I Don't Date Outside of My Race...

[rhoyaltempest]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

A black African and black American can have tension if they act is if being on different continents constitutes huge differences in the "type of black" that they are rather than seeing themselves as part of the African diaspora. And if this is fueled by ignorance of black African and black American experiences and culture, it can be intrusive.

I assume you are a "white Latino" (in layperson's terms ) so it makes sense that this would translate into "racial" differences (rather that just cultural and ethnic) in your family's eyes. In this country and in Latin American countries, there is a great social divide between groups of people based on the color of their skin, features, and hair texture. So things like attractiveness and social status (i.e. the white privilege that people of European background receive all over the world) will be based on that. If you date someone of the African diaspora, familiarity with each other's "culture" would have to include acknowledging and discussing this without being too consumed with it.

This is so true. My husband (who's from Ghana) and I used to bump heads all the time when we first got married because of our perceived differences but we've since gotten over that. Now we embrace our likenesses and we can't believe how very alike we are despite our different upbringing. As for his family, they embraced me right away and have never had a problem with me being American although they did warn my husband that they would not be happy if he married a White woman, no matter where she was from.

[starang21]

i prefer white women.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by starang21

i prefer white women.

Liar.

[starang21]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

Liar.

ok,

light, bright, damn near white?

:thinking:

and long straight hair.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by starang21

ok,

light, bright, damn near white?

:thinking:

and long straight hair.

Liar.

[starang21]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

Liar.

:looks at chaos:

arty:

:fap:

[Fawn Liebowitz]

Please excuse my forum crash - I thought this was an interesting topic.

"they think they're better than you, they're nerdy, or they smell like
wet dog

I try not to date anyone that smells like wet dog, regardless of race, and I have to admit, that really made me laugh - I've never heard that one!

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by Fawn Liebowitz

I try not to date anyone that smells like wet dog, regardless of race,

[OhSoVeryLadylike]

Julian McMahon
Hugh Laurie

[Ronnie B]

Originally Posted by Ania

Please help me.

Let me begin by saying, even though I not against most interracial dating, I am against a black man dating a white woman.

Why do I make two different statements that don't match? Because, to me a white woman dating a black man reinforces all of the negative stereotypes of why black men don't date black woman(fat, lazy, loud, ignorant, ghetto glued in weave with bright orange nails.) Basically, that black woman are not wanted, not even by their own race. Ok, I just put myself out in the spotlight to get hammered from all sides.

Now, let me make things more complicated. My uncle will be bringing over his fiance' for Christmas and yes she is white. Unfortunetly, my uncle was one of those men that went to college loving a black woman and leaning on a black woman for support but now, is making lots of money and you know the rest. He claims that he loves this woman and he is worried about how our family is going to act.

Let's just say, I know I am going to be the mediator but I don't want to be. I wish I could talk to my family before they show up. I know this is weird, but please help me keep my family from stepping out of line and hurting their feelings.

This is actually bothering me. Regardless of my personal feelings, I don't want my family to act ignorant. Was anyone in a similiar situation? What did you do? Even if not, what do you suggest?

I agree. I don't like interacial relationships either. I would never get serious with a white woman. I would just hit it and quit it.

[lildiva9619]

I disagree with those statements. If a Black Man only sees Black women as lazy, loud, ignorant and ghetto, a white girl can have him! What kinda Black Men are you meeting? If that is how some black women wanna carry themselves, of course they're gonna go through that, or find a black man who's standards of living are equally as low. If you carry yourself respectably, and be a LADY, you'll find a good Black Man. HOWEVER I have been told that interracial dating is a "cultural thing". Some black men from down south and out west enjoy the company of white women. I'm not gonna say that it doesn't happen up here (in New York) but I don't see it very often. Here, Black Men LOVE BLACK WOMEN!

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by lildiva9619

I disagree with those statements. If a Black Man only sees Black women as lazy, loud, ignorant and ghetto, a white girl can have him! What kinda Black Men are you meeting? If that is how some black women wanna carry themselves, of course they're gonna go through that, or find a black man who's standards of living are equally as low. If you carry yourself respectably, and be a LADY, you'll find a good Black Man. HOWEVER I have been told that interracial dating is a "cultural thing". Some black men from down south and out west enjoy the company of white women. I'm not gonna say that it doesn't happen up here (in New York) but I don't see it very often. Here, Black Men LOVE BLACK WOMEN!

By "cultural" you mean regional cultures.

Some black men all over the country enjoy the company of white women and black men all over the country LOVE BLACK WOMEN! I do not have the regional statistics on regional interracial dating and marriage. But people's opinions on black men-white women isn't based on its real prevalence. It is based on its appearance and how visible it is in a particular area.

Although you may not see a whole lot of black men-white women couples walking around certain parts of NYC, you do see black men and nonAfrican diasporic women (i.e. Latina women who are not considered "Afro-Latina, Armenian, etc.).

[Dionysus]

Ya'll need to crack open some history and sociology books. lol

[starang21]

Originally Posted by Dionysus

Ya'll need to crack open some history and sociology books. lol

:thought:

[starang21]

i get stares.

go white girls!!!!!