Cutting or pledging a group for dumb reasons

Originally Posted by GphiBGirl10

I chose mine cause my mom told me that if i pleged any other sorority she would disown me (needless to say im a legacy)... just goes to show that mommy knows best cause i am so happy with gamma phi and i can't ever picture myself with anyone else

If my mother said such a thing to me, I wouldn't even bother with the Greek system.

I feel sorry for any mother who feels the need to say such a thing to her daughter.

It's great that you found your home in Gamma Phi and you and your mom can share in that sisterhood. That's not always the case with other legacies. They shouldn't feel the need to be an XYZ just because [insert family member here] is an XYZ.

[SWTXBelle]

Now, she could have been kidding. I've always told my daughters they can go ahead and break my heart and pledge something other than Gamma Phi. They KNOW I'm kidding, and that above all else I want them to be happy. If they can be happy and be the third generation to wear the crescent, even better, of course.

Originally Posted by SWTXBelle

Now, she could have been kidding. I've always told my daughters they can go ahead and break my heart and pledge something other than Gamma Phi. They KNOW I'm kidding, and that above all else I want them to be happy. If they can be happy and be the third generation to wear the crescent, even better, of course.

Oh, I definitely know that. But I have seen rush threads over the years where PNMs have shared that "mom and grandma are XYZs and if I'm not an XYZ too they'll disown me!"

I've also seen threads where a parent will tell their PNM kid they can join whatever sorority they want, but if it's not theirs, they refuse to pay for dues.

[UGAalum94]

Originally Posted by OTW

Oh, I definitely know that. But I have seen rush threads over the years where PNMs have shared that "mom and grandma are XYZs and if I'm not an XYZ too they'll disown me!"

I've also seen threads where a parent will tell their PNM kid they can join whatever sorority they want, but if it's not theirs, they refuse to pay for dues.

It's this kind of pressure that makes groups cutting legacies seems so harsh. The parents must not know what it's like these days and how many legacies get released.

[aephi alum]

Originally Posted by GphiBGirl10

I chose mine cause my mom told me that if i pleged any other sorority she would disown me (needless to say im a legacy)... just goes to show that mommy knows best cause i am so happy with gamma phi and i can't ever picture myself with anyone else

I am glad you're happy with your choice... sometimes a legacy really fits with her legacy sorority.

One of my sisters (I'll call her "Rose") has an aunt who's an AEPhi. The aunt would only allow her daughters to apply to colleges that had an AEPhi chapter. None of the daughters actually joined AEPhi.

Meanwhile, Rose went to a school where there were four NPC chapters, none of them AEPhi. Long story short - she and six other Jewish women formed a local sorority, which I later pledged - and which is now a chapter of AEPhi.

Rose's aunt flew in for our AEPhi initiation.

[Scully]

Originally Posted by aephi alum

I am glad you're happy with your choice... sometimes a legacy really fits with her legacy sorority.

One of my sisters (I'll call her "Rose") has an aunt who's an AEPhi. The aunt would only allow her daughters to apply to colleges that had an AEPhi chapter. None of the daughters actually joined AEPhi.

Meanwhile, Rose went to a school where there were four NPC chapters, none of them AEPhi. Long story short - she and six other Jewish women formed a local sorority, which I later pledged - and which is now a chapter of AEPhi.

Rose's aunt flew in for our AEPhi initiation.

See how everything works out It was meant to be.

[speedsters]

i do love how easy it is to get ZTA monogrammed, so it definitely makes up for not having any 'greek' looking letters. my favourite item is my LL Bean, totebag with teal straps and ZTA on it

[princessjv]

Reason one of the girls I was going through recruitment with cut a house "The rooms and the house are way too pink for me!"
...Thats why I loved the house! haha

[violetpretty]

Originally Posted by princessjv

Reason one of the girls I was going through recruitment with cut a house "The rooms and the house are way too pink for me!"
...Thats why I loved the house! haha

When I went through recruitment, DG had their upstairs hallways painted bubblegum pink on one floor and light blue on the other floor. I really liked it, but when I commented about it to the DG active I was talking to, she was like "Ugh, we are going to paint over it soon, everyone thinks it looks tacky." Come on, it's a sorority house, the decor should be fun!

[RushLeader08]

i had to cut this one sorority because this mean girl from my high school was in it and she was so snoody!

[APhiAnna]

Originally Posted by violetpretty

When I went through recruitment, DG had their upstairs hallways painted bubblegum pink on one floor and light blue on the other floor. I really liked it, but when I commented about it to the DG active I was talking to, she was like "Ugh, we are going to paint over it soon, everyone thinks it looks tacky." Come on, it's a sorority house, the decor should be fun!

Haha, this reminds me...one of my really good friend's recruitment advisors donated this hilariously tacky rug...I mean really hideous...that was in the sorority colors and had their letters on it. It was huge and really gaudy, and she demanded that it be displayed in the foyer during recruitment (they keep it locked up in the basement during the rest of the year because they hate it so much!). My friend said that their recruitment chair during house tours had to keep reminding actives not to talk badly about it because they were all so embarrassed and kept assuring PNMs, "don't worry, that rug is only out for house tours!". Maybe it's only funny if you could see it...they kept comparing it to that word vomit scene from Mean Girls...everytime they walked by it the actives felt compelled to assure the PNMs they thought it was ugly too!

[sjsoffer]

On my campus, DZ had a strategy of shouting their chants as loud as they could, intentionally trying to be the loudest. It's stupid, but standing in their front hall, listening to this, I was pretty much terrified! I kept waiting for it to be over.
:S

[KSUViolet06]

Dumb reason to cut/keep a chapter:

Because you heard they were ___________ on "that website."

Because you think their letters look "cute" or you think they look "ugly/stupid."

Because you like/dislike their colors.

Because you heard *insert stupid rumor from fraternity guy here*.

[KSUViolet06]

More stupid reasons to keep/join a chapter:

Because you think boys will like you more if you become a ________.

Because all the popular girls from your HS are ________s.

Because your boyfriend's fraternity only dates/mixes with _______s and you're afraid he'll break up with you if you don't end up pledging there.

Because all the girls in your group seem to really like _________ and you don't want to be the only one who doesn't.

Because all of your high school BFFs love __________ and you all want to be in the same sorority, so you have to like ________ too.

Because Carrie Underwood/Neve Campbell/Ashley Judd/insert celebrity here is a ________ and you love her.

Because your friend AT ANOTHER SCHOOL is a __________ , and her chapter is considered the "rich/pretty/cool/party/whatever stereotype you like sorority" and you want to be one.


Stupid reasons to drop a chapter:

Because a girl who once gave you a dirty look in 8th grade is a ______.

Because that teacher you hated in HS is a ________ alumna.

Because you hate the color ________. (I joined a sorority whose main color is not my fave)

Because you don't like pandas/sailboats/teddy bears/doves/angels/whatever.

Because you heard that the girl who plays Izzy/Meredith/whoever on Grey's is a ___________ and you HATE her character.

Because ________ only has 2 letters, and it would make your boobs look weird in tee shirts.

[ASTalumna06]

At one of our recruitment events a few years ago, I overheard one PNM saying to another that she would only consider joining our sorority because our letters "flowed" better than the other two... and that ASAs letters were too symmetrical.

Fortunately, she didn't come back after that.