Everyone around me is getting married! - Page 3

AKA_Monet · #1 10-25-2004, 07:16 PM

I got married when I was 34 years old...

I wanted to get married much younger, but then I weighed my options with who was asking me to marry him... Because I strongly felt I needed to have my own "thang" going--i.e. a higher degree (Ph.D.) with a tight career that I could "write my own ticket", then the man I CHOSE to marry would accept that aspect in my life... My now husband was the ONLY man that I thought and believed that TRULY accepted my life as it stood...

Lemme tell you about having children though... Because I waited to marry the right man, my fertility has dropped and will precipitously drop as I age into my 40's... That is the way the "ball bounces"... So how many of you youngins', under the age of say "35" are want to have children with your husband--meaning you will be married before having children? Then, how many of you want to have "natural genetically related" children without ANY tremendous amount of medical technology?

I say it is a balance between pursuing your life's path versus some level of biology. I also think that anything is possible with the biological aspect. And, I think that if you feel compelled to travel down a life's path "just because"--well, that is what being an adult is about...

Just make sure you do it with your eyes wide open...

XOMichelle · #2 10-25-2004, 07:38 PM

My best friend from Junior High just got engaged this week! I however, am in no hurry to find someone to marry. I want to be done with med school first.

jess_pom · #3 11-05-2004, 10:09 AM

I totally feel you all on this topic! Last weekend I went out with my married (younger) sister, her husband, a couple of their engaged couple friend, and another couple that is married. There I sat, on the barstool, by myself. But it was cool because the guys all hung out and the girls hung out. Then I met a guy later that night, but I might need to read that book, "He's Just Not That Into You."

Anyway, it's tough being single, especially at this poing in my life. A lot of people are at that stage where they've been with their SO for a while and are getting engaged/married. I hear and think it goes in waves. Don't worry, we'll all "hang 10" soon!

uwkappa · #4 03-16-2005, 04:15 AM

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My step-mom said to me, after one of my cousins got married in 2000, "You'll be the next one in the family to get married". This would be before another cousin, who's three years older than I am, and my step-sisters.
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My family says that too...I've never really understood how someone can be 'next' unless there's a wedding date already set and its coming up....it drives me crazy...its not like a board game! you don't just know when your 'turn' is coming.

kddani · #5 03-16-2005, 11:49 AM

Everyone around me is getting married and i'm sick of dropping cash everywhere because of it! Lol. One of my littles just got married, that's fine, I don't mind, though I did end up spending several hundred dollars all together (when you're still in school that's a lot!).

A family friend is getting married in June, just got an invite to her bridal shower. I haven't seen this girl in at least 12 years probably, though her mom always sends Christmas and Bday cards, and one of my parents is the godparent of her brother. Thankfully I'll just go in on a present with my mom for the shower, but then there's also the wedding. But sheesh.... hope no one else gets married for awhile so my pocketbook can recover.

aephi alum · #6 03-16-2005, 12:17 PM

Last summer was the Year of the Wedding for me. My husband and I attended four weddings! They ran the gamut - the spare-no-expense weddings, the simple garden party (the nicest one, IMO), and then there was the wedding where they ran out of food!

BTW, the wedding where they ran out of food was over 6 months ago, and I have not seen a thank-you card. We should have taken our gift and left.

Sadly, one of the couples that got married this summer (my husband was in the wedding party and all) ... is already separated and planning a divorce.

bcdphie · #7 03-16-2005, 01:56 PM

There was a point a year or two ago where it seemed like everyone I knew was getting married. I found it hard sometimes, because my b/f and I had been a relationship way longer than some of them. I had a lot of friends get married in their early 20's as well, which is interesting because the average of marriage in Canada now is about 30 for women and 32-33 for men. I'm getting married at 27, and to me that seems old, only perhaps because I have been with my fiance since I was 20.

CUGreekgirl · #8 03-16-2005, 02:18 PM

So far I have a wedding to attend every weekend in July and my nephew (who is 6 yrs older than me) is getting married in June. I think there are one or two weddding I might have to attend in August also.

Here you pretty much get married the summer right after you graduate college. I'm a year behind in school so I have 2 more years to find someone and plan the wedding.

sigmagrrl · #9 03-16-2005, 05:08 PM

Still no progress on meeting an SO to marry, so I'm still going no where fast!

But, now I at least think I want to get married....if only for the reception! LOL

Does anyone else want to have an untraditional marriage? I am thinking separate bedrooms...I just LOVE having a big bed by myself...I DON'T WANT A STINKY BOY NEXT TO ME ALL THE TIME!!!

Seriously...There was an article in a recent Oprah discussing non-traditional marriage arrangements and, while separate apartments seems a bit extreme, I can so see having another bedroom for the nights we just want to be alone! I LOVE THAT IDEA!!!

Munchkin03 · #10 03-17-2005, 03:29 PM

I can honestly say I've never compared my relationship to those of others.

I've been with my guy for 5 years; I know plenty of people--younger and older--who were married after a year or two of dating. That worked out really well for them; I need time to get my life together.

So I don't understand those girls who get mad when a friend announces her engagement. A twinge of angst is acceptable, but ranting and raving and ultimatums are just immature.

HotDamnImAPhiMu · #11 03-17-2005, 03:43 PM

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Originally posted by Munchkin03
I can honestly say I've never compared my relationship to those of others.

... I don't understand those girls who get mad when a friend announces her engagement. A twinge of angst is acceptable, but ranting and raving and ultimatums are just immature.

Ranting and raving is definately immature.

But I *do* compare. And I think that's OK -- comparing my relationship to, for example, my girlfriend Julie's made me realize maybe what I was dealing with wasn't normal. Sometimes it's easy to get so wrapped up in things you forget to take a step back and look at the situation.