Ask a SF . . . Random questions

[Paradise359]

Originally posted by SummerChild
Soror, you might actually get answers from Islandgirl...to my astonishment.

This is amazing...

Islandgirl, two words: six degrees

Sooooooror truer words have never been spoken!

[futurestar1]

Questions : What do you know about Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc. (besides the mushy: it's a great organization, full of great women who do great work in the community)? What makes Saturday significant? I mean, what do you know about the organization's Purpose? Do you even know what our current Targets are? What they have been? What, in your honest opinion, is the purpose of a sorority? Now, how does it relate to the purpose of Alpha Kappa Alpha? Are they aligned? And do you believe that they HAVE to be aligned in order for you to join the organization?


Saturday is significant because memberfriends commemorate 97 years of service by celebrating their Founders Day. Although founded on January 15, 1908, the organization became a perpetual entity with incorporation on January 29, 1913. The first Greek letter organization for Black women, Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Incorporated was established by 9 Founders, 7 Sophomores, and later 4 Incorporators (in conjunction with 2 Sophomores) at Howard University. Other than that, I know the purpose, symbol, colors, motto, targets, national programs, and some famous members (many of which are women I revere).

In my opinion, the purpose of a sorority is to promote fellowship and sisterhood among like minded women. In a sorority focused on community service and uplifting their community, these like minded women work together towards common goals. I believe my definition a sorority certainly falls in line with the purpose of Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Incorporated.

The purpose of Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Incorporated is:

1. To cultivate high scholastic and ethical standards
2. To promote unity and friendship among college women
3. To study and help alleviate problems concerning girls and women
4. To maintain a progressive interest in college life
5. To be supreme in service to all mankind

Under the national program theme of “ The SPIRIT (sisterhood, scholarship, service, partnership, innovation, respect, investment, and technology) of Alpha Kappa Alpha” , the current targets are The Black Family, the Arts, Economic Empowerment, Health, and Education. National programs and foundations to promote and further develop these targets include (and, in the past, have included) the MLK Day of Service, National Family Volunteer Day, AKA Coat Day, ON TRACK programs, Ivy Reading AKAdemy, Partnerships in Math and Science, HIV-AIDS Awareness Programs, Black Dollar Day, Educational Advancement Foundation, women’s suffrage programs, “Buckle Up” program, Cleveland Job Corps Center, Mississippi Health Project, and much much more. Past “targets” include Scholarship, Undergraduate Housing, Health and Social Action, but the focus has always remained the same, to be supreme in service to all mankind.



Question: If a memberfriend invited you to a function and you have a scheduling conflict, what would you do? Would you think it was fair of the memberfriend to refrain from extending future invitations?

If invited to a function, and I have a conflict. Depending on the nature of my originally scheduled commitment, I would try to reschedule. However, if I could not, I would thank the memberfriend again for extending an invitation, express my disappointment, and ask if she would be willing to let me know about another event in the future. Although, I would like to be informed or invited in the future, it would certainly be within her right not to invite me again.

Disclaimer: Pardon me if my wording is not exactly correct in describing your organization. I am speaking from the outside looking in so I may be unclear on specific terminology.

[SKEEphistAKAte]

*Banging head against the wall, solemnly singing*

"Through the years as we struggle....

[abaici]

Originally posted by SKEEphistAKAte
*Banging head against the wall, solemnly singing*

"Through the years as we struggle....

Woo woo woo. I know, I know. It's ok Soror Skee

**Taking Soror Skee by the hand and leading her out of this thread**

singing as we leave "...we help each other..."

[wannabeina]

Originally posted by Ideal08

[qoute]Neither is the teaching profession if you get defensive because someone asked for clarification on something you thought was clear. Or Corporate Training. Or Sales. Or pretty much anything where you'd have to communicate and receive criticism on that communication.

Personality tests have already proven that none of the above jobs are great fits for me (other than being a college professor)

Which leads me to my next question:

You've put your best foot forward in trying to get to know members, going to events, Rush, etc. My sorors seem to slice you up every chance they get. You are discouraged and demoralized. What do you do now?

[/B]

I read this question last night and I had to sleep on it. I'm still thinking about the answer. The first responses that come to me are those idealist answers that everyone would like to think they would do in a situation such as this. Right now I'm trying to think about what I would REALLY do.

[1cococookie]

Originally posted by Ideal08
Why do some SFs choose not to use it? In regards to flip-flopping between orgs, if you never said anything, then no one would ever know that you changed your mind. So, SFs, I ask you, how do you view discretion and what does it mean to you? What do you think it means to the organization?

If you were a legacy, would you tell?

If your blood sister was an AKA perp would you tell or would you let my Sorors think she was real?

Have you ever thought about perping? What made you decide against it?

In your own words, what is the difference between a necessity and a luxury?

If you have to ask what the "right" reason is for joining an organization, should you even be thinking about joining?

What, if any, is the advantage of doing community service in a group as opposed to doing it alone?

#1 Again, discretion is subjective. Where it is ridiculous to post your name, school, etc on the internet or blab all over campus & whatnot, or shout from the rooftops about your org of interest, how is telling your sister/mom not being discreet? Discretion should be an issue of common sense. Hell, posting on this danggone board is not being discreet for real... secret societies demand discretion b/c they don't want their rituals, secrets, dirty laundry to become public knowledge. Of course they would look for individuals who would know how to keep their mouths shut.

#2 Not really, it would depend on the situation. If I were point blank asked, then I would probably respond with the truth. I wouldn't volunteer that info though.

#3 My sister is her own person, she will get caught eventually. I'll let the AKA's handle that.

#4 No, that's fake.

#5 Necessity: things to keep me alive, sane & grounded. Luxury: things that keep me living fabulous, extremely sane & totally spoiled.

#6 yeah...why not? Everyone does not arrive at the same time. Just b/c you question yourself on why do such a thing, does not mean that it should never happen. Asking honest, thought provoking questions should happen.

#7 The advantages are numbers & more PR to the community about the activity.

[1cococookie]

Originally posted by AKA2D '91
Why do SOME SFs say they want to join XYZ because of the colors?


Why do some SFs choose XYZ org ONLY because their boyfriend/manfriend is a member of DEF? What happens if you and your boy/manfriend breakup? Then what?

Why is it that SOME SFs have their own agenda? Why not establish SF Social and Pleasure Aid Club?


Why am I not being sisterly to my sorors as I continue to ask MORE questions?

#1 & #2 Immaturity

#3...not quite sure I understand the question

[1cococookie]

Originally posted by skeeliteful
Why is it that some SF's feel that XYZ Sorority Inc. wasn't a good fit for them in undergrad and go so far as to belittle XYZ Sorority, Inc... but will break there neck for sponsorship on the graduate level for XYZ Sorority, Inc?

Why is it that some SF's are so bold as to tell me WHEN they are going to become a member of XYZ Sorority, Inc?

I'll stop now because the rest of the questions I want to ask will probably get deleted

That is all....

#1 Experiences that occured on campus would make one feel that XYZ is not for them. I have seen that happen countless times. But that is ONLY b/c of that particular chapter, not the org as a whole. Let's be honest, there are ladies that have had horrible experiences on the UG level, for whatever reason. Should that stop their desire once they graduate?

#2 B/C they have confused conceitedness for confidence. And no discretion. Even if you feel that way, why would you tell someone that....

[AKA2D '91]

Sorors,

Ya'll aren't right! Just not right at t'all!

LMAO

[1cococookie]

Originally posted by SKEEphistAKAte
What is your full name and what school do you go to?

If you could choose your own linesisters would you? What would be your criteria?


If you knew FOR CERTAIN that you would NEVER have the opportunity to become a member of Alpha Kappa Alpha, would you go ahead and seek membership elsewhere?


What role, if any, have greek stereotypes played in your interest/selection of a sorority?

If you knew FOR CERTAIN that in order to become a member of Alpha Kappa Alpha you would HAVE TO spend an extra year in undergrad would you submit an application and stay in school that extra year or continue your studies/graduate on time and hope to be invited to a graduate chapter? Why or Why not?

If your mother, for whatever reasons, forbade you to become a member of Alpha Kappa Alpha would you do it anyway (assume that her opinion CANNOT be changed)? Why or Why not?

*more questions/hypos forthcoming*

#2...nahhh...I would trust the org's judgement.

#3 as in DEF org? I would have to pray on that one.

#4 I have had to carefully view the orgs b/c of some of the historical stereotypes. These orgs were here long before I was even a thought & the stereotypes came from somewhere. Before I make a lifelong committment to something, I need to make sure that I am doing the right thing.

#5 There is nothing wrong with more education...staying an extra year in college is actually a blessing.

#6 Yes, I would. My mom is her own woman, just as I am. I can't live my life for her, only myself.

[1cococookie]

Originally posted by LADY_1908
If you had an opportunity to attend a "closed" meeting (ie. Boule, Regional Conference) COMPLETELY undetected; would you go?



If all membership requirements were TOTALLY waived and ANYONE could be member, would you still want to be an Alpha Kappa Alpha woman?




If the fees associated with membership were $10,000, would you still pursue. How about $25,000?



If you KNEW FOR A FACT that another woman being considered for membership was a Liar, would you say anything? And why or why not .........How about a Thief?.......................How about a "homewrecker"...........................

#1 No...they would smell my "sisterfriendness"

#2 No

#3 Again, much prayer on that one...$25,000...whew...

#4 That's shady...no. Me: "oh...you know that what's her face is doing what's her name's husband...dropping it like it's hot ...right? Memberfriend:

I'd be mad at myself for even having that little convo...

[AKA2D '91]

As an interest, if your manfriend or husband insisted you NOT pursue membership, would you not pursure membership? Let's assume he is NOT a member of a fraternity.

As an interest, your manfriend or husband (not greek) does not have a problem with you pursuing membership. You become a memeber and you become VERY active. Manfriend or husband does not like the time you spend away from him. He suggests that you discontinue your affiliation with the organization, would you?

[1cococookie]

Originally posted by Steeltrap
A specific GC-related SF question:

Why do some SFs who may be aware of the Ave.'s policy about membership and intake questions attempt to go to other areas of the board and expect questions to be answered?

eternal optimism...or just dumb...

[strivingsf]

I just came back to the board and hope I'm not late in posting on this thread.

Originally posted by Paradise359
Soror come with me...everything's gonna be allllright


I have some questions though...

Why do some SF get the impression that membership is OWED to them?
Some people perceive everything is OWED to them not just membership into a particular organization.

Why do some SF don't feel like they have to work towards the goal that is Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority Inc.?
Although some SF's may have researched the goals of the organization, they may not see how their work will have make a difference

SFs, do you feel like b/c of the easy access to memberfriends via the internet that there is less motivation to do your own research?
Personally, this relates to my answer in question #1. But on a side note, it seems as if many people rely on the web or the people they chat with on the web to give them definitive answers for the quest.

Some people are natural introverts, but their desire to join an organization gives them the confidence or boldness to seek out a member and interact with them on a personal level. And reading a book never hurt.

GC is pretty good with not attracting nutballs worthy of restraining orders but I have been members of other sisterfriend/soror sites & the prevelant attitude is that there is no humility i.e arguing with and or trying to cuss out a member of the organization you wish to be a part of. Why do you think that is?
Personally, it is a lack of politeness and common courtesy. On the different SF/MF sites if you do not agree with what was posted or if the tone of the thread is not something you would tolerate face2face ya have options. delete the post and unsubscribe.

I'm sure I'll be back with more...

[strivingsf]

[QUOTE]Originally posted by AKA2D '91
[B]gurrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrllllll..we are >>>here<<<


My questions:
Why do SFs ask "bold" questions on the internet, but won't DARE ask a Soror in person?
It's easier to ask questions
anonymously than in person where you might get your feelings hurt.

Why do SOME SFs ask some of the most ridiculous questions without searching for the answer, if a answer exists?
Some questions that you may feel are ridiculous, some people may not and may have searched for the answer to no avail.

Why do SFs 'flip flop' orgs they are so-called interested in?
I think this depends on when they were introduced to the organizations, i.e. the expectation of members, the values of the organization, and the cohesiveness of the organization.

Why do SFs "claim" they want to be a member of XYZ, then become a member and DON'T DO JACK?
I have no answer to this question.

Is it worth thousands of dollars to become a member of XYZ, when you can do community service for free?
You are right anyone can participate in community service and make a difference in the lives others however, having the unique talents of many can make a greater impact.

Do you really want to become a member of an organization for the RIGHT reasons, or are you trying to get a man? get attention?
The right reasons for some may not be the right reasons for others. But whatever the reason it should come from your heart and be something you believe in without compromising your personal values.

Why is it that SOME SFs purport to know everything there is to know about greekdom, but have yet to become a member?
Some people may have ideas of elite intelligentisms (i just create that word) They know everything but in fact know nothing.

Why put on a facade to try to get sponsorship?
I don't think it is a facade, I think it's selling yourself to someone who may not have had the opportunity to work with you yet.

Why look to an organization to define who you are? Why not have a sense of self BEFORE you join?