Bama Sorority Recruitment 2010 - Page 11

baci · #1 08-11-2010, 02:11 PM

Throwing some hugs your way!

This is a very tough time for so many people. It is not just the young ladies that feel it, but also mom/dad/siblings/extended family/friends etc. It is a long chain that the process takes its toll on. We can't all get what we want or hope to go where we want to go.

"It only takes one" and "they're all good" doesn't always work in every single case. The process does work, but not for everyone no matter how openminded young ladies are.

I hope there is happiness in the end for your pnms

Tuuthfairy · #2 08-11-2010, 04:45 PM

[QUOTE=BSCAXOalum;1966696]Well, I was going to hold out posting but I think I need moral support. Lost my old username so I registered. Have two PNMs in my life rushing--one at Bama, one at AU. The Bama PNM is a dear friend and the Auburn PNM is a cousin. Auburn PNM seems to be doing well. Bama PNM was only invited back to 4 today. She's handling it well but there's not much room for more cuts. I've had the "only takes one," "they're all good," talk to try to offer support. I think she's disappointed but I think she's realistic as well. Not great grades but should have met the cutoff on most. Will keep you all posted and am so proud of the other PNMs--it's a tough week!!!![/QUOTE

sending you crossed fingers and moral support. how lucky she has you to help her through it.

bama.mom · #3 08-11-2010, 05:15 PM

[QUOTE=Tuuthfairy;1966780][QUOTE=BSCAXOalum;1966696]Well, I was going to hold out posting but I think I need moral support. Lost my old username so I registered. Have two PNMs in my life rushing--one at Bama, one at AU. The Bama PNM is a dear friend and the Auburn PNM is a cousin. Auburn PNM seems to be doing well. Bama PNM was only invited back to 4 today. She's handling it well but there's not much room for more cuts. I've had the "only takes one," "they're all good," talk to try to offer support. I think she's disappointed but I think she's realistic as well. Not great grades but should have met the cutoff on most. Will keep you all posted and am so proud of the other PNMs--it's a tough week!!!![/QUOTE

Oh that is really hard for your Bama girl. As you mentioned it is likely based on GPA this early. Did she have recs to all the houses? Around 1640 went through ice water teas Monday and Tuesday and those numbers are so huge that cuts are just going to happen. I hope she has a good day today and tomorrow and she has an enjoyable skit day. I'm sure you are doing a great job keeping her spirits up. Just remind her not to "tent talk" about her parties, etc. etc. Keep us posted.

BSCAXOalum · #4 08-11-2010, 02:07 PM

I agree and we're dealing with somoene who hasn't been groomed her whole life to be in a sorority like many of these girls. So I knew going in there would be some challenges with grades, right things to say, etc. I have just tried to be her #1 cheerleader but realistic with her and prepared her for this situation. FINGERS CROSSED EVERYONE and thanks so much for the support. Can't wait to see where everyone goes.

Loyally Kappa · #5 08-11-2010, 02:34 PM

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Originally Posted by BSCAXOalum

I agree and we're dealing with somoene who hasn't been groomed her whole life to be in a sorority like many of these girls.

Holding hand up as a guilty-as-charged mom. It's definitely a bit of a surreal experience ... but I was a fast learner when I moved to Alabama before my daughters were born. What do they say? When in Rome?

Best of luck to your PNM.

Mrskrabs · #6 08-11-2010, 02:25 PM

I heard from my daughter and she had 10! Has already been to one house that she didn't think was for her, but was pleasantly surprised after her visit today. I told her it seems to always work out for the best and just keep smiling! Glad to see so many happy moms today! This is much more nerve racking than I could ever imagine!!!

AXOrushadvisor · #7 08-11-2010, 02:27 PM

I have decided that it might be better for dd to go to college where there is no AXO chapter. I'm having a hard time getting through this week and it is only volleyball tryouts! I feel for all of you Moms out there. I think I would need an IV drip of comos or something to get through it.

BSCAXOalum · #8 08-11-2010, 03:26 PM

When in Rome for sure--I don't blame those moms at all and had one to a degree. Which helped. Thanks so much for everyone's supports. More info to come.

BamaPhiMu · #9 08-11-2010, 04:33 PM

I have two girls that I am really close to that are rushing at Bama. Both of them received a full schedule of 11 parties. One of the girls received invitations from all but one, the other girl received all but three. So far, so good in Ttown!

mikewozowski · #10 08-11-2010, 04:39 PM

so how heavy should we expect the cuts to be for the next round?

11==>?
9 ==>?
7 ==>?

bama.mom · #11 08-11-2010, 05:21 PM

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Originally Posted by mikewozowski

so how heavy should we expect the cuts to be for the next round?

11==>?
9 ==>?
7 ==>?

Cuts are extremely heavy after Philanthropy Days - this is when many "courtesy return invites" will be cut. The girls go from a Maximum of 11 parties to a Maximum of 7 returns to Skit to a Maximum of 3 Pref parties. So, they will get their Skit day lists Friday morning and this will be narrowed down considerably. My daughter went through last year, and I so well remember sitting by the phone waiting for her messages. It MAY be harder on the Mommas!!!!!!

BSCAXOalum · #12 08-11-2010, 04:39 PM

They can go back to 7 skits at most.

missblonde · #13 08-11-2010, 05:23 PM

From an unbiased perspective, What are some pros AND cons about being in a sorority. I know you make friends, help the community, attend events, etc... list any non-obvious pros. And I would love to know some CONS!

I spoke with a friend today and asked if she would ever think about rushing and she said no, because she didnt want someone bossing her around and telling her where to be and at what time. And also she didn't want people telling her what to wear. Is this true in a sorority?

mikewozowski · #14 08-11-2010, 05:28 PM

i understand that the max is 7, so the 11 party girl will probably just go down to 7.

what about the girl who only had 7 or 8 parties for today and tomorrow. how many would she likely be invited to for the next round? 3? 4?

i haven't followed this in the past, so i have no idea what the norm is.

what is a courtesy return invite?

UGAalum94 · #15 08-11-2010, 05:52 PM

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Originally Posted by mikewozowski

i understand that the max is 7, so the 11 party girl will probably just go down to 7.

what about the girl who only had 7 or 8 parties for today and tomorrow. how many would she likely be invited to for the next round? 3? 4?

i haven't followed this in the past, so i have no idea what the norm is.

what is a courtesy return invite?

A courtesy return invite is an invitation that might be extended to a girl because her mother or sister is in the group or maybe other relationships to members in the group. Some groups policies require certain girls to be invited to at least one invitational round, which here would be philanthropy. After that, the group may release her if they aren't really interested in offering her membership.

I don't think there's any formula you can use to guess about invites from round to round because groups make their big releases at different rounds. It's possible that a girl with only four invites could be invited back to all four* for the rest of recruitment. Or it's also possible that as those four groups make releases, she could gradually be cut over time. The best plan is just to see it through and try to like the places you are invited back to.

*ETA: well I mean those four might not cut her; she could only get invites to the maximum number of pref parties which is fewer than four. sorry.