"Dropping" a girlfriend with fraternity letters

[ZTADanielle]

I know we've had a couple ceremonies where girls have been dropped... the guy gives it to an Alumnae who also participates and just about everyone knows but the girl being dropped until the moment it happens... i've had some wine tonight, hope this all makes sense.

[KDMafia]

We didn't call it "dropping" at my school, but lavaliering happened a decent amount. How serious is was seemed to be based on what the individual house felt. I know the Phi Psi's pinned because that was viewed as less serious than the lavaliering. We didn't have very many traditions. When my fiance lavaliered me with his sig ep letters we were alone in his apartment. I also would have killed him if he would have made a big public spectacle out of it. I reciporcated. The only real drama that happened was when guys that were in a really volatile relationship would do it or if girls would give guys their letters first. That was looked down on slightly on our campus since some people interpreted it as trying to force a guy to lavalier you.

[DeltaEtaKP]

Lavaliering happens A LOT at my school. I think guys do it to put off proposing to their girlfriends, honestly. All the sororities have candlelights when girls are lavaliered. It's a big deal, but I don't think it means as much as it should.

[gpb1874]

Originally posted by ECUJacob
I can't say that my chapter has ever had a lavaleir given away to a g/f, but I'm sure it happens on our campus and all over the country.

Do any Betas do this?

some Betas at my campus have dropped sorority women. A couple Phi Delts have done it too. One was really sweet....the couple had been dating for a couple years. He did it at a mixer and many of his brothers were there. During the night, they all walked up to her and gave her a red rose, then he was last with a rose. They guys surrounded her and sang a song, then he put the necklace on her. And yes, all the girls cried.

[ilikehazing]

Droppin letters/lavaliering is bad news. Don't do it unless you're absolutely sure you're getting married and even then only if you don't respect your letters. YOU earned them, not her. I reserve the right for me and my brothers only to wear the letters, because we earned them. Just becareful.

[Kevlar281]

Originally Posted by lllll

What all is involved in "dropping" a girlfriend? I have been with my girlfriend for almost 10 months and would like to "drop" her. What do I have to do?

Endure Pain.

[DeltaEtaKP]

I would have to agree with the 'a lot of pain' at my school, the guys that 'drop' their girlfriends use to (as in up to this past year) get taken out into the middle of the quad, tied to a matress or something similar and get "sh*t" on. This was sometimes literal, sometimes figurative... but they go a whole lot of disgusting stuff dumped on them. The fraternity would usually wait until a guy's girlfriend was off campus, and no one was allowed to untie the guy except for the girlfriend who had to give them a kiss to set them free. It was pretty gross. It only happenend one time this past year and it was with the local fraternity...but before this year, it happened a lot.

[Psi U MC Vito]

Wow I never heard of anything like that before. In my Fraternity Psi U, we do have what we call our sweetheart pin which is given to those who is close ot us. It depends though. I know my chapter in particular is very strict against nonbrothers wearing leters, even sweethearts.

[LucyKKG]

Yeah, I wouldn't wear my bf's letters (on a sweatshirt) if he did drop me. Event shirts are different, IMO. They just have a different connotation than block letters.

A lavalier though...heheh...you can find my other post about that, if you really want.

[samtay92]

My boyfriend is joining a fraternity this fall and I am kind of nervous as to how they will treat me being his girlfriend, we've been dating for over a year now, I just want to make sure I am prepared for what is to come. BTW he is joining Pi Kappa Phi! Also, I am not part of a sorioty at his school or any where to be a matter of fact, im a senior in high school.

Thank you!

[samtay92]

I am not jumping ahead, it must have typed this in a confusing way, i am just wondering how fraterinites treat their brothers girlfriends, im not worried about "dropping" or anything. When i said "i just wajt to make sure I am prepared for what is to come" I didn't that he is going to be "dropping" letters.

[samtay92]

Its okay, after reading it, I completely understand where there was some confusion :]