Rush - What to NOT do or say - Page 12

AXiDTrish · #1 08-09-2005, 12:35 PM

DON'T rely solely on a groups colors to make sure you have the right one.

DO learn the names of the sororities you are visiting....at least towards the end of recruitment.

Example: My sister when through recruitment and for preference cut the wrong group because she used their colors instead of their names when remembering them....unfortunately their colors were virtually the same as another and when she went to pref the next day....she realized she cut the wrong sorority!!!

#2 08-10-2005, 05:14 PM

Before rush:

Do not solicit for recs in the LJ sororitygirl community and not expect us to figure out who you are. If it wasn't hard to figure out who you are, what makes you think the Greeks at your school won't do the same?

jharb · #3 08-10-2005, 05:49 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by OTW
Before rush:

Do not solicit for recs in the LJ sororitygirl community and not expect us to figure out who you are. If it wasn't hard to figure out who you are, what makes you think the Greeks at your school won't do the same?

I would have to second this hard-core. You should go about things the proper way by contacting a local panhellenic if you don't know a woman in a particular group. Don't contact people through LJ where the average age of posters is 15!

KSUViolet06 · #4 08-13-2005, 08:53 PM

*If there's a chapter that you honestly do like alot and really feel comfortable, DO let them know by listening to your rusher talk and commenting on what she says. Engage in the conversation, and honestly show interest. Example: If you like ABC's philanthropy event, say so. But do so TACTFULLY.

On the same token,

This does happen so I'm going to say this:

*DON'T BE SO OVERZEALOUS ABOUT A PARTICUALR CHAPTER THAT YOU BECOME A STALKER! There are contact rules between sorority members and rushees during this time, so the 32,343,323 random house drop-ins, e-mails, IM's and phone calls about how you "Can't wait to be an XYZ!" will go unanswered, be seen as very creepy and possibly hurt your chances. Casual hello's and small talk (unrelated to rush) are perfectly fine. Most people know the limits of overzealous/borderline stalker behavior, so use your better judgement there.

KSUViolet06 · #5 08-15-2005, 08:54 AM

*DON'T go into recruitment ONLY WANTING XYZ and letting EVERY OTHER CHAPTER KNOW IT. You could be shooting yourself in the foot. If you tell EVERYONE, that you're "Going to get a bid from XYZ b/c blah blah blah", other chapters will think you're not interested and cut you. That puts you in a very tough spot if XYZ chooses not to invite you back. You'd have no invites. So keep your mind open about other groups.

*Don't insult other PNM's. That's just rude.

*The internet is a great tool, but DON'T JUDGE A CHAPTER BY IT'S WEBSITE.

*While it's AWESOME to have some prior knowledge about the sororities, don't be a "know it all".

*DON'T FORGET to have a support group. Whether it's a friend or your family, have someone you can talk to about your experiences during this time. If you get cut heavy or don't get a bid at all, it's nice to have people to comfort you. If you do, then you have people to share the news with!

KSUViolet06 · #6 08-16-2005, 07:35 PM

*DO NOT CHEW GUM DURING PARTIES. How is anyone supposed to hear/understand you when you're chomping your Winterfresh like a horse?

*DON'T ATTEMPT to leave in the middle of a party. No matter HOW much you just aren't feeling the chapter. That is INFINITELY rude to the sorority.

honeychile · #7 08-16-2005, 11:57 PM

One exception to the above: if you are about to be sick to your stomach or have severe intestinal distress, quietly ask to use a bathroom due to "extreme sickness". You may have to ask your Rho Chi/Gamma/whatever, but PLEASE make sure you leave the bathroom looking as good as it was when you entered it, and if you continue to be ill, again, tell your Rho Chi.

Yes, we once had this problem.

WVU alpha phi · #8 08-17-2005, 01:01 AM

I'm not sure if this has been said already.. just kinda skimmed the thread so sorry if this is a repeat!

To all PNMs, from my experience, do NOT listen to what other PNMs are telling you about the houses. Every night at the end of rush, I'd end up going back to the dorms with a group of other PNMs, and every night I'd hear the same thing: "Oh they told me tonight not to worry, I already have a bid." or "The girl that rushed me told me I'm pretty much in already." I used to be worried sick because I was never told any of that, and then I'd be convinced I wasn't going to get into my first choice. Well, come bid day, I received a bid for Alpha Phi (which was my top house) and quite a few of those girls that had been talking about their "guarenteed" spots at various houses didn't get bids there. So my point is, so much you hear during rush is just hear-say, and it's no point getting worked up over like I did.

OmegaPiSister · #9 08-17-2005, 09:53 AM

*Dont act desperate. You should show that you are interested in joining not that you NEED to join.

KSUViolet06 · #10 08-17-2005, 02:19 PM

* If you make philanthropy related crafts during rush, DON'T freak out if you don't finish it or it's not the prettiest thing in the world. The chapter could care less.

Jhawkalum · #11 08-18-2005, 05:15 PM

If your rusher offers to carry your drink as you walk to your seat or around the house, accept this. They want to carry your drink because they know you may be nervous and spill. If they spill, they aren't going to get flustered if they spill punch on the white carpet. They want to avoid all situations that would make you feel bad or uncomfortable.

I didn't understand this when on the first, and I wondered if they thought I was uncoordinated. Then I looked around and realized everyone was doing this for the PNMs.

KSUViolet06 · #12 08-19-2005, 04:53 PM

*If you're a legacy and you happen to be released from your legacy group. Do not have your mom/sister/aunt/grandma CALL THE CHAPTER to ARGUE OVER IT. Don't have them visit the chapter house either. That's rude.

*DON'T have them visit the Panhellenic office either. That's stupid because they have NOTHING to do with individual chapter decisions and you'll be wasting their time.

CarolinaDG · #13 08-20-2005, 09:22 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by JocelynC
*If you're a legacy and you happen to be released from your legacy group. Do not have your mom/sister/aunt/grandma CALL THE CHAPTER to ARGUE OVER IT. Don't have them visit the chapter house either. That's rude.

*DON'T have them visit the Panhellenic office either. That's stupid because they have NOTHING to do with individual chapter decisions and you'll be wasting their time.

And don't tell the chapter that you do end up going, "Yeah, I was a legacy of XYZ... My mom was pretty mad that they didn't accept me." Not cool.

lagirl33 · #14 08-22-2005, 07:09 PM

Also, don't take it personally if your legacy house doesn't invite you back. Just because your mom/sister was a ABC at one school, does not mean that you will fit in well with the ABC chapter at a different school. One girl who I rushed with last year was extremely upset when she was cut from her legacy house, but she really didn't fit with the girls in that house.

But, don't be afraid to tell a chapter that you got interested in Greek Life because of a friend/cousin/sister in that chapter at another school. My cousin is a DG at UCSD, and when I was rushing and asked why I chose to rush, I talked about her. It turns out that a girl from UCSD had just transfered to UCLA (who was a DG) and ended up knowing my cousin well. It was a fun convo, and we got to talk about the different schools, San Diego vs. LA, etc. Nice icebreaker.

LionTamer · #15 09-26-2005, 01:16 PM

DO think twice before joining as a pair or trio. Be sure you're joining because it's a good fit for YOU and not just a good fit for "the gang".