Oh what it's like be a pretty princess...

[Miss. Mocha]

We have a family joke,

my mother is the queen
I am the princess
my daughter is the duchess.


I am so spoiled that sometimes I make myself sick, because nobody else would dare be sick of me.
Recently, I spoke to a lady in the BURSAR'S office, and when she didn't respond the way that I wanted her to, I immediatley called my mother and asked how that lady had the nerve to try to stand in the way of what I wanted. I was soooo pissed, and sadly enough, I was deadly serious.

Of course mom came through, and told me that if that lady couldn't realized what a princess I am by a certain date, she would provide my need.

Needless to say, that I finally got through to that BURSARS office (not the same witchy lady, but somebody who was willing to help me, and realize that I'm a princess)and all is to the good.

People who meet me, often ask me questions like, "are you the only child", and "does your husband spoil you rotten?"

I am not an only child, but I'M THE PRINCESS, and yes, my husband spoils the mess out of me.... HE"D BETTER.


Miss. Mocha

[AKAtude]

Beauty, obviously you haven't met any REAL black men. My fiance admits that he loves to spoil me, and that he does. However, it is a two way street and we don't always focus on material things. I suppose you have never had the pleasure of being in a meaningful relationship or know what love is really all about. I suppose that is why your comment drips with ignorance.

Now, back to the thread...

Yes, I must admit to being spoiled, especially growing up. Now, my fiance has taken over.

[mizzkes]

Sistahs, y'all better get me before I get ridiculous with the beast, I mean Beauty. She is about to make the Tampa come out of me.

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I'm not conceited, just convinced.

[AKA2D '91]

Originally posted by beauty:
Wow, no wonder all of your men go to other women (yes, I am referring to the black girl's perpetual complaint of white women "stealing" all their men). This is EXACTLY what black men always complain about!!

LOL.
THE SAD PART ABOUT IT IS THAT THE WOMEN THAT ALLEGEDLY HAVE STOLEN THEM ARE... *bleep* ANYWAY! UH, OH...SISTAS YOU ALL KNOW WHAT I MEAN...

it's part of a little acronym...

[MIDWESTDIVA]

Is this what it's like to be a princess?

Well I guess I must be a peasant, because I paid my own downpayment/closing costs (my house is not in a ritzy neighborhood), bought my own car, pay my own monthly bills, save for my own retirement, pay for my own education while working a full time job, and buy my own designer clothing, shoes, handbags and furs. I have learned to compromise, rather than insisting on having my own way. (OK, I'm still working on that one.) And I am trying to become less materialistic and pretentious. I am more concerned with my man's intellect, personality, spiritual well being and sexual prowess, than I am with his ability to provide me with material things. However, I do like for my man to do sweet little things for me like preparing my bubble bath with candles, rose petals, champagne, etc. But to each her own....

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"In three words I can sum up everything I've learned about life: It goes on." ~Robert Frost

[This message has been edited by MIDWESTDIVA (edited January 08, 2001).]

[AKA_Monet]

Forget being the princess foreva, I wannabe a GODDESS!!! Seriously, a princess behaves a certain way. My family always said, "pretty is as pretty does". Which means if you don't do pretty things--you do petty things, then you are pretty petty...

Anyhow, Midwestdiva, you are no peasant in my domain, you are a part of the court!!! Maybe the next one in line!!!

And beauty, who are you? Why would you say a thing like that? And don't sleep, 'cuz I dayum sho stole one of y'all mens that makes a mint!!! I'm sorry, I gotta go there, is there such a thing as a bruh that makes Bill Gates' money? Better yet, what about the big pimp's up in the white house? Who's Dr. Condoleeza Rice? Oh, I guess you've never seen the POWER of the one true GODDESS... Oh, I guess you really don't know the what the Isis circle is... But that's alright, cuz my man said he was a Czar and makes me oh so happy and many, many ways. If you wanna deal with the baby's mama drama bruh (and not all bruhs are in this league--it's mainly the OJ's that get OJ'ed), then be my guest!

Meanwhile, the slave massa and I are hookin' up our next web-based company with an opening IPO of $10 million...

I'm sorry you ain't got the moves like I do, you ain't got the groove like I do, you don't get the bump in trunk when I make my body jump in the way that I do. I'm sorry you cain't put the curls in his toes when I make my body roll in the way that I do... And you ain't even have him cuming close to THIS!

[Bobby Earl]

Beauty,

Let me be the first to say that this brother never has and never will complain about BLACK women. Maybe because I appreciate BLACK women for more than what these immature, simple minded, and insecure brothers have focused on.

I personally feels that it is an act of DISRESPECT to all the strong BLACK mothers, grandmothers, sisters, and Aunts who have worked so hard and sacrificed so much of their lives only to be disgraced by some sorry a$$ negroe who can't handle a REAL woman. These boys complain because they would rather make excuses and whine like a little... (you know what goes here), instead of supporting a woman with the same strength, love, and soul as the woman who brought their little confused a$$ into this world. I hope that all these sorry brothers go to white women. This way they want WAIST the black woman's time!

Make ROOM for a real brother.

[BlueReign]

Dam!! Is this for real? AKA Monet "ARE YOU FOR REAL?" and any other "WOMAN" who responded likewise.

Yall got some serious growing up to do. What would you do if your money making husband became seriously ill, and you exhausted all of your savings, etc. WOULD YOU TAKE CARE OF HIM -- AFTER YOUR VOWS OF FOR BETTER OR FOR WORSE. I say this because I've been there. And while there is nothing my family would not do to help me and us, I prefer to be as independent as I can.

Are you all grown-up college-educated black women talking in the year 2001 about being spoiled and depending on your loved ones to continue to spoil you? Don't forget we have a new administration and no telling what that may bring?

Again I ask is this a joke? Cause I'm not getting it.

[AKA2D '91]

Originally posted by BlueReign:
Dam!! Is this for real
YES!

Are you all grown-up college-educated black women talking in the year 2001 about being spoiled and depending on your loved ones to continue to spoil you?

Yes, I am! Master's Degree, plus 30 graduate hours, hoping to SOON start on my DOCTORATE DEGREE... ALL HAS BEEN PAID FOR IN CASH BY MOMMA AND DADDY!

Don't forget we have a new administration and no telling what that may bring?

AND.....

Again I ask is this a joke?
NO!
Cause I'm not getting it.

OH WELL...

[BlueReign]

Oh well...

I am working on my doctorate also. I am a spoiled middle child and a Daddy's girl. There is nothing my Mommy and Daddy wouldn't do for me but after a while IT'S TIME TO CUT THE UMBILICAL CORD!

[AKA2D '91]

it has been cut, for years now...

*snip, snip*

I do for myself...

Like I said before,
I do not and WILL NOT apologize for my upbringing!

[mizzkes]

First let me go back and re-read my own posts....Okay yes, that's what I thought I said. I remembered saying (and I will repeat for the third time) that I will be a self-sufficient human being. I know how to provide for self, as of yet I just have not HAD to. Being a full time college student IS my job. When the time comes, I plan to do just that. My standards will never be lowered. If my mate can not do things to make me happy, little things, like my parents did to make my life comfortable, then he won't be my mate for long. Show me where I am wrong.
MWDIVA: To answer your question, being a princess is an attitude. My father and an old boyfriend of mine used to always call me "their princess". IMO, princesses don't necessarily need to be "taken care of" but should be placed on a pedastal, spoiled is the term being thrown around. They..We deserve special treatment because we are special women...and will accept nothing less than the best.
With that being said, can someone please tell me WHY that is wrong rather than simply THAT it is wrong?


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I'm not conceited, just convinced.

[NUPE4LIFE]

Personally I don't think there's anything wrong with anyone being a princess. Many of my closest female friends are princesses. But I will say, they are also very self-reliant females. WE say all the time about what we want or expect from a woman/man. I don't see anything wrong with a female basically putting it on the line and saying "hey this is what I want from a man". You have two choices as Usher would say "You can eat it, or throw it away". Blue Reign, i don't think the others created any foul when they stated that they were princesses. To each it's own. I don't think being a princess means that you solely rely on others to get you what want. Besides all the princesses I know, will get what they want regardless. Cause they tell me all the time if I really want it, I don't need a man to get it for me. More power to the princesses out there.

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KAPPA ALPHA PSI FRATERNITY, INC.
SPR 97
XI LAMBDA

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[preppie]

"Basically, a man can't handle a STRONG Black woman who knows what she wants and won't settle for less, so for this reason, he dates white women."

Actually(I'm sorry, I just stumbled on this board) white women (at least this one anyway), wish there were some stronger men around. I get what I want, whether I do it, or someone else does. Unfortunately, it seems to be me.

[This message has been edited by preppie (edited January 09, 2001).]

[Ideal08]

Originally posted by BlueReign:
Dam!! Is this for real? AKA Monet "ARE YOU FOR REAL?" and any other "WOMAN" who responded likewise.

Yall got some serious growing up to do. What would you do if your money making husband became seriously ill, and you exhausted all of your savings, etc. WOULD YOU TAKE CARE OF HIM -- AFTER YOUR VOWS OF FOR BETTER OR FOR WORSE. I say this because I've been there. And while there is nothing my family would not do to help me and us, I prefer to be as independent as I can.

Are you all grown-up college-educated black women talking in the year 2001 about being spoiled and depending on your loved ones to continue to spoil you? Don't forget we have a new administration and no telling what that may bring?

Again I ask is this a joke? Cause I'm not getting it.

I'm trying to figure out why I have some serious growing up to do. BEING A PRINCESS DOES NOT MEAN GETTING TAKEN CARE OF FINANCIALLY!!!!!!!!!!!!! I can do that myself. My parents died when I was 19, 7 years ago, the umbilical cord has long been cut, and I probably "seriously" grew up a good while ago. I want someone who will cater to my needs, just like I will cater to his. I have no intention of living off of a man, I'm not that trusting. I'm trying to figure out what is making people think that by saying we are princesses that means we want someone to take care of us. And then to say we have some serious growing up to do, only to turn around and say that you are a spoiled middle child. What makes your being spoiled any different from us having been spoiled or wanting to be spoiled? I SPOIL MYSELF! Why? So that the next brother that steps to me can take notes. I want to come home from work and my man has drawn my bath. That's free by the way. I like to have my feet rubbed. OOH!! That's free too!! I love full body massages. Wow, that's free as well. I like to have my hair played with. I think you get the picture. As far as your question about marriage, why would we take our vows any less seriously than the next person? Give me a break.