Weddings - Dollar Dance - Page 10

BetteDavisEyes · #**136** 10-10-2005, 03:10 PM

Dude. That is what happens when you post & a 7 year old is screaming his head off for ice cream.

I am such a dork.

Lindz928 · #**137** 10-10-2005, 03:24 PM

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Originally posted by BetteDavisEyes
Being a wedding snob is perfectly fine as long as you don't mock or look down your nose at those who do the things you're so against.

Thank you!!!

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I actually think the Monday morning quarterbacking after wedding's is pretty tacky. If people are having the type of wedding that they want, then that's what's important. It's when they try to change to fit everyone else's tastes that things start going downhill.

I agree with this too. This past weekend, I went to what I personally thought was WAY too tacky for my taste.... But the bride and groom looked so happy, and that is all that mattered. Everyone still had a GREAT time!

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OK, if we're going to bitch about things we hate at weddings, let me throw out my top one:

I'm with you on this one. It's great if people want to do it... Both of my best friends did. But, it is not something that I will be doing at my wedding. It's just over the top cheesy for the kind of wedding that I would want to have. But like I said, great for people who it suits.

_Lisa_ · #**138** 10-10-2005, 03:51 PM

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Originally posted by BetteDavisEyes
Dude. That is what happens when you post & a 7 year old is screaming his head off for ice cream. I am such a dork.

I still think you're the greatest!

Sister Havana · #**139** 10-10-2005, 04:22 PM

I was a bridesmaid in two weddings last year. For the first, we had a choice of about 10 different styles in one collection...the only requirement was that it had to be lavendar and we needed grey or silver shoes. Two of us went with short sleeves, three had sleeveless and one went strapless...we all went with the dress we felt most comfortable wearing. There were six bridesmaids with a wide range of body types and I can't think of any style that would have flattered all of us. I know there's no way in hell I could have pulled off strapless!

For the second, we went with separates. We were all going to wear the same skirt and have a choice of tops. It just so happened that we all liked the same top.

(also had sleeves) I've worn that dress several times since the wedding...comes in handy for Jaycee banquets!

If someone's that insecure that she thinks the only way she'll look pretty at her wedding is if the rest of the bridal party looks hideous, that's sad.

aephi alum · #**140** 10-10-2005, 08:47 PM

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I believe the whole point of the bridesmaids dressing alike is so that they do not detract attention from the bride. But its silly to ask several women of different body types & styles to wear the same thing considering it could attract all sorts of bad attention to the women who don't wear it well.

Agreed.

I was at a wedding once where the bride and bridesmaids did something that I thought was very well thought out. One of the bridesmaids was very tall, one was very short, one was about 6-7 months pregnant, and the other two were of average height and build. The bride chose a fabric and a simple sleeveless empire-waist design, and had each bridesmaid's dress custom-made. So each woman had the same color and style of dress, custom-fitted to her height, weight, and (in one case) adapted for maternity. It looked very good.

CutiePie2000 · #**141** 10-10-2005, 09:05 PM

Dollar dance is cheesy...and besides, I am worth FAR MORE THAN A DOLLAR!

33girl · #**142** 10-10-2005, 10:05 PM

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Originally posted by crzychx
I believe the whole point of the bridesmaids dressing alike is so that they do not detract attention from the bride. But its silly to ask several women of different body types & styles to wear the same thing considering it could attract all sorts of bad attention to the women who don't wear it well.

My sister picked colors & a designer & then allowed us all to pick our own so that we matched but weren't dressed exactly alike. Its the best way to go.

That's definitely part of it - if you have one girl in a long pink dress and another in a short peach dress it will be distracting. I remember reading an etiquette book saying that the reason the bride picked out bridesmaids' dresses is because if she waited for over 3 women to agree on all the details of their appearance she would never get married. Obviously she must have been to a rush party or two as well.

When I was little, I used to see bridesmaids wearing different colors of the same dress, but that seems to have gone by the wayside. The same fabric thing is a good idea, but not everyone has access to that and it's also more expensive.

I think most women will try to be considerate and choose simple things for their maids to wear that flatter everyone to a point, but there are "bridezillas" out there that have given everyone a bad name and who do deliberately pick crappy dresses. I was at a wedding of someone who normally has exquisite taste and the bridesmaid dresses were the most hideous, cheap looking, ugly colored (they were a really muddy midnight blue) things I have ever seen.

If you want to have friends after the wedding, don't screw them before.

AGDee · #**143** 10-10-2005, 10:26 PM

hahaha.. the rainbow weddings of the 70's! Every bridesmaid was in a different pastel color of the same dress. My cousin Linda had a wedding like that! And the guys wore brown tuxes with ties and cummerbund to match the dress of the woman they stood up with. HIDEOUS!

I think the idea of matching gowns for bridesmaids serves a couple purposes. It is easy to pick out the members of the bridal party and it looks nicer in photos. What if they all chose colors that really clashed with each other? And, you have to find flowers that would look good with each woman's dress too. Sounds like it would be a pain.

Dee

PM_Mama00 · #**144** 10-10-2005, 11:24 PM

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hahaha.. the rainbow weddings of the 70's! Every bridesmaid was in a different pastel color of the same dress. My cousin Linda had a wedding like that! And the guys wore brown tuxes with ties and cummerbund to match the dress of the woman they stood up with. HIDEOUS!

I think the idea of matching gowns for bridesmaids serves a couple purposes. It is easy to pick out the members of the bridal party and it looks nicer in photos. What if they all chose colors that really clashed with each other? And, you have to find flowers that would look good with each woman's dress too. Sounds like it would be a pain.

Dee

One of my NY cousins did this in early 90s. I think the colors were (pastels) pink, lavender, blue, and peach. She had a ton of bridesmaids so it kinda looked cool. The guys wore black tuxes with the matching cumberbund and tie. My cousin (the blood cousin) wore a white tux. It was a pretty hot thing.

My friend is getting married in June (or April... she wants to move it up... military wedding) and she said for sure it was me and her cousin standing up, and for us to decide the color and that she'd base the wedding around that color.

We do't have to have the same dress... thank gosh cuz her cousin is way taller than me and much skinnier.

I was at a wedding shower yesterday and trying to figure out what her colors were going to be. It was the most gorgeous shower I've been to (Dee you might know who I'm talking about) and they had these Tiffany style lamps as center pieces but they were made of beads and each table had a different color.... multi-color, dark blue, dark goldish, burgundy, dark green. (they gave them away as a prize) They were so beautiful. The napkin holders were big beaded bracelets that kinda resembled Swarovski crystals (if not real) in the dark blue, burgundy, and dark gold and dark green. Her wedding is the day after Thanksgiving so I'm really curious. Of course the bride is absolutely gorgeous, her fiance is hot, and her bridal party might as well be a model runway show.

I got to thinking... for a wintery wedding, as long as the style is right and classy, a mix of the same dress but in the colors I mentioned would be gorgeous. The bouquets would match the color of their dresses and they would wear little rhinestones in their hair. SHIT. I wana plan a wedding.

xo_kathy · #**145** 10-11-2005, 03:42 PM

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"Hi, my name is RedRoseSAI, and I'm a wedding snob."

I also think bands are better than DJs. We had a band, and they were awesome. I have yet to say to MrRedRose "Hey, remember that DJ at so-and-so's wedding? Yeah, he was great". Sorry, that just doesn't happen, but I do remember several great wedding bands.

Now, I've been to 2 weddings with bands - I remember the first b/c it was SO bad, and the second I didn't even remember until I was just now posting - so clearly bands are not always better. I have been to far more weddings that had DJs. I certainly don't remember most, I definitely remember the BAD ones, but I can tell you that I still get compliments on how great my DJ was. And I'm in the ritzy NYC suburbs - can't get much snobbier than here. And as I said before, it certainly seems this area is starting to pick DJs more than bands now.

In regards to bridesmaid dresses, I told my girls the color and designer and told them to pick what they wanted. They said no way did they want the stress of picking a dress for someone else wedding!

So I picked, I think they were happy, and they were only $70!

adpiucf · #**146** 10-13-2005, 11:49 AM

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Originally posted by crzychx
I believe the whole point of the bridesmaids dressing alike is so that they do not detract attention from the bride.

I've read the reason the bridesmaids dress alike and the groomsmen dress alike is that in "olden times" the bridesmaids dressed in the same clothes as the bride, and the groomsmen dressed in the same clothes as the groom so as to confuse any evil spirits who were trying to wreak havoc.

(I think today the evil spirit just inhabit's the bride througout her engagement... right down to the selection of the bridesmaid dresses!)

honeychile · #**147** 10-13-2005, 12:28 PM

I think the key words are "culture" and "tradition". I'll accept some things (ie: money dance or chicken dance) if that's part of your culture - just don't expect them at my wedding!

I've been in two "rainbow weddings", one as a flower girl, and the other about 15-16 years ago. Both times, I had to wear green. The second time, when people asked me my name, I told them that I was Miss Green. Why do people always assume that the redheads want to wear green?!

I think most of y'all know that I broke my engagement this summer, but I had pretty much planned a Christmastime wedding. I think they are GORGEOUS!! Somehow, the last time I spoke to the ex, it came out that he had never realized that I was planning for a December (what part of "which weekend in December is best for you?" did he not understand?!), and said that he didn't like the idea. Great - hope he finds someone who deal with his quirks and wants to get married in May or July!

Lindz928 · #**148** 10-13-2005, 12:32 PM

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I think most of y'all know that I broke my engagement this summer, but I had pretty much planned a Christmastime wedding. I think they are GORGEOUS!! Somehow, the last time I spoke to the ex, it came out that he had never realized that I was planning for a December (what part of "which weekend in December is best for you?" did he not understand?!), and said that he didn't like the idea. Great - hope he finds someone who deal with his quirks and wants to get married in May or July!

Winter weddings are BEAUTIFUL! Especially if it snows. Too bad winters in Texas are more known for being gray and dreary than white and beautiful.

My main concern with a winter wedding would be that it's right in the middle of flu season. I wouldn't want to worry about everyone getting sick.

BetteDavisEyes · #**149** 10-13-2005, 01:04 PM

Winter weddings, IMO, are amazing. I had my whole wedding set around a kickoff to Christmas theme that had the flowers, centerpieces, & decorations follow the theme. We had to change the date to January so now I think I'm going to get rid of the Christmast decorations but keep the winter theme going.