In-law venting thread

[summer_gphib]

My in-laws are miserable, awful people. They live 800 miles from us and it isn't far enough. They decided to rent a condo four hours away from us, and have us come over for the weekend (last weekend). By the time we got there they had a list of complaints of what was wrong with the condo they were going to submit. Including that the chandelier needed to be re-wired because they didn't like that you had to plug it in to turn it on (as opposed to a switch). They were actually upset that the condo owners didn't arrange to have it done when they first complained. All they do is complain..

They are coming to look at our new house tomorrow. We are still very much working on it, but I'm sure they will have a list of things that we have done wrong or aren't up to their standards. I can't wait... lol They also made a point of saying "I can't wait to see what Adam has done to the house." I pointed out that I have worked really hard on it as well. His mom actually said to me "Well he's done all the manual labor." Really? Because I was on my damn hands and knees for days pulling up flooring. I also did the majority of unpacking, and was taking care of my mom who had just had hip replacement surgery. And when they left, she made of point to say "It was so good to see you, Adam." OMG I really might ask them to leave. I can't believe they are spending the night.

One of these days I'm really going to blow up on them. Seriously. Blow. Up.

[KDCat]

Originally Posted by summer_gphib

My in-laws are miserable, awful people. They live 800 miles from us and it isn't far enough. They decided to rent a condo four hours away from us, and have us come over for the weekend (last weekend). By the time we got there they had a list of complaints of what was wrong with the condo they were going to submit. Including that the chandelier needed to be re-wired because they didn't like that you had to plug it in to turn it on (as opposed to a switch). They were actually upset that the condo owners didn't arrange to have it done when they first complained. All they do is complain..

They are coming to look at our new house tomorrow. We are still very much working on it, but I'm sure they will have a list of things that we have done wrong or aren't up to their standards. I can't wait... lol They also made a point of saying "I can't wait to see what Adam has done to the house." I pointed out that I have worked really hard on it as well. His mom actually said to me "Well he's done all the manual labor." Really? Because I was on my damn hands and knees for days pulling up flooring. I also did the majority of unpacking, and was taking care of my mom who had just had hip replacement surgery. And when they left, she made of point to say "It was so good to see you, Adam." OMG I really might ask them to leave. I can't believe they are spending the night.

One of these days I'm really going to blow up on them. Seriously. Blow. Up.

If you blow up my MIL, I'll take care of yours.

You made me laugh. Glad I'm not the only one.

My MIL was here this weekend and it's like being dipped in a mild acid. It doesn't hurt too much at first, but eventually she just takes all your skin off.

[aephi alum]

Originally Posted by KDCat

If you blow up my MIL, I'll take care of yours.

New movie idea! "Throw Momma-In-Law From The Train"

[summer_gphib]

Originally Posted by aephi alum

New movie idea! "Throw Momma-In-Law From The Train"

How about "Throw Momma-In-Law From The Train and RUN HER OVER MANY TIMES!" LOL

[AGDee]

My dad's wife is like that and I have developed some methods of coping with it. First- I "say" whatever I want to her, in my head. So I just think the really nasty come backs. Second- I remind myself that it must feel miserable to be so unhappy and critical all the time. Third- I put on my "teflon skin" and just ignore most of what she says.

People can only get to you if you let them. Don't let her.

[summer_gphib]

Apparently my in-laws now officially blame me for their son not coming to see them. Seriously, they didn't get the hint that the last time he went up there, he stayed 3 days and still tried to get an earlier flight out?

And his brother apparently helped this theory by telling them that my hubby isn't coming up to see his mom for her 70th birthday because we have my high school reunion (20th!). While that's part of it, it may also be in part because when hubby asked his mother what her plans were for her birthday she said all she wanted to do was get drunk.

They think that because they drink wine they are sophisticated. Hubby and I don't drink at all--and we are looked down upon for that. :-P

[honeychile]

Wow! Suddenly, my in-laws are up for sainthood! But serious, atrianglepi, yours take the cake. My most sincere sympathy!

[summer_gphib]

Oh Lord... here we go again. (Keep in mind that my mother passed away 3 weeks ago--suddenly getting sick from complications of Rheumatoid Arthritis, she was only 58 and I'm doing ok--but definitely not great!)

We had planned this trip to see the in-laws in Virginia for about 6 months, so we decided to go ahead and go. I actually thought some nice mountain air could be good. WTH was I thinking? Within 20 minutes of getting there my FIL was talking about a hospital he toured--not a big deal until he starts going into great detail about the room where they do the autopsies and how they keep the bodies. My hubby quickly interjecting telling him this was not a good topic to discuss right now, but he continued going on and on about the "meat lockers"... it was awful.
The whole time we were there FIL never bothered to say he was sorry for my loss, anything. Mostly they would quickly change the subject whenever I wanted to talk about my mom.
But on the third day there, my MIL took the cake. She was asking how I was doing and how my dad is doing... and asked if we were going to do any grief counseling. I told her that a group would be starting at our church in Sept. and we were all thinking of going. She then told me she sure hoped my dad would go, because he might meet someone and get remarried. My jaw hit the floor. It's been 3 freaking weeks.
By the time we left all of the bitching, moaning, and complaining had done me in. (Because other than watch PBS that is all they do.) I cried for four hours straight after leaving there. We decided to stop in Myrtle Beach and spend two nights before coming home. That was my saving grace. It was wonderful. (I booked the hotel on Hotwire and got a $350 a night 2 bedroom suite at a 4.5 star hotel for $140 a night. It was amazeballs.)

[honeychile]

Please accept my sympathy, summer, on your mother's passing, and on having such idiot in-laws.

One day, I'll get the nerve to write about my mil, but it's not going to be tonight. Karma has been good to me, and I will be kind!

[summer_gphib]

Originally Posted by honeychile

Please accept my sympathy, summer, on your mother's passing, and on having such idiot in-laws.

One day, I'll get the nerve to write about my mil, but it's not going to be tonight. Karma has been good to me, and I will be kind!

Thanks... I've actually invited the inlaws down just before Christmas. They will be here from the 18th until the 22nd. On the 23rd we will be going to Disney until the 29th. I wonder what the hell I was thinking! I think I'm feeling sorry for them because their other son is having the first grandchild very soon--should be here no later than the 18th. But he won't allow his parents to be there or to meet the baby for a few months. And I think that is so awful that I've actually got sympathy for them. Should be interesting.

[IndianaSigKap]

^^ Summer, so sorry about your mother. I cannot even imagine how you feel. My condolences to you.

After reading this I am convinced your husband is adopted or was dropped off on a doorstep. How in the world did he become who he is today being raised by people that insensitive? Sorry for your ordeal.

[MaryPoppins]

Originally Posted by IndianaSigKap

^^ Summer, so sorry about your mother. I cannot even imagine how you feel. My condolences to you.

After reading this I am convinced your husband is adopted or was dropped off on a doorstep. How in the world did he become who he is today being raised by people that insensitive? Sorry for your ordeal.

Ditto, ditto! Sheez!

[summer_gphib]

Originally Posted by IndianaSigKap

^^ Summer, so sorry about your mother. I cannot even imagine how you feel. My condolences to you.

After reading this I am convinced your husband is adopted or was dropped off on a doorstep. How in the world did he become who he is today being raised by people that insensitive? Sorry for your ordeal.

I have no idea. If he didn't look so much like them I'd be convinced he was adopted too! LOL

[aephi alum]

I made a fundamental mistake in dealing with the in-laws ... spending most of Thanksgiving weekend with them.

They must be schizophrenic. One minute they're sweet as can be, the next minute they're hell on earth. They took DH and me out to two nice dinners for our birthdays, even though our birthdays are 5 days apart and near the holidays. Then, one evening, I was coughing, and FIL said, "You gonna die?!" - in a cheerful tone. Thanks a lot, asshole. I lost my mother last year and it still hurts like hell, and he "jokes" (so he claims) about how he wants me to die??

[summer_gphib]

Oh where to start... on Monday the hubby received an e-mail from his parents where they flat out stated that they don't like me, have never liked me, and never will like me. They were very disappointed that we are making the guest room into a kid's room (we are in the adoption process) and keeping our craft room. (We chose to transform the guest room because the craft room has a doggie door--and what kiddos don't like to do crafts?) Of course, the hubs showed me, and also called them and lost it on them. He told them that if they wanted a relationship they needed to sincerely apologize. Well apparently their hate for me is more than their desire for a relationship with me, because no apology has come. (Which is really sad!)
It's so out of left field-- I haven't seen or heard from them since Christmas when I invited them down. Their other son had just had a baby and didn't want them at his house, and kept them from meeting the baby for a couple of months. So I felt sorry for them, and had them down. My mom had just died and they weren't concerned for me at all and didn't seem to care that it was a bad Christmas for me.
I say good riddance, but my hubby is feeling really sad and rejected.