Alumnae initiation

[tunatartare]

Originally posted by bekibug
I have a question too.

I met a girl the other night who had graduated in the last year. We got to talking, and she's pretty awesome. She said she regretted never having joined a sorority in college, especially since all her friends were in them. I told her about AI, and she seemed pretty interested.

Anyway, I gave her my email address and my National's email so she could find out more about it.

Now, was that the right thing to do, or should I have waited for more of my sisters to meet her? In retrospect, probably yes, but I got the feeling that if she were an undergrad, she would have been a girl I'd be interested in keeping during recruitment. I didn't commit to anything, just gave her contact info to find out more about it.

Does Alpha Xi have a time period for which a woman has to be out of college before she can be eligible for AI?

[33girl]

Originally posted by Breeza00
I am not the type to sit on my azz and read a bunch of crap to find out stuff.

I would think twice about posting things like this - you never know who is lurking on these boards and who could be a potential sponsor, and who might be turned off by such comments.

OTW, to be fair, this forwardness isn't just AI - I find the random posts on national and local sorority guestbooks that say "I need a rec, can you please give me one" and "I'm going to pledge XYZ when I get to college, how much are dues?" absolutely ghastly in their lack of restraint or discretion.

Think about how you would feel if someone actually said this to you in real life, before you write it on a guestbook or message board!!

[WCUgirl]

Originally posted by KLPDaisy
Does Alpha Xi have a time period for which a woman has to be out of college before she can be eligible for AI?

Not that I'm aware of.

tcsparky would know. Also, I'm willing to bet AlphaXiGirl or AZ-AlphaXi would know. I'll PM one of them.

[tunatartare]

Originally posted by 33girl
I would think twice about posting things like this - you never know who is lurking on these boards and who could be a potential sponsor, and who might be turned off by such comments.

OTW, to be fair, this forwardness isn't just AI - I find the random posts on national and local sorority guestbooks that say "I need a rec, can you please give me one" and "I'm going to pledge XYZ when I get to college, how much are dues?" absolutely ghastly in their lack of restraint or discretion.

Think about how you would feel if someone actually said this to you in real life, before you write it on a guestbook or message board!!

This reminds me of my first day of school last year. I went to Eckerds to buy some stuff and I was wearing my letters. A group of freshman girls came up to me and started asking me about Greek Life. One of them goes to me "I'm going to pledge Kappa Kappa Gamma." I didn't say anything but I was thinking "how do you know that offhand?" If I'm not mistaken, I think that girl didn't get a bid to any house, so it's not like she was even a Kappa legacy or anything.

[HotDamnImAPhiMu]

Honestly, I think a lot of people just have no *clue* about greek life. What she SHOULD have said is, "I have an interest in pledging Kappa," but she probably didn't realize it's a mutual selection process -- especially if you don't live near a big, competive, Southern school.

[FSUZeta]

i think that some of us need to take a valium and lay down for a while! lots of people have no close friends or relatives who are greek,and they don't know where to turn so they somehow find greekchat and ask us. let's give them the benefit of the doubt.
that being said, spewing expletives is not the way to win friends and influence people or find a sponsor.

[LouisaMay]

Originally posted by JennRN
I know this isn't the topic, but I would like to say that this is a wonderful, wonderful description of the AI process. Beautifully written, LouisaMay.

Gee thanks

LM

[AZ-AlphaXi]

Originally posted by AXiD670
Not that I'm aware of.

tcsparky would know. Also, I'm willing to bet AlphaXiGirl or AZ-AlphaXi would know. I'll PM one of them.

There is no time period that a women has to be out of college to be eligible for AI with Alpha Xi. She just needs to not be in school - that is eligible to participate in normal NPC recruitment.

BTW - bekibug -- you did exactly the right thing ... you gave her your contact information and HQs. As was said, the ball is in her court ... if she does contact you .. you can certainly invite her to meet some of your sisters or pass her information on the the local alumnae or your chapter advisor.

[bekibug]

Originally posted by AZ-AlphaXi
There is no time period that a women has to be out of college to be eligible for AI with Alpha Xi. She just needs to not be in school - that is eligible to participate in normal NPC recruitment.

BTW - bekibug -- you did exactly the right thing ... you gave her your contact information and HQs. As was said, the ball is in her court ... if she does contact you .. you can certainly invite her to meet some of your sisters or pass her information on the the local alumnae or your chapter advisor.

Thanks. She said she went to Jacksonville State (Jacksonville, AL), so I'm pretty sure she's probably got a friend or two that was/were in AXiD up there. I just wasn't sure what I should have done since she was the first person I'd ever met interested in AI.

[roqueemae]

I just wanted to let everyone know that I did find a potential (fingers crossed-she is so sweet) home for my Grad School Girl. She will be attending a COR event for AOII next Tuesday. However, when I talked to my NPC area advisor she told me this was not a possibility for Grad Students to join a collegiate chapter. My phone calls between all the women got crossed so I had already told the chapter about the girl and the girl about the event. I hope everything works out.

[ms_gwyn]

Originally posted by Breeza00
You know,
I came to this board in hopes to find out more about the AI process. I am not the type to sit on my azz and read a bunch of crap to find out stuff. I like to get straigt to the point and obviously I offended some people by being straight and open. I simply wanted to know how I would go about getting started and I am getting talked about on here like I committed a crime! I took it on myself to contact a GLO Headquaters and they are being extremely helpful. I dont think you should bash someone for wanting to findout for about your sisterhood and possibly become a sister! Thats extremely rude!

Breeza,

You know what? I kinda understand where you are coming from, and am happy that you went and took some initative to contact a GLO about AI (which is in the advice thread that you didnt bother to read) but being defense and rude about it will not help.

A LOT OF PEOPLE (IE NATIONAL OFFICERS), read these boards and they also have ways of finding things out. This will not help you in your pursuit.

Most of the questions that you had or will have can be answered in these threads. And most if not all of us are proactive when it comes to this pursuit, because we want this and have a passion for helping out and wanting to be a part of a special and wonderful sisterhood.

Just be aware that potiental that a few of the ladies on this message board may become your sisters.

You also have to understand that this process is NOT QUICK at all, its a hurry up and wait process and you will be a very lucky women indeed IF you get invited to membership into an Organization.

If you ever feel like reading my story you will see that this is a humbling, joyous, stressful, exciting journey. I was almost a part of a sisterhood twice (once in college and one as an AI). Urania, is a wonderful group and I still wish I could be a part of it, I was so close that I could taste it, but it was not meant to be and I have excepted it and have moved on and now I have to start all over again. I'm in this for the long haul and I will find my home.

I don't want to make a snap judgment, but from the above post you dont seem to be ready for the long process that this will take. Some of the stories here have been rather quick, but more than not they have been very long exhausting journeys that have been well worth the wait.

I just hope that you have the patience to endure this and I really do hope that you find your home.

ms. gwyn

[MTSUGURL]

[hijack]
Something to think about: When you encounter a high school girl who notices your letters, and starts asking you questions, and then declares that she's going to pledge your organization, realize that she may be very impressed with YOU, and may not, as HotDamn said, have a clue about Greek life or how recruitment works at all. You may be one of her first encounters with someone in Greek life. Cool opportunity, an annoyance... it can be either, but it's up to you.
[/hijack]

[33girl]

Crystal, I'm not saying I would ever tell anyone that to their face - I would explain "well, you have to go through rush and etc etc." I'm certainly not going to say why yes you are going to pledge, they will love you, and we will be sisters. Because that isn't realistic.

However, people who have been using a computer since they popped out of the womb should be intelligent enough to know how to research something before opening their mouths or spouting off on the keyboard.

[MTSUGURL]

Good point... Forgot that there are people who have been online so long. I never used email until my first semester in college...

[Tom Earp]

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