re-rushing next semester: common thing?

[ASTalumna06]

Originally Posted by thetalady

Oh, OK... so LYING is the way to go? Because no one in another fraternity could possibly know the truth, right?

You can lie as long as you're not dressed like a nerd.

[33girl]

Unless the fraternity he was dropped from is so excruciatingly low on the pecking order that no one pays attention to anything they do, I don't think lying would be a very good plan.

[BadCat25]

Its only a lie if he gets caught and with 30 IFC chapters at MSU it is unlikely that all of them would know all the gory details about what happened. Or how about this, after bids were handed out both he and the chapter realized that he was not a good fit and the termination was by mutual agreement.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by LaneSig

If they did, you have to be aware that the fraternity has members with friends in other chapters. Depending on the reason for being dropped, they may have spoken about it to other chapters: "Yeah, we lost a pledge because of ....." You need to be prepared that a group might have heard about the drop and ask you about it.

You also need to be prepared for groups asking you if you pledged anywhere last semester. Don't lie. If you lie and they find out, you could potentially be dropped again. If you don't want to say you were dropped, just say something along the lines of "It didn't feel like a good fit once I was in their program." Again, just like the Boy Scouts say, be prepared.

Good luck to you.

I'm more inclined to believe the guy when talking about guy things. Yes, it is a huge system, but you do not know who knows who.

[thetalady]

Originally Posted by BadCat25

Its only a lie if he gets caught and with 30 IFC chapters at MSU it is unlikely that all of them would know all the gory details about what happened. Or how about this, after bids were handed out both he and the chapter realized that he was not a good fit and the termination was by mutual agreement.

Sounds like you will make a great politician some day

A LIE is a LIE, whether or not anyone knows it. You seem to have a serious lack of ethics and morality.

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by BadCat25

Its only a lie if he gets caught . . . .

I'm embarrassed for you. You might want to consult a dictionary, or is that a nerd thing to do?

Originally Posted by 33girl

I'm more inclined to believe the guy when talking about guy things. Yes, it is a huge system, but you do not know who knows who.

This!

[Phigirl04]

Originally Posted by BadCat25

Its only a lie if he gets caught and with 30 IFC chapters at MSU it is unlikely that all of them would know all the gory details about what happened. Or how about this, after bids were handed out both he and the chapter realized that he was not a good fit and the termination was by mutual agreement.

As someone with some experience at Michigan State, just want to say that despite their being 30 chapters it's still not a huge Greek system. People know each other and depending on why he was dropped, there is a good chance people know.

Plus if you have to lie to get in, you'll end up spending your whole time trying to make sure no one finds out. It's just not worth it. Be upfront and hopefully you can find a brotherhood where you fit and they can see past this. Groups are welcoming but really it's going to come down to the why of what just happened. Ask yourself what caused you to be dropped and if there is something you need to do to fix it, then make those changes. Otherwise you risk having the same thing happen again.

[XiPrincess]

I know someone that goes to school at ASU and pledged a fraternity his freshman year. I won't disclose what happened, but I'll just say that he got dropped from pledging for a good reason.

Fast forward to fall of his sophomore year and he rushed again. He ended up getting a bid from a respectable house despite having told them what happened. They were understanding and now he's a brother.

I know these are completely different schools, but just highlighting that being honest won't hurt you in all cases.