A question for the Pretty Boys from a Pretty Girl.....

[cheerfulgreek]

Well, he met someone on myspace and he also had women calling and hanging up when his wife would answer the phone. This is all according to her. She told me the girls were from his myspace site. Even before I started working with her, I never liked myspace and I never had any interest in it. Some of my sisters have it and everytime I look over their shoulders to see, it just looks so creepy to me. I think it just eliminates a ton of problems that would cause an unhealthy relationship. I don't think I'm that picky of a girl, and I don't have a ton of ridiculous red flags that PB has, but it's just something about myspace that would drive me away from a guy.

christiangirl, I understand totally what you mean about the high number of sexual partners some guys have. Yeah, I totally would perfer a guy who wasn't "USED" but if I was with a guy who had been with multiple partners, then I guess I would be o.k. with it as long as he was nice and faithful to me, but still in the back of my mind I would still want that innocent guy.

I think women who sleep around are just looking for love the wrong way. I really can't speak for the guys. They just like having sex.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

Well, he met someone on myspace and he also had women calling and hanging up when his wife would answer the phone. This is all according to her. She told me the girls were from his myspace site. Even before I started working with her, I never liked myspace and I never had any interest in it. Some of my sisters have it and everytime I look over their shoulders to see, it just looks so creepy to me. I think it just eliminates a ton of problems that would cause an unhealthy relationship. I don't think I'm that picky of a girl, and I don't have a ton of ridiculous red flags that PB has, but it's just something about myspace that would drive me away from a guy.

christiangirl, I understand totally what you mean about the high number of sexual partners some guys have. Yeah, I totally would perfer a guy who wasn't "USED" but if I was with a guy who had been with multiple partners, then I guess I would be o.k. with it as long as he was nice and faithful to me, but still in the back of my mind I would still want that innocent guy.

I think women who sleep around are just looking for love the wrong way. I really can't speak for the guys. They just like having sex.

This is a shame, here I am checking GC before work.

Anyway.... this is the 1st time I've heard you mention this.

I feel ya on the myspace thing though. It's cool for those who like it, but for me it's just not my thing either. LOL, wait a minute, so that's why you asked me if I had myspace. You slick joker.

My red flags aren't ridiculous. I just have them to protect ME.

[IncontRHOllable]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

I do think it's a double standard for a man to say he wants a virgin or a woman who hasn't been around the block when he's been a hoe himself. Me personally, if a woman has slept with more than 3 she has no chance with me. I haven't been around the block, and I've never been a hoe, therefore I don't want a hoe or a woman that's been around the block. Fortunately, I CAN actually say I want a woman that's been with 2 or less without being a hypocrite. I've had several chances to be a player/hoe, but I turned it down everytime. It's not, nor has it ever been my thing. If a woman has kids, that's great for the men that are cool with it, but for me I don't have any kids so I don't want a woman with kids. Other than my student loan that I have to pay back, I have no baggage therefore I don't want to carry someone elses bags. In my past, I've always ended up dating women who have been out there, and I just got tired of it. Why should I have to be way down the line after all these other trifling jokers?

Since it was so hard for me to find a decent woman, I had given up and became celebate for 4 years. I wanted to wait for my ideal girl, someone who hasn't or doesn't hoe around. Someone who has been with the same or less men than I've been with women. I think it's only fair. Some people don't care, but I do.

When a woman ask me how many intimate relationships I've been in, I have no shame in my game. I tell the truth and hopefully she'll do the same. In my past they just kept lying to me. Well, don't sleep around if it's something you're not going to be proud of or something that you feel you have to lie about. I'm not perfect, no one is, but the high number of sexual partners, women with kids, past bad boys, and cheaters is something that I can't get down with. There's my 2 cents.

That is awesome that you are a man who actually believes in celibacy. Wow. I can say that I agree with most of your points except one. I am going to tell you something that a great man of God said to me. He said some of you are still single because you reject the blessing because it does not come in the package that you want. Most of the greatest gifts in the body of Christ come from the school of hard knocks. I had to learn the hard way how to get off my high horse of judgment and sit in the seat of humility. The very girl that you may turn away because she does not have this or she wears that or she did this or that 8 -10 years ago, is the very one that may be THEE ONE. But because of the seat that you are sitting at, you can't see her.

[Sugar08]

Originally Posted by IncontRHOllable

The very girl that you may turn away because she does not have this or she wears that or she did this or that 8 -10 years ago, is the very one that may be THEE ONE. But because of the seat that you are sitting at, you can't see her.

I really like this, IncontRHOllable. I think that using past behavior as an indicator of future behavior works... some of the time. But people DO change. Some of the greatest people are ones who did, well, immature things in their youth. To completely dismiss a woman or man as "used" based on what they did during a particular time in their life is short-sighted. And really, the only person missing out is the person doing the dismissing.

[IncontRHOllable]

Originally Posted by Sugar08

I really like this, IncontRHOllable. I think that using past behavior as an indicator of future behavior works... some of the time. But people DO change. Some of the greatest people are ones who did, well, immature things in their youth. To completely dismiss a woman or man as "used" based on what they did during a particular time in their life is short-sighted. And really, the only person missing out is the person doing the dismissing.

We're riding down the same street.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by IncontRHOllable

That is awesome that you are a man who actually believes in celibacy. Wow. I can say that I agree with most of your points except one. I am going to tell you something that a great man of God said to me. He said some of you are still single because you reject the blessing because it does not come in the package that you want. Most of the greatest gifts in the body of Christ come from the school of hard knocks. I had to learn the hard way how to get off my high horse of judgment and sit in the seat of humility. The very girl that you may turn away because she does not have this or she wears that or she did this or that 8 -10 years ago, is the very one that may be THEE ONE. But because of the seat that you are sitting at, you can't see her.

I just don't believe in sleeping around, and I prefer a woman who believes in the same. IncontRHOllable, I see your point and it makes sense, but at the same time while I do believe God sends us our mates, he only sends the right one, because he makes no mistakes. He sends what is best for us. The enemy also sends us mates too.

I know what I want in a woman, and I know what I don't want. I'm at the age now where I feel I can actually say this, but then again I've been this way since I was 14 and nothing has changed and I'm serious as a heart attack when I say that. If I can't have the total package than I would rather be single. Some things I just cannot accept and God knows what those things are, and I know he only wants the best for me. A high number of sexual partners, and revealing clothing is unacceptable. There's no excuse for a high number of sexual partners. I don't have a high number, so I think it's only fair that I should be blessed with the same.

We all make mistakes rather it's in the past or the present, and it's not my place to judge anyone, but I know if I picked up a snake and it bit me, of course I'm not going to pick up the same snake twice. Some snakes are not poisonous, but some are. I would recognize the poisonous snake if I ran across it again, and I would do whatever I could to stay away from it. The same thing applies to women for me. In my past relationships, they were all fast dressing women who had really fast sexual past experiences, and those relationships never worked out for me, and I just got so sick and tired of dealing with the same women. My reason for my 4 year drought.

Now, I look for things in my partner that are only going to give my life a little less stress, a relationship that's not only going to benefit me, but her as well.

[pinkies up]

^^^I agree. My hubby and I had previous relationships (it was obvious due to the children we had prior to dating and marrying one another). We made it work because WE shared the same goals, and visions. We loved eachother's children as well. His was mine and mine were his. It helped that we both loved God as well. For those who are looking; stop. When you have YOUR self together, your mate will be brought to you. I'm not saying it's utophia for us because marriage is HARD WORK!! Marriage is worth it though.

[christiangirl]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

My reason for my 4 year drought.

I'm sick of my four year drought. It's about time for some rain; I'm thirsty.

That's admirable. A lot of men don't get it, they have have to knock their head fifty 'leven times before they stop messing with the same women (and I've got some prime examples I wanna slap in the back of the head right now). I just have a problem with people generalizing women (and labeling me) because they once knew a trifling woman who I happened to have something in common with. Now, if a man keeps getting burned in relationships by women who were strippers, that's different. What shoes or accessories you wear are more a reflection of culture and fashion trends, but your profession says a lot more about you as a person. Not to knock the profession, but I've never heard of a tasteful, virtuous, well-mannered stripper.

[PrettyBoy]

Nupes, here's the verdict. I had the 2nd interview with Ford this morning. Well, I didn't get the job. That's the bad news. I figured I wouldn't get it because Ford just laid off a ton of designers, plus they've got a lot of plant closings too. Well, the good news is I have another interview with Toyota on Monday of next week and one with Magna next Wednesday. I'm really happy at the fact that Ford liked my portfolio enough to give me a 2nd interview. It just boosted my confidence. The guy I talked to at my presentation warned me that he couldn't promise anything, but he just wanted to see more of my work. I'm going to try Hot Wheels and Match Box too. A buddy of mine got hired at Hot Wheels. He likes it a lot. I'll keep you guys posted.

PB

Phi Nupie!

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by christiangirl

I'm sick of my four year drought. It's about time for some rain; I'm thirsty.

That's admirable. A lot of men don't get it, they have have to knock their head fifty 'leven times before they stop messing with the same women (and I've got some prime examples I wanna slap in the back of the head right now). I just have a problem with people generalizing women (and labeling me) because they once knew a trifling woman who I happened to have something in common with. Now, if a man keeps getting burned in relationships by women who were strippers, that's different. What shoes or accessories you wear are more a reflection of culture and fashion trends, but your profession says a lot more about you as a person. Not to knock the profession, but I've never heard of a tasteful, virtuous, well-mannered stripper.

I can't agree with the profession thing. Most women only like guys with a lot of money with high paying professions. There are a lot of men who are working and make decent money, not rich but decent money. Most women don't like guys like that. Personally I wouldn't go out with a woman who judged me based on my profession. My goal is to design autos, and designers make decent money but they're far from rich, but it's what I like. As far as the shoes, dress, and accessories go, I feel not only is the way a woman dresses a reflection on her, but also a reflection on me. I think in a relationship the woman and the man should compliment each other. How does it look when a woman dresses like a hoochie mama walking with a man who dresses in a conservative fashion, or a man who's pants are sagging or one who wears the ghetto, medium blue suits with the allegator skinned shoes to match and the same color blue top hat to go with it and those ghettofied shear blue socks with the lines in them to complete the hook up. Picture a guy like this walking with a woman who dresses in a consrvative fashion. To me they both look bad. The one that dresses conservative looks bad too, because she is with this dude. I'm not saying a woman has to wear name brand or anything, just a woman who isn't showey. As far as the stripper thing goes, I can see that. I wouldn't date a stripper, not because she's a stripper, but because I don't want other men getting an erection off of my woman, plus I don't feel it's a very respectful profession.

[IncontRHOllable]

Originally Posted by pinkies up;1468652 [B

For those who are looking; stop. When you have YOUR self together, your mate will be brought to you.[/B]

That is so true...

[IncontRHOllable]

Originally Posted by christiangirl

but I've never heard of a virtuous stripper.

because there is no such thing...

[christiangirl]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

I can't agree with the profession thing. Most women only like guys with a lot of money with high paying professions. There are a lot of men who are working and make decent money, not rich but decent money. Most women don't like guys like that.

I think that desire is portrayed so much in the media, that people think it's more true than it is. I truly don't believe the majority of women are golddiggers, it's just that the ones who are are the loudest and most seen of them all.

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

As far as the shoes, dress, and accessories go, I feel not only is the way a woman dresses a reflection on her, but also a reflection on me. I think in a relationship the woman and the man should compliment each other. How does it look when a woman dresses like a hoochie mama walking with a man who dresses in a conservative fashion, or a man who's pants are sagging or one who wears the ghetto, medium blue suits with the allegator skinned shoes to match and the same color blue top hat to go with it and those ghettofied shear blue socks with the lines in them to complete the hook up. Picture a guy like this walking with a woman who dresses in a consrvative fashion. To me they both look bad. The one that dresses conservative looks bad too, because she is with this dude. I'm not saying a woman has to wear name brand or anything, just a woman who isn't showey.

Ummm.....that's not what I was talking about.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by christiangirl

I think that desire is portrayed so much in the media, that people think it's more true than it is. I truly don't believe the majority of women are golddiggers, it's just that the ones who are are the loudest and most seen of them all.




Ummm.....that's not what I was talking about.

What did you mean then?

[christiangirl]

I wasn't really talking about a person's style reflecting on anyone else. I just meant that people are more likely to wear something they don't like to follow a fashion trend, thus accessories and clothing don't always reflect the real person. However, even though people will do work they don't enjoy if it helps them get by, an actual career choice says a lot about interests, etc. Moreso than clothing, which is a reflection on the person, but moreso of culture, fashion, and whatever's popular.

I think you got that point, but you went off on a tangent and I got confused.