Relationship w/o sex? - Page 3

Sophist08edLady · #1 09-11-2006, 05:05 PM

Wait a minute. Do you mean never, ever, ever have sex

I mean what is the time limit? 1 year, 3 years, until you marry me? As a woman, I think that it would be hard for me to do this, yet alone ask my man to.

rythemgrl · #2 11-17-2006, 08:02 PM

its true, men are pigs

PrettyBoy · #3 11-18-2006, 01:40 AM

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Originally Posted by rythemgrl

its true, men are pigs

That's not true. What makes you think this?

neosoul · #4 11-18-2006, 01:54 PM

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Originally Posted by rythemgrl

its true, men are pigs

ROTFL... real talk... womyn folks can be pigs too

delph998 · #5 11-18-2006, 09:26 PM

^^^If not worse. Women are something else.

But to to answer the question: Yes, do I believe that unmarried couples can have a relationship without marriage.

Now, the confession: I've been celibate for over two years and I am very sexual!!

Don't get me wrong...it's hard out there for a sista.

I've been single for a while and choose not to have casual sex, but aside from that, when I do get in a relationship, he and I will have a serious conversation about sex because I still don't want to just hop in the bed.

As someone said in a previous post, there are too many people loosely having sex with people and I want to make sure that this is a serious relationship before I give the goods. And my goods are good!

QuietStorm1914 · #6 11-20-2006, 08:55 AM

Ok, maybe it's just me.. but doesn't a relationship without sex = friendship? What's the difference between the two? Does the title of having a relationship come with coochie coupons? The hope and/or promise of sex in the future?

Another thought, what if you and the person have decided to be celibate together, and you can't satisfy each other sexually once you are married. Then what? Based on that thought, I think it could be accomplished within a certain timeframe. There probably are a few out there that would wait until marriage without having sex. I just think that people would want to know what they are getting into in the sex department, b/c if you decide to wait or give it up on the first day... sex is an important part of a relationship. The friendship, communication, and all of that is cool... but I really believe that sex can and will make or break a relationship. (Whatever the definition of that is.)

These are just thoughts that made me go hmmmm as I was reading through the thread.

laylo · #7 11-20-2006, 03:11 PM

^ In my experience (a Christian one) dating/courting is a kind of friendship, but the purpose of it is to explore possible marriage partners or prepare people for doing that. A lot of people think that if you don't "test drive", you might end up married to a bad sex partner, but in reality sex is mostly mental and not about skill. Your feelings about someone are more likely to determine whether sex is good. And statistics show that those who are celibate before marriage have more satisfying sex lives than those who aren't.

James · #8 02-25-2007, 03:59 PM

"Coochie coupons." Thats the funiest thing I have read all day

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[COLOR="Blue" Does the title of having a relationship come with coochie coupons? [/COLOR]

James · #9 04-04-2007, 06:40 PM

I do believe that many MARRIED couples have relationships without sex.

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Originally Posted by delph998

^^^If not worse. Women are something else.

But to to answer the question: Yes, do I believe that unmarried couples can have a relationship without marriage.

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cheerfulgreek · #10 04-04-2007, 09:58 PM

Both people would have to agree not to. If one of them wants to wait until marriage and the other one doesn't then it may cause a problem. I think it all depends on how much they love each other. If you love someone enough, you'll wait, but it would be really hard to. It's hard to see it as a serious relationship without intamacy.

cheerfulgreek · #11 04-04-2007, 10:02 PM

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Originally Posted by James

I do believe that many MARRIED couples have relationships without sex.

Yeah, I'm SO sure.

BlessedOne04 · #12 11-30-2006, 04:26 PM

I believe that it is possible to have a relationship without sex and if the other person respects you then you shouldn't have to agree upon it in the beginning. Doesn't that mean that you have to agree on everything upfront? If you can't wait and your partner wants to then I guess yall are not a fit! Sex is not the end all to a relationship...moreso the icing on the cake.

jon1856 · #13 11-30-2006, 08:20 PM

This thread caught my eye, so if one thinks I am crashing that is not my wish nor intent.

I have two relationships that sort of fit this thread:
1) My best friend is my "Big Sister" whom I have known since start of Rush many years ago. We have always been very close and never have had any physical relationship.
2) My girlfriend and I are physical but we are both in the real, working world. After a week of commuting and work, dinner, hugs and kisses is a lot before we just pass out. So enjoy yourselves, in a safe meaningful way and manner, while you can.

nonchalant · #14 01-12-2007, 12:03 AM

Actually, I believe it is quite possible as well. Anything is attainable when you put your mind to it. Personally, I would end up masturbating myself into a coma. Find me laid out in the bathtub passed out.

cheerfulgreek · #15 01-14-2007, 06:57 AM

How is it a relationship without intamacy?