think about the purpose, which is to make the "pledge" stand out - which can be humiliating), but is that the extent of it?

http://www.rootsweb.ancestry.com/~armpgs/photos/hell-week-001.jpg

Lastly, where is the OP?

MysticCat · #24 07-13-2010, 05:54 PM

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Lastly, where is the OP?

Sitting back and enjoying the consternation she stirred up would be my guess.

ree-Xi · #25 07-13-2010, 06:00 PM

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Sitting back and enjoying the consternation she stirred up would be my guess.

Lol.

tcsparky · #26 07-13-2010, 11:00 PM

Not sure about other high school sororities, but Delta Beta Sigma does have a governing body, set up very similar to the way NPC GLOs operate. They do not have a full time HQ, though.

The chapters with which I am familiar had multiple mothers of actives with them on the "kidnapping", it wasn't JUST teenagers.

DBS does not tolerate hazing.... to my knowledge, no one has ever had to wear anything weird, or go around without bathing. That would reflect badly on the organization. They did have rules for maintaining GPA and PDA (Public Displays of Affection). The chapter went to church together on Sunday morning once a month and did a monthly philanthropy event as well. The chapter meetings were weekly on Sunday afternoons,

Different chapters had slightly different traditions, but there are National rules and policies that they have to follow. We had one high school sorority and two high school fraternities (Sigma Phi Omega and Delta Sigma) where I grew up. I didn't realize it wasn't the norm until after I was in college.

Elephant Walk · #27 07-13-2010, 11:32 PM

ree-xi got it, she means Delta Beta Sigma.

By the way, schools can't really "ban" high school sororities, in that they're regional things (sort of like chapters at the regional level for BGLO's or whatever).

We had DBS at our school (most of those girls ended up Greek in College too) as well as the "Betas" which were some sort of African-American fraternity. I don't quite remember their full leters.

Drolefille · #28 07-13-2010, 11:40 PM

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ree-xi got it, she means Delta Beta Sigma.

By the way, schools can't really "ban" high school sororities, in that they're regional things (sort of like chapters at the regional level for BGLO's or whatever).

We had DBS at our school (most of those girls ended up Greek in College too) as well as the "Betas" which were some sort of African-American fraternity. I don't quite remember their full leters.

They're prohibited in the district, and if it came back they'd punish the students involved. That's 'banning.'

Been gone here for long enough though it's not an issue.