Wedding Invitation Etiquette Question - Page 12

KSUViolet06 · #**166** 11-10-2008, 02:01 PM

I don't know, I just kind of feel like couples could take the money they'd spend for the wedding itself and put it toward said down payment, if they really want a home badly enough to make a registry out of it.

I should also mention that the same couple who had a home buying registry was also registered at Crate & Barrel. I just thought it was weird to ask for both housewares and a down payment (and yes, there was a note asking you to please consider doing both).

honeychile · #**167** 11-10-2008, 02:58 PM

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I think the thing I've heard of that took the cake in terms of registries would be the HOME BUYING REGISTRY. The couple sets up a bank account and asks guests to contribute $$ to it in lieu of gifts, which will go toward the purchase of their new home.

http://www.bridaldownpayment.com/index.html#overview

I opened an invite that had a card from one of these places, and did a double take. I had never seen or heard of anything like this before.

If I got an invitation with that in it, the bridal couple would receive an etiquette book from me!

As wonderful as getting wedding presents is, wedding guests bring them in celebration of a wedding, not to be fleeced. If you really want a house, cut back on the wedding frills.

KSUViolet06 · #**168** 11-10-2008, 03:02 PM

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If you really want a house, cut back on the wedding frills.

See that's what I was thinking too. As a guest, I have no problem with contributing registry items to help you furnish your home and such. I do have a problem with helping you pay for THE HOME ITSELF. If you need a registry to buy a home, you don't need a wedding.

honeychile · #**169** 11-10-2008, 03:17 PM

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Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

I should also mention that the same couple who had a home buying registry was also registered at Crate & Barrel. I just thought it was weird to ask for both housewares and a down payment (and yes, there was a note asking you to please consider doing both).

I missed this part! I'll even spring for the etiquette book, if you want to give them one! Tell them it's from me, I don't care!

Somewhere, the good ship Tacky has to be sunk!

KSUViolet06 · #**170** 11-10-2008, 03:21 PM

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I missed this part! I'll even spring for the etiquette book, if you want to give them one! Tell them it's from me, I don't care!

Somewhere, the good ship Tacky has to be sunk!

Oh yes, not only should we PAY for the home, but furnish it with dishes and knick knacks as well.

Oh no need for you buy me an etiquette book because I'm not going. I was just too outdone by the invite and registries to even show my face.

honeychile · #**171** 11-10-2008, 03:24 PM

I just sent "Larry" an email, congratulating him on becoming the King of All Things Tacky. His scheme really takes the cake! I have never done anything like that before, and I feel... dirty.

RaggedyAnn · #**172** 11-10-2008, 03:57 PM

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Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

I don't know, I just kind of feel like couples could take the money they'd spend for the wedding itself and put it toward said down payment, if they really want a home badly enough to make a registry out of it.

I should also mention that the same couple who had a home buying registry was also registered at Crate & Barrel. I just thought it was weird to ask for both housewares and a down payment (and yes, there was a note asking you to please consider doing both).

That is tacky. I just thought there was the one registry.

Munchkin03 · #**173** 11-10-2008, 04:12 PM

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I missed this part! I'll even spring for the etiquette book, if you want to give them one! Tell them it's from me, I don't care!

Somewhere, the good ship Tacky has to be sunk!

I would LOVE to send etiquette books to those who have offended me in the manners department!

OneTimeSBX · #**174** 11-10-2008, 04:28 PM

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I would LOVE to send etiquette books to those who have offended me in the manners department!

do it! wrap it up nicely, bookmark the page that they need to refer to, and dont put a name on it! let THEM speculate who was ballsy enough to give it as a gift lol

Munchkin03 · #**175** 11-10-2008, 04:30 PM

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do it! wrap it up nicely, bookmark the page that they need to refer to, and dont put a name on it! let THEM speculate who was ballsy enough to give it as a gift lol

You know I'll do it, too!

I love etiquette and protocol-related stuff. I have a copy of Amy Vanderbilt's all-purpose book, and Emily Post's wedding book on my bookshelf at home. Nothing makes me happier than knowing when someone's been tacky.

KSUViolet06 · #**176** 11-10-2008, 05:17 PM

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I would LOVE to send etiquette books to those who have offended me in the manners department!

You know, Miss Home Buying Registry just might get an etiquette book from me. You should have seen my face when I not only saw THAT, but the Crate & Barrel registry card as well. It's as if they want us to BUY the home AND furnish it. Craziness. Like I said before, can't afford a home = you most likely do not need to be having a wedding.

honeychile · #**177** 11-11-2008, 02:16 PM

Correct me if I'm wrong, but I thought it was considered tacky to enclose such registry cards, that someone was to discreetly mention, "Sophronia & Hugo are registered at Macy's."

OneTimeSBX · #**178** 11-11-2008, 02:26 PM

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Correct me if I'm wrong, but I thought it was considered tacky to enclose such registry cards, that someone was to discreetly mention, "Sophronia & Hugo are registered at Macy's."

i thought so too...my bff sent separate cards in the mail about a week after the invites...long enough for people to not assume you are expecting gifts, but close enough where you can answer the question they may have had once they saw the invite.

my cousin also did a wedding website...it had a calendar of events (the rehearsal dinner, etc), the formal newspaper announcement, rsvp options, as well as maps and things so people could find the venue. the last tab of the page was registry info and links to the sites. she included the web address in her invitation. i thought this was a lot more tasteful than a list of stores lol!

honeychile · #**179** 11-11-2008, 02:39 PM

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i thought so too...my bff sent separate cards in the mail about a week after the invites...long enough for people to not assume you are expecting gifts, but close enough where you can answer the question they may have had once they saw the invite.

my cousin also did a wedding website...it had a calendar of events (the rehearsal dinner, etc), the formal newspaper announcement, rsvp options, as well as maps and things so people could find the venue. the last tab of the page was registry info and links to the sites. she included the web address in her invitation. i thought this was a lot more tasteful than a list of stores lol!

I do like those. Friends of mine have made "Wedding Gazette" type websites, and I thought they were fun, yet informative - and much less tacky!

PeppyGPhiB · #**180** 11-11-2008, 09:14 PM

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Correct me if I'm wrong, but I thought it was considered tacky to enclose such registry cards, that someone was to discreetly mention, "Sophronia & Hugo are registered at Macy's."

Yes yes YES. These are terrible! Just direct marketing for the stores that gave them the cards. They should NEVER be used.

Whenever I get a wedding invite I just go to a Web site like WeddingChannel.com and enter in the name, and viola, I have their registry info. I would never include registry in any invitation or mailing.