First signs of a bad first date

[dekeguy]

Originally Posted by Drolefille

*chuckles* well then

The more formal/courtly boyfriend is actually older than you. But still I'd have kind of an issue with the whole ordering for me thing. And while I fully agree that wine/champagne appropriately paired is fundamentally different than getting sloshed, as a 'dislikes the taste of alcohol' person, it wouldn't work so much.
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Well, there are rather a lot of alternatives to alcohol. One of my favorites is Pellegrino fizzy mineral water with a twist. From my corner, I don't drink wine for the taste of alcohol but for the complexity of taste of the specific wine complimenting the food. If I don't see what I think would do well I very often go with something soft. As to cocktails, there are always the old standbyes such as OJ and tonic, Ginger ale and cranberry juice, etc. Being old fashioned I suppose my priority is to see that my date enjoyes herself, not getting her out of her comfort zone on a first date!
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None of that is a dealbreaker so much though. And such a formal date CAN be completely appealing. I go about dating very much differently than others though, in that I would know the person very well before that first date - even just online, I typically talk/bond a lot before meeting. The times I have not done that have ended poorly, the times I have have resulted in relationships.
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As I mentioned, blind dates are very rare in my case. I like to know the person a bit before I ask her out on a date, so I tend to agree with you there.
In my earlier posting I mentioned that the lady's eyes are a major thing with me. I'd like to lock eyeballs and see both her and my reactions.
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All of that said, my *ahem* dance card is a bit full at the moment in that I don't think I could see adding particularly another long distance relationship, but you know, you have my PM box *eyebrow waggle*
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Hmmm... *thoughtful smile*
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I want to make it clear I wouldn't reject the date in and of itself, but would just adjust a few things for an 'ideal' date. I got one of those kind of dates, including a walk afterwards that could be considered a 'constitutional' and was awesome.

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There is not, or at least ought not be, a one size fits all template for a first date. Assuming one knows the lady at least well enough to be interested in asking for a 'first date' it follows (at least to me) that unless one is a complete cretin one might do well to suggest and to ask.

Peter

[dekeguy]

Originally Posted by AGDee

I'd take a dekeguy kind of date in a heart beat, but I'm old.

Define old please. I'm in my mid thirties and by no means consider myself old. My Dad is sixty six and I think he will never get 'old'. I suppose it is one's outlook on life.
Is a 'dekeguy kind of date' indicative of an 'old' approach? Maybe its because I spent and spend so much time in the UK that I come off in the way I do but I have been that way since I began dating. Just curious.

[KSig RC]

Originally Posted by dekeguy

Define old please. I'm in my mid thirties and by no means consider myself old. My Dad is sixty six and I think he will never get 'old'. I suppose it is one's outlook on life.
Is a 'dekeguy kind of date' indicative of an 'old' approach? Maybe its because I spent and spend so much time in the UK that I come off in the way I do but I have been that way since I began dating. Just curious.

Humblebrag?

[dekeguy]

Originally Posted by KSig RC

Humblebrag?

HUMBLE?????? Arrogant perhaps, but humble?

[AnotherKD]

Though I'm married, I do have a couple of stories to share from my dating days.

1) Went to dinner with a guy, it went okay. After, he asked me if I'd like to take a walk (we were by a lake at this time). I said sure. He got us in the car and drove to a graveyard and wanted to walk around there. Um... no.

2) I took the metro to a date with a guy, while he drove. At the end of the date, he said he could give me a ride home, as it was somewhat close. When I got to his car, I noticed there was a baby seat in the back. Which he had neglected to inform me about. (I also found out he was still married, but separated, and I found that out through the grapevine.)

3) I have one of those little face moles, kind of like Cindy Crawford or Nikki Taylor... just below my bottom lip and off to the side a bit. I went on a first date with one guy that kept obsessing over it and saying how cute it was. Asked if he could touch it. Completely weirded me out.

[AGDee]

I'm surprised I haven't posted more in here. I've had some really awful first dates.

One guy invited me to the race track (horses). He won the Tri-fecta ($600). He didn't pay for my dinner, for any of my drinks, any of my bets.. nothing! If I had won big like that, I'd have bought drinks for the next table over as well as for my date!

I'm sure I've told the story of the guy who brought his 15 year old son who was a former patient of mine when I was working adolescent psych. Probably in D&R somewhere.

There was one guy, who a "friend" had set me up with. We met at a hotel restaurant because it was about halfway between us and had really good food. He had been in a fraternity at my alma mater (a few years younger than me) so we knew a lot of the same people, which was why my "friend" set us up. He waggled his eyebrows very obviously, several times, and said "We're in a hotel" with a big exaggerated wink. SEVERAL TIMES. At first it was kind of funny, but it went on and on. He told me stories about how he hung out with a lot of lesbians in college and ended up at a lesbian orgy. He was a total pig. I asked my "friend" afterward if she really thought he was my type and she said "Well, he's totally a dog but I figured you were both greek at EMU and I wasn't sure he'd be like that with everybody". Yeah, that makes us totally compatible, sure. When I told some sisters from his era at EMU that I had gone out with him once, they were flabbergasted that someone would set up a "friend" with someone like him. Oy.


I really hate first dates you know.

[christiangirl]

Originally Posted by AGDee

I'm sure I've told the story of the guy who brought his 15 year old son who was a former patient of mine when I was working adolescent psych. Probably in D&R somewhere.

Re-tell! Re-tell! Wut if kitteh sez pleeze????

Um when the entire apartment complex stinks like weed and it's ALL coming from his place. #ontothenextone

[AlwaysSAI]

Originally Posted by christiangirl

Re-tell! Re-tell! Wut if kitteh sez pleeze????

I 2nd that, Dee. Some of us have never heard the story and are just too lazy to go digging through your old posts.

[XAntoftheSkyX]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xyyE70VV4qA

Ahem.

[Drolefille]

^^ It's gonna be a thing.

[AGDee]

*bump* y'all begged me to post and then nobody responded? LOL j/k

[southbymidwest]

Maybe it's because we were rendered speechless/typeless from imagining uber-icky Grease Guy and Son? Dirt, grease, cockroaches, violent braggart sons? Shudder.

[ElieM]

OMG.... ick.

That is all

[christiangirl]

WHY AM I JUST NOW SEEING THIS???

Mohawk Boy reminds me of some of my patients. I'm mad at him by default. And Greasy Man.....eeeewww.....eeeeeeeeewwwwww!!!!!!!!!! At the whole situation! That was truly awful!

Though I won't meet anyone from PoF unless they have a picture. It's not vanity--I want to be positive I don't end up matching with an old patient!

[AGDee]

I'm with you on that now, CG. As I noted, this was back in 2000 when fewer people had digital cameras, web cams, etc. so not as many people had pictures posted! I learned from that one though.