I think I made a mistake.

[AZTheta]

Oh, I remember that one. The gist of the OP's original post had to do with how wonderful the GA was, how everyone loved the GA, and how the GA outed herself as having dual membership. And what could the OP do about this? Angst. Angst. Angst.

note to self: QFP. Always. Can delete a QFP if circumstances so dictate, but can't make a post reappear after it's been deleted by the OP.

[shirley1929]

I just re-read that thread and it's hilarious how it devolved into a discussion of bad sodas...

[DrPhil]

GC didn't QFP?! Was GC too shocked to remember our duties?!

When people come to a public board to divulge such info, even if anonymously, that person has probably divulged to someone else as well. She was unashamed. These are warning signs to the GLOs that don't permit dual memberships.

[MaryPoppins]

Almost commented, it's takne me a few days to process this. But don't want to go on a rant, so I'm just going to sit in a corner over here and observe.

[sigmadiva]

Originally Posted by Shellfish

This is it: http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...d.php?t=128777. Unfortunately, the OP was not QFPed.

I remember this thread. I did a little GC sleuthing to try to figure out the OP's school.

[Sen's Revenge]

Originally Posted by sigmadiva

I remember this thread. I did a little GC sleuthing to try to figure out the OP's school.

Did you figure it out? I feel like I was so close, but had the wrong woman in the end. I need Huck and Olivia to help me. lol

[Sen's Revenge]

oooooh. ok!

[DrPhil]

Sigmadiva is evil. LOL.

[ASTalumna06]

I feel as though we've all seriously dropped the ball lately when it comes to QFPing. When I first joined GC, I remember people immediately QFPing, even if they had nothing to say about the thread, every single time there was even a slight chance it could turn into a train wreck.

Let's remember to QFP, people! K thanks

[ASUADPi]

Originally Posted by GreekRegret

I completely understand that I had a hand in what happened. I thought I made that clear, but I guess not. What I'm saying is that no sister should push a new, younger sister to go out drinking instead of studying. A lot of things happened that I did not and will not go into detail about. Those women should be blamed for their behavior?? Especially when it has been clearly stated that these women want their little sisters to prosper and live up to a certain standard.

I take responsibility for being naive as I said. I take responsibility for making the wrong choice and joining the organization. I take responsibility for allowing this to become something that I regret.

Also, I spoke in past tense. Maybe you missed that. I've changed as a person and that is what brought about the realization that the people I surrounded myself with at that point were not a positive influence on me.

I don't find telling me to "suck it up" helpful, but thank you anyway.

Um, blaming the "older" sisters for what YOU chose to do is not taking responsibility nor is it being mature.

Did they put a gun to your head and force you to go out? Did they put a gun to your head and force you to drink?

Unless the answer is "yes" to those questions, you need to grow the hell up and stop blaming your sisters for the CHOICES that YOU made!

You CHOSE to go out an party. You CHOSE to drink. You CHOSE not to focus on your academics.

You want out of your sorority and you want to put the blame on them instead of yourself.

If you hate it so damn much, go to your standards advisor, turn in your pin and all your letters and resign your membership.

You aren't going to get any sympathy here, because you are blaming your sisters and that chapter for the choices that you made.

[AOII Angel]

The greek life director has been at Arkansas since 2008.

[WCsweet<3]

Originally Posted by ASTalumna06

I feel as though we've all seriously dropped the ball lately when it comes to QFPing. When I first joined GC, I remember people immediately QFPing, even if they had nothing to say about the thread, every single time there was even a slight chance it could turn into a train wreck.

Let's remember to QFP, people! K thanks

Just realized we came to the board right around the same time. I clearly remember all the QFPs. I don't think those members who were really good at it don't post as often anymore.

[GreekRegret]

Originally Posted by ASUADPi

Um, blaming the "older" sisters for what YOU chose to do is not taking responsibility nor is it being mature.

Did they put a gun to your head and force you to go out? Did they put a gun to your head and force you to drink?

Unless the answer is "yes" to those questions, you need to grow the hell up and stop blaming your sisters for the CHOICES that YOU made!

You CHOSE to go out an party. You CHOSE to drink. You CHOSE not to focus on your academics.

You want out of your sorority and you want to put the blame on them instead of yourself.

If you hate it so damn much, go to your standards advisor, turn in your pin and all your letters and resign your membership.

You aren't going to get any sympathy here, because you are blaming your sisters and that chapter for the choices that you made.

I have stated that I am not there anymore several times. Do you have a reading problem? I can't go turn in anything to anyone. Your anger is not needed. You need a hug and a nap.


This isn't something that you have to be rude about. May god bless your angry soul.

[Titchou]

Since you are now an alum, I don't see the point in resigning your membership - unless it's to "make a statement" and it wouldn't really do that anyway. Why not just fade away like so many alums do? Just don't respond to anything.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by GreekRegret

I have stated that I am not there anymore several times. Do you have a reading problem? I can't go turn in anything to anyone. Your anger is not needed. You need a hug and a nap.


This isn't something that you have to be rude about. May god bless your angry soul.

While I understand that you were coming here in peace, an annoyed response to someone who wishes to depledge or disaffiliate and reaffiliate is very common. You would understand ASUADPi's response if you had love for the NPC sorority that you joined and encountered someone who also joined an NPC sorority but didn't love the sorority like you did. You would also understand ASUADPi if you had joined an NPHC sorority and encountered someone who also joined the NPHC sorority but didn't love it like you did. You admitted that you did not research and think about the issue of sorority affiliation as you should have but I agree with ASUADPi that you put much of the blame and onus on the NPC sorority rather than on yourself.

Let's be honest: There is a reason you probably haven't shared this wish to disassociate NPC and join NPHC with many people off the Internet. You know the types of responses you would receive. You could have researched your NPHC options by contacting NPHC chapters or NHQs but you chose a more anonymous message board instead. You claim you would tell the NPHC sorority that you were once NPC but I think if you were truly so forthcoming, you perhaps wouldn't have needed Greekchat advice in the first place.

Good luck to you.