nphc and anxiety

quietriot · #1 04-27-2007, 08:51 PM

i'm thinking about rushing for a black sorority, and have been for like a year but i have social anxiety disorder and the idea of a probate show scares the crap out of me and has kept me away. do you think greeks would be sensitive to this, or would i just get written off for being scared and not outgoing enough??? i realllly want to rush, but also a lot of the time i seriously just can't physically take being the focus of a group and i cant imagine theres any way to get out of doing a probate show because its such a tradition

BlueNYC2 · #2 04-27-2007, 08:58 PM

well if thats the case...the D9 aint for you...

Senusret I · #3 04-29-2007, 09:52 PM

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Originally Posted by MeiMeiCat

Sorry for some of the snarky answers you have gotten , dear. If your chapter isn't sensitive to your disorder, then they are answerable to National. A sister in a wheelchair wouldn't be expected to perform in a ceremony which required walking. Talk to your campus IFC or Panhellenic and ask about your specific disablilty and whether you can be discriminated against because of it.

For you mean people who posted, it IS a recognized illness by the AMA.

I hope you make a good choice, get a bid and do GREAT!

You reallllllllly don't know what you're talking about here. Are you in an NPHC org?

Reds6 · #4 04-29-2007, 09:53 PM

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Originally Posted by MeiMeiCat

Sorry for some of the snarky answers you have gotten , dear. If your chapter isn't sensitive to your disorder, then they are answerable to National. A sister in a wheelchair wouldn't be expected to perform in a ceremony which required walking. Talk to your campus IFC or Panhellenic and ask about your specific disablilty and whether you can be discriminated against because of it.

For you mean people who posted, it IS a recognized illness by the AMA.

I hope you make a good choice, get a bid and do GREAT!

Are we reading the same thread?

Reds6 · #5 04-29-2007, 10:49 PM

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Originally Posted by MeiMeiCat

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Yeah, I am thinking it's the same thread. This was her first reply.

And if you continued to read, which you probably didn't you would have seen where most stated that WE ALL have members that live with some type of disability. There is much more to serving in our organizations than just participating in a coming out show. Since you really don't understand NPHC and our process how can you comment or offer advice.

UGAalum94 · #6 04-29-2007, 10:57 PM

Another silly/ignorant question from an NPCer, in the AKA photos/video are they wearing sunglasses partly because their eyes are closed?

I know that may sound stupid, but they were moving like they were being guided solely by the girl in front of them, and they had their heads down too. Or is it just for style and uniformity maybe?

I hope things work out for the OP. I can see how the event would be stressful in a lot of ways: attention, crowds, etc. But maybe with the strength of the group she can overcome it, especially if she is strong in the other areas of service.

Random AKA thought: pink and green are powerfully associated with AKA, even by random white people. I have kind of a loud pink and green outfit (it's really not pretty enough for AKA), and I wore it to work one day, and another middle aged white woman (non-NPHC or NPC, in her case) remarked to me that those were AKA colors. I knew it already, but it was funny to me that she mentioned it to me. Not Delta Zeta or whatever, Alpha Kappa Alpha= pink and green.

12dn94dst · #7 04-29-2007, 11:04 PM

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Originally Posted by Alphagamuga

Another silly/ignorant question from an NPCer, in the AKA photos/video are they wearing sunglasses partly because their eyes are closed?

I know that may sound stupid, but they were moving like they were being guided solely by the girl in front of them, and they had their heads down too. Or is it just for style and uniformity maybe?

It's a means to disguise identity to enhance the surprise. Some chapters have their lines wear masks, either full face or just covering the eyes & nose (like in the pics Senusret posted), some paint faces, some don't do anything at all.

I would hope their eyes were open, but if not, WOW, they're good!

Reds6 · #8 04-29-2007, 11:41 PM

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Originally Posted by MeiMeiCat

My mistake. I thought it was an open forum and she seemed quite upset.

As it tells us in 1Thessalonians 5:15 "See that no one returns evil for evil; rather, always seek what is good (both) for each other and for all"

I may not know what I am talking about but I know when a person has been replied to in a harsh manner. Some replies were very mean.

And what meds are you on? If you read the entire thread, which I doubt you would have seen a variety of opinions on this open forum. One comment was questioning the validity of the post; see if you were NPHC or knew anything about it you would realize any prospective concerning themselves with a coming out show as opposed to being qualified to make line, making line, and most importantly serving the community through community service seems suspect.

Reds6 · #9 04-29-2007, 11:49 PM

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Originally Posted by MeiMeiCat

I said I was sorry. I am not on meds nor do I need to be unless empathy is an illness. That was unnecessary. She seemed upset and I was trying to be kind. I felt badly for her. This is obviously not the place for kindness. I will not be back. Sorry.

I'm sorry but BWAH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

AlphaFrog · #10 04-30-2007, 07:30 AM

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Originally Posted by MeiMeiCat

I will not be back. Sorry.

Sure, sure.

ladygreek · #11 04-30-2007, 11:29 AM

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Originally Posted by MeiMeiCat

I said I was sorry. I am not on meds nor do I need to be unless empathy is an illness. That was unnecessary. She seemed upset and I was trying to be kind. I felt badly for her. This is obviously not the place for kindness. I will not be back. Sorry.

That is a wise decision.

Senusret I · #12 04-27-2007, 09:04 PM

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Originally Posted by quietriot

i'm thinking about rushing for a black sorority, and have been for like a year but i have social anxiety disorder and the idea of a probate show scares the crap out of me and has kept me away. do you think greeks would be sensitive to this, or would i just get written off for being scared and not outgoing enough??? i realllly want to rush, but also a lot of the time i seriously just can't physically take being the focus of a group and i cant imagine theres any way to get out of doing a probate show because its such a tradition

It depends.

Are you seeing a doctor or counselor of some sort? I know that social anxiety disorder isn't about just being scared -- I suffer from panic attacks myself in certain situations. But I think the bigger issue is if you are receiving treatment. Sometimes these things can be helped with medication, but the meds will be useless if you haven't dealt with the psychological aspects. Sometimes the fear of the panic attack is greater than the fear of performing in public.

Anyway, even if you are cured of your S.A.D., that's still no guarantee that you will make line.

Good luck in your endeavors, and I feel where you're coming from.

quietriot · #13 04-27-2007, 09:11 PM

yeah i'm getting counselling and on medication. my case is heavily biological though, so its tough to treat, that's why i'm freaking out.
i'm hoping i can make a lot of progress with it over the summer though so in hopes to rush next semester.
and thanks for the reply.

IncontRHOllable · #14 04-27-2007, 11:24 PM

Have you ever thought about going grad chapter instead of undergrad? Sorry for what you are going through. Best of luck to you.

#15 04-27-2007, 11:54 PM

Well, I'm in an npc sorority, but I have a few things to say on this subject. In my experience of choosing a sister to join there are many requirements and characteristics we look for and although an outgoing personality is one of them it's not a deal breaker by any means. This past year actually there have been a few girls that joined who where very shy and the sorority has actually helped them with that. So, you should be upfront about your condition but say you're hoping the sorority will help you overcome and help you with it to show you are willing to try and change. That being said though, if that is the only reason you are not asked to join then this sorority isn't for you. A true sister would be understanding of those kinds of things and even though they should take you out of our comfort zone slightly to help you grow as a person, they should not mentally harm you by forcing you to do something you physically can not do.