I Don't Date Outside of My Race... - Page 13

nonchalant · #**181** 03-03-2007, 11:53 AM

I know that I couldn't date a white man. I am not sexually attracted to them. As they say, don't knock it until you try it. Well, this white dude was fine, so I tried it(damn Auburn University). The sex was great, but I felt nasty the whole time. It felt too different. The hair texture was all wrong. His lingo and motions were all wrong. He smelled different. That was my first and last white man.

I have dated mixed guys from black/latino to black/white(if they look more black) to puerto rican/black. I suppose you just have to have some black in you.

RoyalEmpress33 · #**182** 03-03-2007, 04:02 PM

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Originally Posted by nonchalant

I know that I couldn't date a white man. I am not sexually attracted to them. As they say, don't knock it until you try it. Well, this white dude was fine, so I tried it(damn Auburn University). The sex was great, but I felt nasty the whole time. It felt too different. The hair texture was all wrong. His lingo and motions were all wrong. He smelled different. That was my first and last white man.

I have dated mixed guys from black/latino to black/white(if they look more black) to puerto rican/black. I suppose you just have to have some black in you.

I can agree with you on this...especially Puerto Ricans (with African ancestry)...yum!

starang21 · #**183** 03-03-2007, 04:13 PM

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Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

And I personally don't see a shortage of God fearing, fine as hell, and educationally and professionally accomplished black men who respect and treat women well.

so you're just saying i was just a phase to you?

:sad:

_Opi_ · #**184** 03-03-2007, 06:15 PM

Sometimes you can't help who you are attracted to. I personally cannot say, I am exclusively attracted to men of the _____ race, because that would be a damn lie.

Race aint nothing but a...

As an aside: I used to find John Mayer sexy, but that all changed when I heard he got with whats her face Jennifer Hewitt.

delph998 · #**185** 03-03-2007, 06:44 PM

That's what's up Nonchalant. I'm with you, although I've never dated outside my race. I'm attracted to men of other ethnicities and races; but to me, their looks will never compare to a brotha's. I am loyal to African American men--all heights, weights, complexions, socioeconomic statuses, etc. I love my brothas. Nuff said.

Singing Angie Stone's Black Brotha.

"You got your blue collar brotha, light-skinned (dang is that right?) brotha, down for whatever, chillin' on the corner brotha, talented brotha, and to everyone y'all behind bars, you know that Del loves ya!"

cheerfulgreek · #**186** 03-04-2007, 03:16 AM

Race isn't that important to me. As long as he's a nice guy and I'm physically attracted to him. I've never slept with a black guy before though. I'm not saying I wouldn't, it's just that I've only had white boyfriends.

Where I go to school, interacial dating is very high in this city.

BellaSF · #**187** 03-04-2007, 10:52 AM

This post actually made me think about the men I've dated. They all were of African (black) descent except one that was half puerto rican. I was acttracted to one Caucasion man my senior year of high school...but he was built like a Greek God and had a really good tan from playing soccer every day. However, I didn't date him. I'm attracted to all types of men from Phillipino to...um...whatever, but my preference has been and always will be black men. They're sexy as heck. I love brown skin! And dark skin on a tall chiseled man is HELLA SEXY!!! Tall, dark and handsome is how I like 'em! Oh, I only date men with Carribbean descent. They're different from regular black americans (no disrespect).

black_princess · #**188** 03-04-2007, 03:31 PM

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Originally Posted by BellaSF

This post actually made me think about the men I've dated. They all were of African (black) descent except one that was half puerto rican. I was acttracted to one Caucasion man my senior year of high school...but he was built like a Greek God and had a really good tan from playing soccer every day. However, I didn't date him. I'm attracted to all types of men from Phillipino to...um...whatever, but my preference has been and always will be black men. They're sexy as heck. I love brown skin! And dark skin on a tall chiseled man is HELLA SEXY!!! Tall, dark and handsome is how I like 'em! Oh, I only date men with Carribbean descent. They're different from regular black americans (no disrespect).

I can really cosign on the Carribbean man aspect, but if you only date black men with that type of heritage . . do you ever feel pigeon-holed (sp) . . I mean tall, dark, black, carribbean, chiseled are really specific qualifications. Do you ever have a hard time finding what you like? If not, can you teach a young girl (meaning me) ur secret ??

ChanelLover · #**189** 03-04-2007, 03:47 PM

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Originally Posted by black_princess

I can really cosign on the Carribbean man aspect, but if you only date black men with that type of heritage . . do you ever feel pigeon-holed (sp) . . I mean tall, dark, black, carribbean, chiseled are really specific qualifications. Do you ever have a hard time finding what you like? If not, can you teach a young girl (meaning me) ur secret ??

Teach me too!!

1908Revelations · #**190** 03-05-2007, 04:18 PM

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Originally Posted by Obsession8

Re: the topic at hand...

Interracial dating is not my personal cup of tea. I believe in Black families, plain and simple. I honestly can't see myself dating and/or marrying anyone else. As much as I don't want to sit around "waiting to exhale" for a decent Black man to come in my life, I'm not going to give up hope that easy, either. And, I, too, don't like it when other people exclusively date outside their race based on stereotypical reasons. When I see a brutha with "someone else" (esp. White), paranoia kicks in and I usually automatically think the worse (esp. if he has status). With that said, though, love is love and that can't really be helped. We're all individuals; you can't live your life to accomodate other people's opinions. It's just that the feelings, reasons, etc., for interracial dating/marriages should be genuine and not based on stereotypes, a one-time bad experience, etc.

Since I am supposed to be doing my homework this about summarizes ho I feel about dating outside of my race. I do not mind if someone else does it, but I like Soror Obsession8, don't really see myself dating anyone else. One of my good friends dated a white guy and he wanted to ste me up with one of his friends, but I had to pass. As long as my friend was happy I was too! I am not saying that I would never date outside of my race, but I have not given up hope.

1908Revelations · #**191** 03-05-2007, 04:21 PM

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Originally Posted by delph998

That's what's up Nonchalant. I'm with you, although I've never dated outside my race. I'm attracted to men of other ethnicities and races; but to me, their looks will never compare to a brotha's. I am loyal to African American men--all heights, weights, complexions, socioeconomic statuses, etc. I love my brothas. Nuff said.

Singing Angie Stone's Black Brotha.

"You got your blue collar brotha, light-skinned (dang is that right?) brotha, down for whatever, chillin' on the corner brotha, talented brotha, and to everyone y'all behind bars, you know that Del loves ya!"

I motion that this is a great comment.

Will this be properly seconded???!!!

DSTCHAOS · #**192** 03-05-2007, 04:29 PM

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Originally Posted by starang21

so you're just saying i was just a phase to you?

:sad:

Not at all.

I wuv u.

DSTCHAOS · #**193** 03-05-2007, 04:36 PM

There is historical and social significance for why many people are "loyal" to a particular race in dating and marriage. And of course there are just aesthetic reasons for a preference.

I think that it's fine to exclusively date a particular race. But don't defend this decision by speaking negatively of another race of men. Nonchalant's post was honest, but it frames her love for men of direct African ancestry around her (negative) experience with ONE white man.

I haven't read this thread b/c this topic just isn't that interesting to me. But if someone came in here saying they don't date black men or women because (insert an HONEST opinion or experience that can be interpreted negatively and lead to "racism" claims, etc.), some people would be up in arms. Maybe that's already happened in this thread--it could've been what the OP typed and it has since been diffused.

delph998 · #**194** 03-05-2007, 09:15 PM

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Originally Posted by 1908Revelations

I motion that this is a great comment.

Will this be properly seconded???!!!

That's what's up!

BellaSF · #**195** 03-05-2007, 11:30 PM

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Originally Posted by black_princess

I can really cosign on the Carribbean man aspect, but if you only date black men with that type of heritage . . do you ever feel pigeon-holed (sp) . . I mean tall, dark, black, carribbean, chiseled are really specific qualifications. Do you ever have a hard time finding what you like? If not, can you teach a young girl (meaning me) ur secret ??

Black_Princess, they're everywhere. Its just finding the ones with good character. Because these men know they're a good catch, a good amount of them are dogs. Just go where carribbean men hang out. Carribbean resturant, party, concert,etc. Plus I'm of carribbean descent so I'm surrounded by them all the time.