Going through changes

[Exxtra1908]

It depends on what they are asking you to change. Changes that are for the better only make us stronger. However, it is not fair to want to change something about a person that you knew about when you met them. If it is something that you do not like, then you need to examine whether you should be with that person. Balance and compromise are key. I want a friend who will help me change things for the better but will also accept me for who I am.

[tld221]

Originally Posted by DolphinChicaDDD

Maybe its just because all the women in my office are going through their "changes" but I totally thought this thread was going to be about menopause.

Carry on.

seriously. i was about to bust out with ch-ch-changes!

btw if my mother, at the ripe age of 41, calls me one more FREAKING time about "flashing," i will go off.

[SWTXBelle]

Here's the deal - I want someone who accepts me as I am, but will be supportive of me improving and growing. What I want is to be the best me I can be, and I need friends and family who want the same.

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by DaemonSeid

If you were dating someone and they asked you to change something about yourself, what would you do? How long would you have to be with someone before you actually consider it? Are there some things that are off limits that you know no matter what, you will not change about yourself and if they cannot accept it, they may as well leave? Has there ever been a time that you actually changed to please someone? How did it affect you and the relationship?

It would all depend on what he asked me to change, and why.
I don't think time limits are necessary in relationships. It just depends on how much I like the guy.
My appearance is the only thing that's off limits. I'm not changing that for anyone.
I hate waiting, so I'm really impatient. I was asked to work on that. I think anything that a bf or gf ask you to change, depending on what it is will only help the relationship.

[RU OX Alum]

I would not shave my side-burns. I would break up with her for asking.

[Ronnie B]

Change is always good, especially if you have strong feelings for the person. Right now I've been going through some things with my girl, but I love her so I trying to change some of my ways.

[AGDee]

Originally Posted by tld221

seriously. i was about to bust out with ch-ch-changes!

btw if my mother, at the ripe age of 41, calls me one more FREAKING time about "flashing," i will go off.

You will understand when you get there! Most of the women I work with are "this age" and when you see someone reach for the fan, you know what's going on!