Jewlery from an ex - can you wear it?

[DolphinChicaDDD]

Originally posted by ZTAMich
The ring the Ex gave me last year for Christmas was stolen when my apt was broken into last month. I say good, glad it's gone!

I was just going to write something similar to that!!!! My friend had this really nice bracelet she got from an ex. She tried to wear it after they had broken up after a year, but couldn't do it and ended up leaving in her car. We get a bit more loaded at the bar then intended, take a cab home, and leave the top down (it was july). Next day, we discover the "lucky dollar" and the bracelet were gone. I told her it was a lucky dollar...lucky the dollar was stolen and not the car.

In my experience, I find I need to take a bit before I can wear stuff again. It also depends on the breakup. I had a horrible one, and pawned a necklace I gotten, cause I couldn't bear to wear it (or see any of my friends with it on either). I had a good breakup with a different guy and I can wear the watch he gave me.

[bluefish81]

I guess you could wear the stuff again, if you want to, but I wouldn't. It just doesn't feel right to me. The diamond necklace that one of my exes gave me had more sentimental value than anything else and given how things ended that removed any good memories from it. It's kind of tainted.

[KillarneyRose]

My policy has always been to keep the jewelry from the ex until the current replaced it with something of equal or greater value. why give up perfectly good jewelry just because someone you no longer care about gave it to you?

Note: I am not a sentimenal person, so perhaps my approach wouldn't work with someone who is.

[DGqueen17]

Originally posted by KillarneyRose
My policy has always been to keep the jewelry from the ex until the current replaced it with something of equal or greater value. why give up perfectly good jewelry just because someone you no longer care about gave it to you?

Note: I am not a sentimenal person, so perhaps my approach wouldn't work with someone who is.

I like your style. I completely agree.

If you can still wear the jewelry without stirring some kind of emotion, then I don't see anything wrong with it.

However, if your stomach starts turning and bad memories come flooding back or if you start missing your ex, then maybe it's best to just keep it hidden.

[abaici]

Heck yes!!!

[aurora_borealis]

I wear the pearl earrings my ex gave me all the time. The watch he gave me I broke the crystal on, and a gold chain from him I gave to my mother for a pendant. I have a jewelry box he sent me from Bahrain and a porcelain box out on my apartment, and various other things he gave me like CDs and books.

It didn't work out, but these are Mikimoto quality but purchased in Japan. He'll make someone very happy but I am not that girl. I obviously cared about him at some point, and it doesn't bother me where they came from, they are gorgeous. The guys I tend to be involved with realize I am on speaking or friendly terms with some former boyfriends, and that we're adults and they trust me.

[trojangal]

Originally posted by KillarneyRose
My policy has always been to keep the jewelry from the ex until the current replaced it with something of equal or greater value. why give up perfectly good jewelry just because someone you no longer care about gave it to you?

Note: I am not a sentimenal person, so perhaps my approach wouldn't work with someone who is.

What a fabulous approach! I also like what honeychile said about getting it restyled into a different piece of jewelry.

I had an engagement ring from the last ex and he never cared to get it back. Was going to sell it..when I was in a car accident, the ring was in the glove box because I had taken to get it appraised. Ring was gone later, so...no ring. no problems. Too many people in and out of car to pinpoint who could have taken it. Took care of that problem!

[astroAPhi]

I have 3 necklaces from exes. I wear 2 of them still, but very rarely. I have a ruby necklace from my boyfriend that I wear most of the time, but obviously rubies don't match everything. One of the other ones is amethyst, and the other one is a diamond necklace. All are very pretty, and are useful for many occasions.

Then there's the one I don't wear: another "diamond" necklace that looks cheap. I think I'll give it to my little cousin as a pretty little necklace or something, since I'll bet if I pawned it I'd find out it was fake.

[kappaloo]

As someone who is fresh out of a relationship:

The rings I won't wear. One says "I love you" and the other was to be promise ring (it never was though). Oh, there was a cubic zironia pendant he gave me but I never wore that after awhile anyhow.

But he gave me a gold link chain necklace and I'll wear that because it doesn't have the romantic attachments the others did.

[chideltjen]

My ex had given me a "kuuipo" necklace at one point. I actually gave it back to him because it really made no sense for me to keep it. Especially since I was no one's "sweetheart."

But I received a necklace from a guy that I was dating. He actually gave it to me as a b-day gift after we broke up... and I wore it til it broke.

I've never really received large amounts of valuable jewelry in any relationship anyway so I guess it doesn't really apply. New Mr. Chideltjen has some time though.

[AOPIHottie]

I have a beautiful opal/diamond/gold ring and a Tiffany silver necklace that an ex gave to me. I don't wear the ring simply because its gold and I don't wear gold anymore, but I so still wear the necklace because its pretty and simple and goes with almost everything. I agree with as long as they don't stir up bad memories, or make your current man unhappy, then get some use out of them!! But if it ever bother my current to see the necklace and know it came from an ex, then I would respect his feelings and put it away.

[Wine&SilverBlue]

I've been dating my current bf for 27 months, but my longest relationship before him was 3 months.. so I haven't really accumulated anything too fancy or meaningful I do have one little bracelet with alternating gold/silver dolphins, but I never really wore it when we were dating and I definitely don't wear it now bc it's not my style at all. Maybe I'll sell it on eBay? I'd probably feel a little guilty wearing it around my current bf, but the reason I don't wear it is more because I never really liked it much in the first place. I have a pair of ruby/diamond earrings, a silver tiffany 10-row bracelet, an engraved heart tag bracelet, and some smaller misc. jewelry from the current bf... if we ended up breaking up, depending on the terms of our breakup, I'd save the engraved bracelet but not wear it, wear the earrings occasionally, but still wear the 10-row bracelet

[GreenKappa]

The way I look at it, yes. I mean I am not going to stop wearing something really nice just cause we went our seperate ways. Obviously you don't hate the Ex- cause I don't think you would want that...but I have worn a necklace my Ex gave me for xmas for a while - basically it was to gorgeous not to. But I did stop wearing it when I met my current bf. so my 2 cents - its totally fine.

[SigKapBling]

i dont think its wrong to wear jewelry from an ex - i have a really pretty gold ring with diamonds all across the top of it - i wear it usually everyday - as long as im wearing my gold. ive had it for 3 years now, and im kind of partial to it. and we didnt end on necessarily .. bad terms... so its kind of ok to wear it i think ....
and i have an italian boot charm that i kind of, umm, borrowed ... from a "friend" .. i wear that all the time too .. i love it. its so pretty, and when i broke it i even shipped it back to the jewelers in new york it was bought at to have it fixed right ....
i dont know - if you dont care about it - and you dont really need to divulge to anyone else that its from some ex or something ... i dont know, just my opinion!!