Sorority Life 3 - Page 17

tnxbutterfly · #**241** 10-15-2003, 11:02 PM

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Originally posted by Honeykiss1974
Ok, I did too. Honestly, if I was an active, I would have asked her to leave too. Their halfway through the pledge program and Meena hasn't attended ANY event, gotten to know any actives, or sisters that live outside the pledge house. If I was that busy, AT MINIMUM, I would keeping in touch with Val (the pledge mom) and my Big Sis to let them know what's going on.

Remember their first pledge meeting? Meena didn't even ask as active or pledge what she missed. She just was like, "oh well".

Yep, I would have asked her to leave too.

I'm going with the actives on this one. What if she was out in the real world and she tried this mess at her job. Trust, her bosses would not be as understanding as the Zeta Sigma Phi's have been.

MeLikey · #**242** 10-16-2003, 01:07 AM

So at first I was like Meena needs to definitely go, then this episode when I saw how close she was getting to Janelle and Carmen, I was like aw this is really sweet, but then when the actives confronted Meena about being there just for MTV and her kind of brushing that aside and not strongly denying it-- yeah, the sisters were right on this one. Not to mention that if she really cared in the first place, she would have made more of an effort to be at events-- okay, so she couldn't go to like all of the events, but that doesn't mean she doesn't have an hour here or there to try to at least get together with an active sister or 2 just to get to know them better-- she looked dumb when she couldn't even remember the active's name she cooked breakfast for.

KDbutterfly · #**243** 10-16-2003, 03:12 AM

This sorority really bothers me. After tonight, I really am rooting for the pledges to DP. They didn't even warn Meena or anything. It was unfair, and yes, she wasn't at any events, but the way they went about doing this was terrible. They were so rude to her. This isn't just bad sisterhood, this is just plain bad. If those actives had any human decency, they wouldn't treat a person with such disreguard. No warning, just boom, you're out. I'm sorry, but that just sucks. I'd get out of this house quick if I were them.

smiley21 · #**244** 10-16-2003, 04:59 AM

if meena was all touched and happy that she finally has close friends then why didnt she make a bigger effort?
its like she thinks the sorority is there for her but she isnt there for the sorority.

LeslieAGD · #**245** 10-16-2003, 06:52 AM

Although I don't disagree that Meena would not have been voted to cross over and so it was better to remove her now than later, I thought the way it was handled (or at least the parts we saw on tv) were just mean. Obviously, she's never pledged a sorority before. And while it may seem like common sense that you need to attend the majority of events and make a strong effort to get to know people, if she was lacking (and we know she was), then the sisters should have made a point to tell her that earlier in the pledge process. I mean, her pledge educator is Stone Face and her big sister disliked her...what kind of start is that? I just think the chapter came off looking like jerks.

zchi2 · #**246** 10-16-2003, 09:09 AM

It's really funny to me how Meena through out the meeting with the actives, she didn't show much emotion when they were depledging her (I'm sure MTV wouldn't leave that out) but wanted to cry when the pledges were crying.

The sorority is not just there so you can pick and choose who you want to talk to. The LEAST she could do was talk to her big sis. The reason why her big sis didn't like her was because Meena didn't even try to get to know her. She made NO effort to go out of her way to do ANYTHING. So what if she got along with her roommates. She isn't there long enough to not get along with them.

Janelle kept on saying that "this isn't sisterhood" but what was Meena doing to show she had sisterhood. Sisterhood is about being there for one another and Meena wasn't there for anyone. Since Meena was going to be leaving soon, she should of been the MAIN person busting her butt to get to know people.

Also how can she go through four years in college and not have friends? I couldn't believe it when she said that she finally have friends. Most dance teams and sport teams are like families (sometimes closer than sororities) because you have to spend so much time with them practicing and going on road trips with one another. I could understand if she studies ALL the time and never had any time for a social life but I think of her activities as a social life. Why aren't those people her friends? Make me question what type of person she really is....

shadokat · #**247** 10-16-2003, 09:54 AM

I agree she wasn't pulling her weight and what not, but DAMN, that was just cold! To ask a girl to move out of the house, in the middle of the semester/quarter and in the middle of midterms? I mean, come on!! I just wonder what her housing options are right now! It was nice to see Janelle upset about it, and the other nice thing was when she said she was thinking of depledging, Meena told her not to. If Meena wanted to make drama, she could, because she could easily sway some ladies into leaving.

But, all in all, this is only the 3rd episode I actually watched, and it is STILL BORING!

33girl · #**248** 10-16-2003, 10:23 AM

I agree w/ the moving out thing somewhat - but they did give her an extension. (i.e. go to sleep, take your midterm and then pack up) They came back the next day and she hadn't done ANYTHING. If the other house pledges loved her so much, why didn't they help her with her packing and so on?

I'm fairly sure that MTV, if not the sisters, would not leave her unhoused and probably had an apartment nearby in case something like this happened. Also, there could have been something in their MTV contracts that said if a person is not affiliated with the sorority they cannot reside in the pledge house (to prevent things like boyfriends shacking there). They may have been afraid of violating the terms of the contract (and losing $$$) and that is why they were harsh.

And if you have not been to a single event, haven't done jack as far as getting to know people outside the events, and don't seem to be too upset about it, why on earth would you be surprised that you got kicked out??? That would be like if you never went to work and didn't understand why you got fired.

sunnycheeks · #**249** 10-16-2003, 10:43 AM

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Originally posted by LeslieAGD
Although I don't disagree that Meena would not have been voted to cross over and so it was better to remove her now than later, I thought the way it was handled (or at least the parts we saw on tv) were just mean. Obviously, she's never pledged a sorority before. And while it may seem like common sense that you need to attend the majority of events and make a strong effort to get to know people, if she was lacking (and we know she was), then the sisters should have made a point to tell her that earlier in the pledge process. I mean, her pledge educator is Stone Face and her big sister disliked her...what kind of start is that? I just think the chapter came off looking like jerks.

I totally agree! I mean, if there was a problem during the first four weeks and the actives had even a slight idea that they would not let her "cross over" - they should have let her know and given her a chance to prove that she really wanted it. I completely agree that she was a slacker, but I've been through the process before and now have my own expectations. Some ladies just don't get it - maybe some earlier intervention could've helped ....

zchi2 · #**250** 10-16-2003, 10:56 AM

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Originally posted by sunnycheeks
I totally agree! I mean, if there was a problem during the first four weeks and the actives had even a slight idea that they would not let her "cross over" - they should have let her know and given her a chance to prove that she really wanted it. I completely agree that she was a slacker, but I've been through the process before and now have my own expectations. Some ladies just don't get it - maybe some earlier intervention could've helped ....

But who in their right minds would think that you don't have to do ANYTHING to get into a sorority. If those were her "friends," why would she feel bad that they had to do all the work and she wasn't doing anything? She never even tried to make up the events she missed.

If you were dating someone and they stood you up on every date that you all had planned, wouldn't you dump that person? Or would you just stay together because they didn't get a warning that your relationship is in jeopardy?

AXEgirl · #**251** 10-16-2003, 12:26 PM

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Originally posted by zchi2
But who in their right minds would think that you don't have to do ANYTHING to get into a sorority. If those were her "friends," why would she feel bad that they had to do all the work and she wasn't doing anything? She never even tried to make up the events she missed.

If you were dating someone and they stood you up on every date that you all had planned, wouldn't you dump that person? Or would you just stay together because they didn't get a warning that your relationship is in jeopardy?

I agree! The actives don't owe Meena anything! She hasn't tried to get to know anyone in the sorority. Didn't she say on an earlier episode that if she didn't live in the house she wouldn't know any of the other pledges? That's ridiculous! The fact remains that pledging wasn't a priority to her, and she showed it!

And beyond that, she didn't even try to make up for what she missed! And in the "confrontation", she said that "Carmen and I made breakfast for what's-her-name". She didn't do that, Carmen did! She'd be a slacker sister (not that she would be around) and she deserved to be DP'd.

gamma_girl52 · #**252** 10-16-2003, 12:43 PM

I'm with the actives on this one. Meena needed to be dropped for the reasons already stated. I may seem mean, but I was saying to myself, "cry me a river!" It's a little late to try to stand up for yourself now, making all of these promises (I'll try harder, I'll start coming to more things now, I missed the biggest dance competition in the country for this, etc. etc), KNOWING FULL WELL you can't keep them. It is just not the right time for Meena to pledge anything and she should have known that from the beginning. And then the girls in the house felt compelled to talk to the sisters. It would have been different if EVERY SINGLE pledge in the pledge class wanted her to stay, and maybe if I were an active I would have taken it into account. However you have 10 other pledges feeling the same as 25 actives. You do the math.

Meena's a great girl, but not the greatest pledge. Something to think about...

ToBeSororityGrl · #**253** 10-16-2003, 03:29 PM

I keep remembering her big sis, Lynnise saying "ITS OVERRR" and I thought that was a bit harsh. Yeah, it's over, but do you have to be so rude about it?

Along with what some people were saying, where was that poor girl going to live getting kicked out in a day? But then again people get evicted from their homes all across the country every day, her's was just aired on TV

essenceofomega · #**254** 10-16-2003, 03:36 PM

Hey there,

Just needed to put my two scents in there. Meena got what she deserved. The girl has not been to any events, hardly any points or anything. None of her pledge class sisters outside the house really knew her. She needed to be DP'd. I am glad they did kick her out, she was irratating me, lol.

KDbutterfly · #**255** 10-16-2003, 07:13 PM

I'm sorry, but no one has the right to treat people as coldly as they treated Meena. It sent chills down my spine. It's like they had no hearts or no sympathy. If they're going to kick her out, fine, but cut the girl a little slack. You're throwing her world upside down by kicking her out and forcing her to move out on national tv. And they didn't give her time, they gave her a day, and when she asked for just one more night, they're like, "fine you can leave your stuff here for the night, but you can't stay here." Um, hello? That is just plain evil.