Things you want to say

[Miami1839]

To my father: Dad, your the best father in whole world and the best marine to live on the face of the earth. Minus a few things. One of which your blasted ham radio hobby. LOL That and a little comment you made tonight. We were watching access hollywood when pat was doing that interview with Rob Lowe. Well, Pat asks Rob about his past relationship with his past flame from little house. Cant remember her name. But anyways, he said that they were too young to get married. He went on to say that guys have this small window in their early 20s and then the book just "SHUTS". Then my dad looked at me and just bust out laughing and looked at me. (I'm turning 30 next month) I was like whatever dad. I still love you though.

[shopgirl]

Originally posted by Miami1839
To my father: Dad, your best marine to live on the face of the earth.

uh...I beg to differ...MY dad is the BEST MARINE on the face of the earth!!!

Just messing with you, Kevin!!!

[Miami1839]

uh huh well we have our own opinions. lol I know you were joking

Kevin

[ilovemyglo]

To all those kids in middle school that made me go home crying:
"I am an educated woman. I am proud of who I am and my body. I am sorry you are so insecure with your own that you must put me down, but it still hurts, eleven years later. I was just an innocent little girl who developed early and you used that against me to make me feel like I was someone below you. Worse yet, I let you succeed and wanted to die because of it. Shame on you for ever making another human feel that way, but look at me now"

To my past four boyfriends:
"Why the hell did you break up with me and then come back two weeks later and tell me you love me and want to be with me!?! Did you really expect me to take you back? Uh, NO! I am too good to be walked all over."

To the guys I am dating now:
"When I told you I am not looking for a relationship and will use you if you let me did you really think you would mean something to me?"

To the guy that I really like right now:
"Please don't hurt me. I hate thinking about you when I am sitting alone in my apartment. I hate wndering when you are going to call and I hate missing you most of all. And by the way, I think I could fall in love with you."

To my former psycho roommate:
"You and your fiance have fun pissing on each other until the day you die but I am tired of blocking your email address so quit changing it so you can email me you psycho. get help!"

To my brother:
"I love you but why do you always have to act like you are so much better than me and say I am so spoiled when you are just as spoiled as me. You are a showoff and your girlfriend is a bitch. I am only going to be in the wedding because mom asked me to do it for her. Not for you."

To my mother:
"God I love you and you are my best friend. Just because I am not you does not mean I am bad though. You were married with kids at my age so please be proud of me. And no I will not be married when I graduate, but mom, I don't have to have a man to be complete. I can take care of myself. And I am 22 so quit asking me what time I plan on being home. If I don't come home it does NOT mean I am sleeping with someone. Give me the benefit of the doubt. you can't protect your baby girl anymore."
Thank you
I feel better.

[XO_Princess]

Ok, this is going to sound bad, but I've been wanting to say this:

To the irresponsible mothers that I take care of in the hospital: for the love of god, don't have babies if you don't want them! ok-you're on drugs or your under 18 or you have no clue-please don't make a child suffer for your lack of judgement. I have to take care of you, and your child, and I have to watch you either ignore your baby, or pretend you care, when we all know you don't. just think before you act, ok? god i get so sick of this.

[James]

You are both being inattentive. I stated that a girl's model for the emotional relationship with her mate is supposed to be similar to the way she deals with her emotional relationship with her mother. This would translate into behavior.

Not, the physical model for attraction . . . they are different things . . . Its Freudian psychoanlytic theory . . . I think the Class was Freud and Feminism or something . . can't remember the book title.

But if you think about it, women usually have a much more developed emotional (and emotionally expressive) relationship with their mothers.


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Originally posted by justamom
On theother hand, I have read that it is the father that is the physical model for the attraction a female has to her mate. For instance, if her father bore a bead, the girl would most likely be attracted to hairier men.
Now where can I find a link to show I actually read that? You got me!
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originally posted by Shopgirl
Hello justamom

That's what I remember learning, that it's the father who is the model for the daughter. So, what James wrote threw me for a loop. I did not mean for it to seem like, "and where did you hear THAT one from?" I'm genuinely interested in the source of this theory. I just thought I'd ask. Perhaps he does know. That's all. But thanks for the reply.

shopgirl

[damasa]

To my Father:
You know, there are only so many times you can hurt your son. You have used those times two fold. There is no love left in this heart for you. To me, you are just another person. Maybe if you cared more about your son and daugther and not as much about your money, businesses, and your elitest bullshit, maybe you could truly call me son. I think things are better this way.

[AXOLiz]

I know I haven't posted in a while, but thank you everyone who gave me advice. After this weekend, I basically decided that while I still want to hang out with X, it's going to have to be the two of us (or at least a large group if Y is there). I never flat-out said that to X, but I think she kind of knows that's how I feel.

It's really hard doing this, but I'm sure things will get easier with time no matter how everything ends up. I was talking with one of my sisters today, and I realized that the only reason I'm upset by all this is because when I just went along with everything, X and I were close as ever, but as soon as I started getting fed up with it all and showing my annoyance, our friendship started suffering. While I couldn't care less if I never spoke to Y again, the fact that she was what at least part of what made X and I less close makes me really mad. It'd be one thing if we just grew apart, but all the problems Y caused make me wonder if there was something I could've done earlier to prevent all this. Well, that and I realize that with all the graduating and having no job stress that I'm under, I'm not the most fun person to go out with, but considering X had a few months there where she was depressed, living at home, and jobless and I still called to make sure she was ok and to drag her out, she of all people should understand where I'm coming from, but apparently that's not the case.

Hopefully X and I will still be close after all this - most people seem to think she'll just get sick of Y's psycho behavior after a while and we'll end up ok again, but we'll see.

I'm sorry, I wrote all this about 30 minutes ago and can't even think of what else I was going to say - we heard a loud bang followed by a ton of sirens and just found out that one of the life flight helicoptors crashed into the side of one of the towers at the hospital a block away and exploded. Needless to say, I feel kind of dumb bitching about a few friends of mine at a time like this. If I remember what I was going to say at all, I'll be sure to post it later - but thanks again and keep the advice coming, and please keep those involved in the accident in your prayers...we won't find out how bad it is till morning.

Liz

[shopgirl]

Originally posted by James
You are both being inattentive. I stated that a girl's model for the emotional relationship with her mate is supposed to be similar to the way she deals with her emotional relationship with her mother. This would translate into behavior.

Not, the physical model for attraction . . . they are different things . . . Its Freudian psychoanlytic theory . . . I think the Class was Freud and Feminism or something . . can't remember the book title.

But if you think about it, women usually have a much more developed emotional (and emotionally expressive) relationship with their mothers.


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Originally posted by justamom
On theother hand, I have read that it is the father that is the physical model for the attraction a female has to her mate. For instance, if her father bore a bead, the girl would most likely be attracted to hairier men.
Now where can I find a link to show I actually read that? You got me!
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originally posted by Shopgirl
Hello justamom

That's what I remember learning, that it's the father who is the model for the daughter. So, what James wrote threw me for a loop. I did not mean for it to seem like, "and where did you hear THAT one from?" I'm genuinely interested in the source of this theory. I just thought I'd ask. Perhaps he does know. That's all. But thanks for the reply.

shopgirl

Geez Louise!!! I'm sorry!!!

I'm just kidding with ya. That makes sense, I suppose.
LOL!!! Thanks for the clarification. I'll try to pay more attention next time.

[justamom]

You are both being inattentive. I stated that a girl's model for the emotional relationship with her mate is supposed to be similar to the way she deals with her emotional relationship with her mother. This would translate into behavior.

I did not dispute your statement, rather added another take.
"...On the other hand, I have read that it is the father that is the physical model for the attraction a female has to her mate. For instance, if her father bore a bead, the girl would most likely be attracted to hairier men." Please note the word PHYSICAL as compared to your use of the word EMOTIONAL.

I WAS paying attention...We are about to enter the realm of "Clintonesque" diagraming of sentences.

[shopgirl]

Originally posted by justamom
[B] I WAS paying attention...We are about to enter the realm of "Clintonesque" diagraming of sentences.

LOL!!!

[James]

Its possible I missled myself Justamom . . . I mean I couldn't be wrong because that is not in my contract . I thought that you were offering an alternative theory to the one I presented. The key words being on the other hand. In context doesn't that usually mean a disputing or modifying point? A kind of "but"?

My conclusion was reinforced after reading Shopgirl's reply, because she seemed to believe the same. She remembered reading the attraction theory and thought that my presentation disputed it. Which is why it "threw" her.

So I guess I'd have to ask, being brain dead before my first cup of coffee, what did you mean by "on the other hand"? lol







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Originally posted by justamom
On theother hand, I have read that it is the father that is the physical model for the attraction a female has to her mate. For instance, if her father bore a bead, the girl would most likely be attracted to hairier men.
Now where can I find a link to show I actually read that? You got me!
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originally posted by Shopgirl
Hello justamom

That's what I remember learning, that it's the father who is the model for the daughter. So, what James wrote threw me for a loop. I did not mean for it to seem like, "and where did you hear THAT one from?" I'm genuinely interested in the source of this theory. I just thought I'd ask. Perhaps he does know. That's all. But thanks for the reply.

shopgirl

[fine by design]

To J – I’m sorry I stole your boyfriend way back in the day. You have proven yourself to be nothing but a friend to me, and I’m truly grateful for that. I was immature, manipulative, and selfish b/c u had a boyfriend and I didn’t/ Dealing with him has put my life on a fast track to hell, and I wish neither one of us ever went down that road.

To C – I allowed you to ruin my life! It took me almost three years after we broke up to finally stop being mad at you. Now I am just upset that I wasn’t able to love you enough to give you what you needed. I was not ready and you kept on pushing me. You left me alone when i needed you the most, so I was never able to open up again. I have finally forgiven myself and I forgave you long, long ago. I whish things could have been different! Just remember this: when you begin a relationship in deceit, no matter how hard you try to change things or make them better – that’s how the relationship WILL end.

To E – you lied to me from day one. It wasn’t until that day in the store I realized that you never cared about me one bit. That’s too bad for you. I feel sorry for anyone who ever ends up with you. You don’t even love yourself, you selfish liar! How can you love anyone else? Grow up, and stop trying to get over on people.

To M – you are one of my best friends, but you need to grow the hell up. God did not give you a set of circumstances worse than anyone else. He gives us all trials that we must overcome. You are so blessed to have a family and friends who look out for you, but u need to rely on yourself once in a damned while. No one hates you – no one is mad at you – and no one is disappointed in you BUT YOU! We have carried you ever since you stepped foot on campus, and now that we’ve graduated, you don’t understand how we’re burnt out! Help someone else for a change! And don’t do it for a reward, do it out of the goodness of your heart.

To R – stop calling me and complaining! You also have been blessed tremendously – stop bitching! And do some work for once – don’t complain that so and so isn’t doing this, that and the third. What have you done? Remember, whenever you point the finger at someone else, three are pointing back at you!

To MYSELF – God loves you! Yes, you! There is nothing in your life that you’ve done that is so horrible that you deserve to be in bad relationships. You don’t owe anyone. Move on to bigger, brighter, and HEALTHIER things. And stop eating all that Wendy’s! You’re face is breaking.

[justamom]

What I read, what I thought, what I said... I only curse in my head
JamesPsychoanlytic theory supposes that the women will relate to her mate the way she relates to her mom (adding sex of course . .. for some). (WT?, OK, what psycho-anal-ist came up with THIS... Hmmm, have I screwed up my own daughter? Sure.. blame it on the Mom. At this point insert mental dialogue reviewing all the MISTAKES I have made as a parent)
shopgirl I find this very interesting, considering I was a Psychology major. Actually, I've never heard this theory before. Can you provide any other information. Whose theory is it?(Oh no, here we go again...give me a link-can you support that! Geez, I wonder if James can find the guy who wrote that theory? type-type-type, I've never heard that theory, but what I have heard is-type, type, type- post-UH-OH! I hope shopgirl doesn't think I directed that at her! Should I edit It??)
JAMI would hate to see all our exchanges and dialogue limited to information that could only be supported by readily available research. That would be too limiting. On theother hand, I have read that it is the father that is the physical model for the attraction a female has to her mate.
James You are both being inattentive. I stated that a girl's model for the emotional relationship with her mate is supposed to be similar to the way she deals with her emotional relationship with her mother. This would translate into behavior. (inattentive-INATTENTIVE?!? reread posts-hmm I typed bead instead of beard-oh, I'm sure they 'll get it...no, I know what I said. I think YOU're being inattentive James. Oh, what does shopgil have to say?)shopgirl Geez Louise!!! I'm sorry!!! (GEEZ ME TOO!)
JAM Please note the word PHYSICAL as compared to your use of the word EMOTIONAL. (OH shoot, there's that BEAD. I wish knew how to put smiles in...)JamesSo I guess I'd have to ask, being brain dead before my first cup of coffee, what did you mean by "on the other hand"? lol ( What exactly IS in that coffee James...Now I need to clarify to all responders? What is the BFD about "on the othe hand" Crap, I hope the board isn't getting POed over this. It was an ALTERNATIVE THEORY!!! Did I suggest that his theory sucked? I just posted another theory... Ok, I guess the next time I post, I'll have to use CAPS or BOLD on the right words lets see-"...On the OTHER hand,( IT'S A SEGWAY!!! IT'S SUGESTS A NEW/DIFFERENT VIEW) I HAVE read (IMPLYING I HAVE NEVER READ THE OTHER THEORY) that it is the father that is the PHYSICAL(AS AN ALTERNATIVE TO EMOTIONAL) model for the attraction a female has to her mate. For instance, if her father bore a bead,( OH SH*T THERE"S THAT DAMN BEAD AGAIN) the girl would most likely be attracted to hairier men." )
Now, THIS is my response or this IS my response or this is MY response! I hope you take this as it is intended-with humor and admittedly, a touch of sarcasm. (Damn it...now I have to go to that Death penalty thread and post my links since JAMES resurrected it!) Insert a smile!

[James]

Thank you for that stream of consciousness report It will take me a bit to digest it.