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Old 06-15-2005, 03:02 AM
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I thought I would be "above" cutting a group for stupid reasons (considering I just went through rush a year ago!) but there were two that I just could not go back to!

At the third party I went to a girl put her hang on my leg and said "you look just like a girl in the chapter you would definitely fit it" and then just stared. Needless to say I was so freaked out I made sure I never went back there. I don't know if the rest of the sorority has nice girls in it, I was just so creeped out by the one that I couldn't focus on anything else! I hate when people that I don't know touch me, especially on my leg so that was a deal breaker!

At the first party I went to a girl started telling me about the chapter's Bible study. That was great and all, but I am not a religious person so I knew I wouldn't be too interested in that. I tried to get her to talk about the philanthropy or any activities they did but she just kept talking about Bible study. I swear I just sat there with glazed eyes for about 10 minutes while she went on about the meeting times and how she had lead a couple of the meetings and etc etc..... It kind of scared me and made me think that to join them I would have to become super religous. I now know some girls in the chapter and they laugh when I tell them about it. If she had just mentioned SOMETHING else about the group it would have been fine!!

I feel silly now for letting one girl in a chapter influence my decisions.. but obviously I am happy where I am so I wouldn't change it for the world!
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Old 06-15-2005, 11:12 AM
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Dropping formal rush

This thread makes me laugh - I dropped out of formal rush for a stupid reason, but I think it was probably meant to be -

In the first week of classes I made friends with a guy who was in two of my classes. So I agreed to tag along with him to a fraternity rush event (He figured, if you show up with women, what fraternity wouldn't want you? ha)

While I was there I was mobbed by members of XYZ sorority who totally dirty rushed me and this other girl (It was hands off week so none of them were allowed to talk to us, much less 5 of them). The other freshman girl and I were both polite and everything at first, but later we both went to the restroom together and 'fessed that these women were the dumbest, shallowest, bimbos we had ever met. So we made up some really crazy story and left, giggling the whole way. Well when I attended the pre-rush meeting the Rho Chis told us that we had to go to EVERY house. ohmigod there was no way I could show my face at XYZ after that silly story I told them. It had not occurred to me that I had to go to every house no matter what!

So I dropped out of formal rush completely to avoid having that one house.

Anyway, it worked out well because I had a semester to see the REAL character off all the houses and ended up getting an informal bid to Kappa in the Spring, which I knew all along was the only house for me.

And although I didn't choose on color, I don't think there's anything wrong with it - I mean, its the color you wear the rest of your life, might as well like it! ha

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Old 06-15-2005, 11:21 AM
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Hahaha! This makes me laugh because on our Alpha (new member) retreat, some of the older girls did a skit for us and we're calling themselves "I Ate A Pies" and the "80 Pound Thighs" as a joke! It was really funny! But, some of the new girls were really worried that people called us that on campus! of course no one really does, but i think some of those girls wouldn't have stuck it out if they thought that they would get called those names...
We once had a New Member who was an artist, and drew a really cool poster of "80 Pies" - making each of us a "Pie"!
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Old 06-15-2005, 11:53 AM
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I’m not sure if this is a stupid reason but at the time it made sense and quite honestly it still makes sense. I went to a sports night at XYZ fraternity to watch the game and have dinner. As the event ended some actives went on a beer run and then the night really took off as we…watched Legally Blonde. Look I admit now that I’m Greek I find more humor in movies like Legally Blonde or Sorority Boys but as a prospective new member I couldn’t help but feel that it was way to feminine for me. I decided that night that XYZ was just not for me.
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Old 06-15-2005, 12:05 PM
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I’m not sure if this is a stupid reason but at the time it made sense and quite honestly it still makes sense. I went to a sports night at XYZ fraternity to watch the game and have dinner. As the event ended some actives went on a beer run and then the night really took off as we…watched Legally Blonde. Look I admit now that I’m Greek I find more humor in movies like Legally Blonde or Sorority Boys but as a prospective new member I couldn’t help but feel that it was way to feminine for me. I decided that night that XYZ was just not for me.
Ok, I would have thought that was weird too. LOL
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Old 06-15-2005, 12:37 PM
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Way back in the day when I rushed, at Ball State all the guys had to go through Round Robin and visit all of the fraternities. Some things that made me cut houses after that round...

Snapping and chanting at the front door. I was ok with the chanting, but the snapping wierded me out!

One chapter had an active brother who was at least 40 years old! Not an advisor, not an alum, but an active brother who was old enough to be my dad! That really wierded me out since they were the smallest fraternity too!

One house absolutely REEKED of Polo cologne. Literally all 80 brothers were wearing it. Everyone in my round robin group made fun of it too.

On one house tour, the active said "This is where we usually get high..."

I really liked the guys I met at Phi Sig, but the thing that sort of clenched it for me was that they had Sigma, their Chow mascot. I was going through major dog withdrawl at the time...

The ironic thing is, when I was house corp president, I was the one who had it written into the lease that pets were forbidden! (long story)

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Old 06-15-2005, 12:44 PM
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At Long Beach we did bus tours, I Drop two houses because they didn't have chapter house. Another house all had polo shirts and sweaters on, it seem kinda gay. One house had a guy i went to high school with and i did not like him, but his hous was cool, but i still drop them. I was between two house TKE and Sigma Pi. I love TKE, and ended up picking them because of the "chanting and snapping" which i thought was cool. Only reason why i ever considered Sigma Pi was because they had a nice house.
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Old 06-15-2005, 01:11 PM
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Okay, confession time. There were 2 PNMs at my school who dropped out of rush, and I'm convinced it was because of something stooopid that some of my sisters and I did.

It was my sophomore year, my first time on the other side (in my defense), and it was my local sorority's first time participating in FR (in our defense).

XYZ fraternity had offered us an open invitation to come to dinner anytime during rush week; a couple of sisters were dating XYZs, and of course the brothers knew it's a good thing to fill your house with attractive girls during rush.

During round 1 of FR, we met two very sweet PNMs, I'll call them Buffy and Willow. They were a "package deal". They were both invited to return for round 2.

After round 1 was over, we turned in our invitation list, cleaned up, set up for round 2, and then realized it was dinnertime. So a group of us decided to take XYZ up on their dinner invitation. We knew there might be PNMs there, and we knew we couldn't talk to them, but we went over to XYZ anyway.

Naturally, who should show up but Buffy and Willow.

At the time, we had extremely strict silence rules. We weren't allowed to talk to PNMs at all outside rush parties - even to explain to them that we couldn't talk to them. So we kept having to say to the XYZs things like, "Bob, would you do me a favor? Remind Buffy and Willow that we're not trying to be rude, but we aren't allowed to talk to them outside rush parties."

We should have left... actually, we shouldn't have gone to XYZ in the first place.

I'm pretty sure Buffy and Willow interpreted our not talking to them as us being stuck-up sorority snobs or something. In any case, they didn't come back to us for round 2, and wound up dropping out of FR. Later, we invited them to a COB rush event, and they turned us down. So we lost them because we followed the rules.

Needless to say, by the following year we had a rule that no one was to go near a situation like that until after bid day!
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Old 06-15-2005, 02:39 PM
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Going into recruitment, my choice was down to two. (We have deferred recruitment and only four sororities, so this wasn't really jumping the gun, too much.)
I ended up not joining the other one for quite a few reasons.
1. The girl that talked to me the first night just kept talking about how home school was better than public school... I went to public school and loved it, and didn't really care to talk about it.
2. On philanthropy night, we colored on plastic bags, while at all the other houses, we did really cool things.
3. There was a girl from my high school in that sorority that didn't even say hi to me the whole time
4. The girl that preffed me started crying (I didn't understand then that it is an emotional night) and it creeped me out.
5. When we walked in the room, they said, Sisters of XYZ, may we present to you PNM's full name. ..I wanted to turn around and walk out then!
6. The colors... I hated them.
I rationalized and figured if I was weirded out that much by recruitment, I prolly would not like the sorority.
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Old 06-15-2005, 03:32 PM
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I probably did the most stupidest thing in the history of rush. See, going into rush I was pretty sure I knew who I wanted...Sorority 1 (mainly because they had a house). Getting into rush, my friend (who rushed with me) and I decided we liked Sorority 2. I was pretty sure I didn't want Sorority 3 because I HATED their colors and we just didn't click. Well by the inivational parties (which i'm guessing is equivalent to pref parties) I had totally eliminated sorority 1 because they were just to "girly" for me. During my last invitational party at Sorority 2, I got stuck with one of the sorority sisters who's main focus was talking to one of her other sorority sisters. She totally ignored me, and I had to sit quietly at our corner table watching all the other PNMs having a good time. So I decided to drop them and pick sorority 3, the sorority I thought i'd never wind up in. My instinct was right, I didn't end up liking sorority 3.....and now i'm going back to rush the sororities with an OPEN MIND! LOL.
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Old 06-15-2005, 04:37 PM
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ROFL! I've been reading this thread off and on for a few days now. I wanted to spread the chuckles out over time.

Guess I'll add some more:

- I dropped a house because it was a friend's sister's house. She was the most plastic, fake, self centered b**** I have ever met in my life. Since she'd graduated just 2 years earlier I assumed everybody in that chapter was like that. I later became friends with a couple of girls from that house and they told me that everyone hated her too.

- Someone in my rush group kept going back to a house because (at that time) it was one of the only houses that was air conditioned. She had no intention of pledging them, just wanted a break from the heat.

- A friend, who went to another campus, dropped a house because she said it had one of the ugliest living rooms she'd ever seen. Massive, ugly floral prints everywhere. The drapes, couches, throw pillows, even the carpet had flowers on them. She said it looked like the FTD man had thrown up in there. She couldn't imagine looking at that room every day for the next 4 years. Another case of bad judgement because she told me that the very next year they redecorated and it was absolutely beautiful.
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Old 06-15-2005, 10:56 PM
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Okay, I'll confess!

I cut one house because the girl talking to me had THE YELLOWEST TEETH that I have ever seen in my life. I feel bad, but seriously they were like yellow from the crayon box. They made me uncomfortable and I couldn't stop staring at them. She was smiling nonstop and kept leaning forward. Oh my goodnes, I fled from that house.
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Old 06-15-2005, 11:00 PM
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I thought I had posted on this thread already, but I just did a review and I found that I hadn't!

My decision was almost totally based on what the TKEs I was friends with (I was dating one seriously too). They had some friends in one chapter who were rushing me hard and I couldn't stand them and they were known as the "ugly" chapter, so they were out. Another chapter was very small and were referred to as "XYZ who?". The third chapter had a rep as "sluts". I didn't go any parties for the first two (recruitment was way different back then). I did go to the third one for first rounds, and to Alpha Gamma Delta. Not a soul spoke to me at #3. Not one sister! Now, the fraternity boys had said "The Alpha Gams are the stuck up ones. They're smart and they won't sleep with us". I loved the girls there as I was going through recruitment and was impressed with all the leadership roles they had on campus (our President was the President of student government, etc.). Anyway, I wanted to be the smart, stuck up, student leader who didn't sleep with every fraternity boy that showed interest, so I stuck with Alpha Gam for the rest of the time and did an ISP. I did find it humorous that #3 kept inviting me back to their parties, even to pref, when they couldn't have even known who I was since nobody spoke to me at the one round I went to! Later I realized I would have been happy with XYZ who? too, but I can't imagine being anything but an Alpha Gam now.

We had one girl ISP us who was a legacy of another chapter. Legacies were VERY rare on our campus so it was a big deal. She purposely didn't want to be in the same chapter as her mom. She ended up being my sister-daughter.

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Old 06-22-2005, 09:44 AM
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I can honestly say I was totally biased when I started formal. My best friend at home was an AZD and I SSSOOOOO wanted to be one too. I was dead set on being an AZD. (And totally against being a TriSigma bc my roomate said they weren't the best).
So I went through rush and cut the sororities I thought seemed "dorky" and cut the ones I got ignored by bc I thought they were "bitchy".
I ended up with AZD, ZTA, and SSS. And odd thing, I chose SSS!!!

That's why I am SOOOO for formal rush, bc you can totally start with one thing in your head and you know in the end you ended up where you really belonged.
I'm not a fan of purple or my three letters in a row (sometimes I like variety LOL), but I love my SORORITY as whole...my sisters more than anything.
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Old 06-22-2005, 02:17 PM
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That's why I am SOOOO for formal rush, bc you can totally start with one thing in your head and you know in the end you ended up where you really belonged.
I'm not a fan of purple or my three letters in a row (sometimes I like variety LOL), but I love my SORORITY as whole...my sisters more than anything.
Word to that. I was dead set on being a Theta Nu, but didn't even get invited to their first round. I was sorta hurt, but looking back on it, I would have never fit in there. The girls are awesome, but i just fit better as a TD and forever shall I be!
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