Retro Recruitment:: a brutally honest story

[OHNOITSJESS]

i've checked this thread like 260 times today...
and still... no update.

[aprocess]

I woke up just knowing I was getting a bid from serena. I let them know I loved them and got to know the girls so on such a diferent level. it was not 'girls I got to know at recuitment'. It was girls I wanted to share my life and memories with. I was so excited. I dressed up in clothes I wanted to wear for Serena. I had never been so excited to walk the long walk to campus as this day. I walked to my group leader, they gave me an envelopeand told me to sit on it (they did not want us to try to decipher where we got a bid to till they did their speel). my leaders revealed themeselves (a Marissa and a Ryan). They talked about hw much they enjoyed this process with us andtold us as soon as we opened up our envelopes to RUN to the house to join our sisters!

1.........2........3.......

I opened up my letter!!!!!!

This is a bid for 'aprocess' to join the house of....



























































































































Marissa.....











I was devestated. But like the other girls who ran to their house, I speed walked to Marissa. As I walked I could not figure out where I went wrong. I thought it was all good. I knew I wanted to be affiliated. Espescially since I had been so envious of my roomate and the memoreies she created her college year. So I continued to speed walk.

i passed several other houses--including serena. That one made me so sad. I saw all the girls I had met during the week. I started to walk slower now.


It stuck me.


I did not know one girl's name in marissa. I knew at least 12 in Serena, but not one girl stuck out or I had a memorale time with. This depressed me. I thought this was my decision, i thought both houses wanted me and I got to pick where I ended up. I did not know what happened.

I decided to make a left at a street away from the houses. I called my roomate so she could pick me up.

I no longer had a boyfriend I could cry to like I did last year. I felt so rejected.

My roomate came and picked me up and took me home where i wasn't just depressed about recruitment, but that i had n one to share that feeling with who would understand.

[aprocess]

By the second week of school, everyone was wearing their new letters/house names. I felt sad everytime i saw PNM/Members with letters (which was A LOT). I hadn't spoken to one girl in Marissa and no one even bothered to call me (no one even knew me in the house so why should they even bother?).

I would have felt so much better and comfortable to at least even visit Marissa and just make up an excuse like 'sorry, i had work on bid day' had i not told that one girl at pref that i loved Serena and that they were the house for me. The whole house probably now knew that i was not wanted at serena and since I knew i was probably on the bottom of their list--marissa-- i had to be REALLY low on serena's list. (TIP: this is why you should NEVER talk about another house. You make your rusher feel uncomfotable and KARMA IS INTENSE..... now I was uncomfortable to even go to Marissa)

By the end of week two, i got this message on facebook. Who was it from? Marissa? Serena???

another twist. to be continued in a couple of hours.

[ASUADPi]

Originally Posted by aprocess

I woke up just knowing I was getting a bid from serena. I let them know I loved them and got to know the girls so on such a diferent level. it was not 'girls I got to know at recuitment'. It was girls I wanted to share my life and memories with. I was so excited. I dressed up in clothes I wanted to wear for Serena. I had never been so excited to walk the long walk to campus as this day. I walked to my group leader, they gave me an envelopeand told me to sit on it (they did not want us to try to decipher where we got a bid to till they did their speel). my leaders revealed themeselves (a Marissa and a Ryan). They talked about hw much they enjoyed this process with us andtold us as soon as we opened up our envelopes to RUN to the house to join our sisters!

1.........2........3.......

I opened up my letter!!!!!!

This is a bid for 'aprocess' to join the house of....



Marissa.....



I was devestated. But like the other girls who ran to their house, I speed walked to Marissa. As I walked I could not figure out where I went wrong. I thought it was all good. I knew I wanted to be affiliated. Espescially since I had been so envious of my roomate and the memoreies she created her college year. So I continued to speed walk.

i passed several other houses--including serena. That one made me so sad. I saw all the girls I had met during the week. I started to walk slower now.


It stuck me.


I did not know one girl's name in marissa. I knew at least 12 in Serena, but not one girl stuck out or I had a memorale time with. This depressed me. I thought this was my decision, i thought both houses wanted me and I got to pick where I ended up. I did not know what happened.

I decided to make a left at a street away from the houses. I called my roomate so she could pick me up.

I no longer had a boyfriend I could cry to like I did last year. I felt so rejected.

My roomate came and picked me up and took me home where i wasn't just depressed about recruitment, but that i had n one to share that feeling with who would understand.

Honestly, I'm surprised too. It might just be me, but if I were rushing a girl who said "I found my home is XYZ" I can't say I would want her to be high on our bid list. Like I wouldn't want someone in my chapter or even give that "spot" to someone who has said that they basically wouldn't want to be there. Does that make sense?

Something tells me that this sounds like it was a computer glitch. That you were supposed to be matched with Serena but somehow you got matched with Marissa.

[ajmom3]

Wow, I haven't been so into a story since General Hospital back in the late 70's!!!!

[AlwaysSAI]

Wow, you're story has me on pins and needles.

CONTINUE!

[gee_ess]

Please, please do not make us wait so long this time...

We have to get on with life, with jobs, families, homework, eating, sleeping, showering...

We MUST know soon!

[Buttonz]

I need to know also now!

[tinydancer]

Your story has sure taken twists and turns that I didn't expect!

[breathesgelatin]

Originally Posted by ASUADPi

Honestly, I'm surprised too. It might just be me, but if I were rushing a girl who said "I found my home is XYZ" I can't say I would want her to be high on our bid list. Like I wouldn't want someone in my chapter or even give that "spot" to someone who has said that they basically wouldn't want to be there. Does that make sense?

Something tells me that this sounds like it was a computer glitch. That you were supposed to be matched with Serena but somehow you got matched with Marissa.

I'll be frank and say that if someone had said that to ME during pref night, I would have found it so insufferably rude that I would have attempted to find some way to have her CUT. LOL. I know that's not possible due to NPC regulations, but really - what could you expect from Marissa if you said that? I bet they weren't even expecting you to bid day when they saw that you were on their list.

Live and learn, I guess.

[tld221]

Originally Posted by breathesgelatin

I'll be frank and say that if someone had said that to ME during pref night, I would have found it so insufferably rude that I would have attempted to find some way to have her CUT. LOL. I know that's not possible due to NPC regulations, but really - what could you expect from Marissa if you said that? I bet they weren't even expecting you to bid day when they saw that you were on their list.

Live and learn, I guess.

on the other hand, maybe "aprocess" was so awesome as a PNM to Marissa that they were going to give her a bid regardless of she expressing that Serena was the house for her. and if that's the case, then i'd hope that they'd at least check up on her (because i think if "aprocess" had accepted another bid, Marissa wouldve known in the coming days/weeks, right?) i guess this crosses the line of mutual selection, because, IMO, Marissa giving "aprocess" a bid knowing that she wouldnt accept it is the equivalent of a PNM putting XYZ down on her bid card knowing she wouldnt accept a bid from them.

OR perhaps the girls at Marissa talked to Serena and it backfired. I still think it was a waste of time for a house to give a bid if a PNM clearly says she wants to be somewhere else. Doesn't that make that house look pushy or even desperate?

[irishpipes]

I thought she made the comment (about wanting to be a Serena) at Prefs? If so, it isn't as if Marissa necessarily "gave her a bid." They could have put her dead last on their list. If she was at a pref party, she has to be on the list somewhere. I think aprocess said they weren't a strong chapter (and Serena was), so it is foreseeable that Marissa could get down to the bottom of their list before hitting quota - even if they no longer wanted her.

[agzg]

I just want to get to the rest of the story!

[WCsweet<3]

I went almost two days with out checking! Next update tonight? Maybe? Please!

[breathesgelatin]

Originally Posted by irishpipes

I thought she made the comment (about wanting to be a Serena) at Prefs? If so, it isn't as if Marissa necessarily "gave her a bid." They could have put her dead last on their list. If she was at a pref party, she has to be on the list somewhere. I think aprocess said they weren't a strong chapter (and Serena was), so it is foreseeable that Marissa could get down to the bottom of their list before hitting quota - even if they no longer wanted her.

Exactly.

Which is part of why what she said was so inappropriate and rude.

I really think that any self-respecting chapter WOULDN'T call a PNM who refused a bid after what she said at pref night. Even if they really, really, really, really wanted her before.