Why am I not compatible with this type of guy?

[Dionysus]

The "male version" of me.

I tend to like and seek guys that are just like me. However, relationships never work out. It seems that there's never any chemistry. Or, worse, we grow to hate each other. The guys I came closest to having a full relationship were almost the opposite of me.

Well, I've always heard that opposites attract. I do think that's somewhat true, but I know MANY couples out there that are similar to each other. What makes me different? I've also been told that two people with very dominant personalities aren't compatible, but I don't consider myself as having a dominant personality.

[AXJules]

I've wondered this before too.
I think the answer is, you need someone similar to you, but not with the exact same personality. Especially if you're dominant. You either need to be dominated or have someone to dominate.

Think about it. I don't know about you but I can't stand myself. Why in hell would I want to spend all day with two of me??


So there need to be differences. But there also needs to be common ground. If you can't agree on music, food, places, anything....you're looking at a rough road ahead.

[Peaches-n-Cream]

It is important to have similar values, morals, and goals. That is a strong foundation for a relationship if that is what you want.

[Rudey]

This got me thinking. If you had a clone of yourself...or say just an identical twin, would you have sex or masturbate him or her? Because it's just like beating yourself off right?

-Rudey
--Tell me none of you thought the same thing.

[absolutuscchick]

Originally posted by Rudey
This got me thinking. If you had a clone of yourself...or say just an identical twin, would you have sex or masturbate him or her? Because it's just like beating yourself off right?

-Rudey
--Tell me none of you thought the same thing.

lol...interesting thought!!

[SmartBlondeGPhB]

Originally posted by AXJules
I've wondered this before too.
I think the answer is, you need someone similar to you, but not with the exact same personality. Especially if you're dominant. You either need to be dominated or have someone to dominate.

Think about it. I don't know about you but I can't stand myself. Why in hell would I want to spend all day with two of me??

So there need to be differences. But there also needs to be common ground. If you can't agree on music, food, places, anything....you're looking at a rough road ahead.

I agree. If two people have the same personalities, you will either argue too much or if you both are more passive you'll be waiting for each other to make the decisions (which won't happen).

I do think though that similar beliefs and personality traits are more important than having all of the same interests. Similar backgrounds help too.