Relationship w/o sex? - Page 2

Sophist08edLady · #1 10-03-2006, 02:25 PM

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Originally Posted by nikki1920

Overrated in that its not the be all, end all to a relationship, which is what I thought it was when I was younger, and not having it. Now that I've had it, yes, it can be great, but a good relationship is not built solely on sex. A person's best sex organ is located between their ears, IMO.

That's what I meant...

I do agree that you cannot base a relationship solely on sex, however, I do not believe that a man and a woman can be in an intimate relationship without ever having sex.

God created us as sexual creatures, so it is difficult for me to bleieve that a man and a woman can be in a long-term relationship, be physically and emotionally attracted to each other and never interact in a sexual manner towards each other....no kissing, touching, etc. Not saying that it can't be done, but I think it would be very difficult.

nikki1920 · #2 10-03-2006, 07:54 PM

I think I'm unclear about the question.

A life time without sex, probably not. But if there are mutual feelings, then probably not..

KAY10 · #3 10-06-2006, 03:56 AM

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Originally Posted by Sophist08edLady

I do agree that you cannot base a relationship solely on sex, however, I do not believe that a man and a woman can be in an intimate relationship without ever having sex.

God created us as sexual creatures, so it is difficult for me to bleieve that a man and a woman can be in a long-term relationship, be physically and emotionally attracted to each other and never interact in a sexual manner towards each other....no kissing, touching, etc. Not saying that it can't be done, but I think it would be very difficult.

What about the kissing, touching ect. but still no sex?

neosoul · #4 10-06-2006, 01:46 PM

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Originally Posted by nikki1920

Overrated in that its not the be all, end all to a relationship, which is what I thought it was when I was younger, and not having it. Now that I've had it, yes, it can be great, but a good relationship is not built solely on sex. A person's best sex organ is located between their ears, IMO.

That's what I meant...

I concur nikki1920... and everyone looks at me crazy when I say that, but I recognize sex for what it is: exercise, a way to relieve energy and frustation. Some people like to draw a line betwen sex & making love saying the emotions make the difference, BUT you're still going thru the same motions, whether you are in DEEP love or just having sex for sex's sake

starang21 · #5 10-06-2006, 02:22 PM

this is madness.

i love sex

nikki1920 · #6 10-06-2006, 05:37 PM

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Originally Posted by neosoul

I concur nikki1920... and everyone looks at me crazy when I say that, but I recognize sex for what it is: exercise, a way to relieve energy and frustation. Some people like to draw a line betwen sex & making love saying the emotions make the difference, BUT you're still going thru the same motions, whether you are in DEEP love or just having sex for sex's sake

THANK YOU!!!

Sex IS great, don't get me wrong. The idea of sex is overrated. The ACT of sex is one of God's greatest creations. Does that make sense?

But if two people are BOTH attracted to each other, then yes, it's probably almost impossible to NOT have sex.

Who's great question was this, anyway? lol..

Sex/making love = same difference to me. I don't think there is a difference between making love and the other thing, except intensity and amount of curse words and wether or not my perm is sweated out or my hair is just messed up a bit.

starang21 · #7 10-06-2006, 02:24 PM

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Originally Posted by nikki1920

Sex is overrated

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Sophist08edLady · #8 10-06-2006, 02:31 PM

Maybe it's because I have found my soul mate and I am deeply and madly in love with my husband of 11 years. To me there is nothing better than the intimate time that we spend together. In those moments we become closer. If God did not want us to enjoy sex he wouldn't have made it so wonderful.

Intense1920 · #9 03-31-2004, 01:42 PM

It's possible as long as both parties are upfront in the beginning.

StrangeFruit · #10 03-31-2004, 04:17 PM

It's possible. I've been in a relationship where for the past three years we haven't had sex.

I believe sex can get in the way of real issues in a relationship. And he's not getting any free milk from me.

Angelicqt716 · #11 03-31-2004, 07:56 PM

I have this same problem. All the guys here just want sex. And I can't find a guy to just date me without the sex. And all the guys tell me I never will. Is this the new era?

StrangeFruit · #12 04-01-2004, 04:06 PM

People need to wake up and find other way to have sex. It's not safe out there and just sharing such and initimate process with someone you're just "Dating" isnt worth it.

If I could do it all over again I would be a 33 year old Virgin right about now.

When I watch talks and court shows it's ridiculus how people are just giving away their power, men and women alike.

Children are having oral sex like it's Kool Aide with no type of committment associated with it, believing it's the road to popularity. When I was in high school if you were doing THAT you didn't want anyone to know about it b/c you would be labeled a Skank, but 16 years later it's the THING to do.

But more and more teenagers are becoming infected with HIV/AIDS.

Sex (IMO) doesn't define, improve,make a relationship. We need to learn to communicate and learn about the person we're involved with.

If and when I have children I will tell them that they are precious and that not everyone is WORTHY of them and to choose wisely. Know the person you are dealing with; not just their name, age, zodiac sign and address. Know what makes them tick, what their values are. Because you may find that most of the people you get to know aren't worth your time in a sexual way.

I remember Minister Louis Farakkhan saying, "Man can't live by butt alone."

Gyrl7 · #13 04-02-2004, 04:51 PM

I had one of those..

!!!

It would have been as bad if that was the way we started off, but he cooled down six months after we were dating. So the the remainder of the two and a half years we dated we must have had sex 3 times, although I only remember two of the ocassions, I will say three for arguments sake.

It was VERY frustrating, because he just cut me off cold with no real explanation other than "he didn't feel like a man", so for reasons that out weighed the sex issue, I left him to figure out what in the hell it was he actually felt like.

ThetaLove · #14 09-11-2006, 04:17 PM

It is possible. Especially (like someone mentioned) if both are upfront in the beginning.
However, I know of a few relationships that have ended b/c of problems related to sexual issues. In all the relationships, they were having sex in the beginning, then one partner wanted to stop having sex. I know that sounds like most marriages after many years.... j/k

That could certainly lead to problems in the relationship and issues with the people involved in later relationships.

f8nacn · #15 09-11-2006, 04:27 PM

I believe that it definitely is possible...as long as that is discussed and agreed upon early on (as mentioned above).