lonely and depressed...

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by tld221

LMAO i totally read something more into that but maybe you just really like planets and whatnot.

What were you thinking? lol seriously I wanna hear.

[Munchkin03]

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

Making the co-workers off-limits, unless it is in your HR Code of Conduct manuals, then, you never know that on that special projects, sparks may fly...

I used to be against dating co-workers, that whole "S#!T where you eat" thing definitely went to heart. But, I realized--MOST of the couples I know now met when they worked together. Until I finally got it together to clean off my fridge, I had a birth announcement from a couple who met at work, as well as a wedding invite from a couple who also met at work. She was his boss! That said, I know of one situation where the work thing did not go over very well at all, but more so because the girl was crazy than because of the fact that they worked together.

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by sairose

I know this is so stupid to be posting my personal feelings here, but I just have held things in for too long.

And this is sooo corny, so I'm sorry. Please don't think I'm stupid.

It's just that it gets so lonely. I mean I've been single for 3 years and in this time have not dated anyone. In fact I've only been on one date in my entire life, and that's because I asked the guy. (The guy I went out with never took me out). I'm now 20, close to 21, this will be my fourth year in college, and I'm still alone.

And I know I'm not the only one not dating anyone. But it's so hard right now. Out of my original 3 friends I made at the beginning of my freshman year, 2 just got married and the other is engaged. Several other friends are getting married or are in serious relationships. I've gone to 2 weddings this summer and another one is tomorrow. It's not that I want to be married yet...because I don't...it's just that i wish I had someone in my life. Or at least a date...I've always wondered what it would be like to be asked out, and taken on a date. I've never had that.

I get so sad when I'm out with my friends/sisters and they talk about their boyfriends. And I get sad when I go to the movies with my friends and there's all these couples there and it reminds me how no one has ever taken me out.

There's been so many guys I have liked. One turned out to be gay, which absolutely crushed me. The others, if they found out I liked them, gave me the "I just see you as a friend" speech. One of my closest guy friends I have liked since I met him a year ago, but I'm not going to let him know that. What's the point?

And right now this whole stupid post sounds like a teenybopper writing into Seventeen magazine for help. So I'm sorry. But I'm really hurting. I don't understand...I have a LOT of friends and a full social calendar. I don't consider myself ugly. I am not shy (although I have a hard time letting feelings show towards guys). I am active in my sorority and in several performing ensembles.

I feel like I was meant to be alone. I feel like guys don't like me, and don't want me. I feel like I can't be seen as date material, but only as a friend. I've not talked to my friends about all this because they've all got boyfriends and a few are married, so how can they relate? Plus, when they're so happy, why depress them with my sob story? I've felt so alone in this and have fought back tears and put on a fake smile for too long.

Is it stupid of me to feel this way? I just feel totally lost.

I didn't read the OP this morning, but lol lol lol lol

I know this post is like 5 years old, but I couldn't stop laughing at the OP. Especially, what's in bold. I was already laughing really hard about something else, and now this. I feel sorry for her but she just kept going on and on whining about some sob story of how she can't get a guy.

Looking for a box of kleenex from laughing.

lol

I think I'm just really tired from work. I tend to laugh at a lot of things when I'm tired.

[DSTCHAOS]

The OP is funny to me as are most rants about being unable to find a date.

But NOTHING is funnier than you passing up a date to watch the planets line up. Too bad you couldn't incorporate that rare event into your date. You suck.

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

Too bad you couldn't incorporate that rare event into your date. You suck.

I tried to. I called him that day and asked him if he would like to look at them with me. They could be seen with the naked eye, but I told him I had a telescope and everything to get a better view of them. He got really mad about it, because he wanted to go to the drive in. Basically he wanted to park. Not watch a movie. So, it's not like I didn't try. He was just being a jerk about it.

And I don't suck!

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

I tried to. I called him that day and asked him if he would like to look at them with me. They could be seen with the naked eye, but I told him I had a telescope and everything to get a better view of them. He got really mad about it, because he wanted to go to the drive in. Basically he wanted to park. Not watch a movie. So, it's not like I didn't try. He was just being a jerk about it.

And I don't suck!

hehe...then he sucks.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

Basically he wanted to park. Not watch a movie. So, it's not like I didn't try. He was just being a jerk about it.

I missed this one.
This was the same joker with the ju ju beez right?

Broke joker.

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

This was the same joker with the ju ju beez right?

lol

No, it wasn't the same guy. And they were Dots not Ju Ju whatever.

[RU OX Alum]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

I tried to. I called him that day and asked him if he would like to look at them with me. They could be seen with the naked eye, but I told him I had a telescope and everything to get a better view of them. He got really mad about it, because he wanted to go to the drive in. Basically he wanted to park. Not watch a movie. So, it's not like I didn't try. He was just being a jerk about it.

And I don't suck!

that sucks, you should find a guy that would watch planets with you

[Munchkin03]

Seriously, some of you people are crazy times.

If you have a full, active life, it frankly doesn't really matter if you're single or not. Sometimes I've been so busy--with good stuff, not with work--that having a significant other is a bit of a distraction. It's only when I don't have anything going on in my life that I ever get sad.

[christiangirl]

Honestly, I may joke about being lonely, but hadn't thought about this seriously until recently. A girl I knew in college just "came out" with her relationship with the guy I had liked for all 4 years. We were even supposed to go on a date, but he cancelled (for a good reason). Long story short, they've been together for months and she just started flooding facebook with all their pics, thus bringing back all the feelings I thought I'd gotten past. So I guess I don't really just want somebody, I'm lonely because I want him. I really thought something was going to come of our date because he was so excited, but he turned to her in the end. It's like a sappy chick flick, but from the loser's POV.

Anywho, I've finally stopped torturing myself looking at her pictures and am trying to just forget it. I don't want to miss my blessing because I'm looking backward and envy is not something I want attached to me. And I truly don't need anything serious right now, that stack of books is my man for the time being. I'm just sick of losing out to "the other girl." It happened over and over in college and high school and here at grad school it's happened FOUR TIMES in my first year. I'm tired of a guy showing interest and then choosing my friend in the end. I'm not lonely and depressed, I just feeling constantly rejected. I know this is God's way of telling me I need to focus on Him and leave guys alone until I get it together, but it's still hurtful watching every crush and even though ones I thought I might love fall for someone else. Not trying to question how God works, but what's the point of having someone compliment me, put his arm around me and THEN ask my friend on the date? I try not to think about it and focus on how good my life is, but I need to try harder because this sucks.

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by RU OX Alum

that sucks, you should find a guy that would watch planets with you

I'm a member of an astronomy and physics club, so I've actually met guys that are into astronomy like me, but all of them were fugly, and a few of them were fubar. The guy I'm seeing now is a cutie but wouldn't know a planet unless it appeared on his XBox.

So, I guess I could have one or the other. I could have a Mr. Hottie who probably thinks the Kuiper Belt is a belt to wear around his waist, or a Mr. Fubar who can tell me that the Kuiper Belt stretches from the edge of Neptune's orbit to about 7 billion miles from the Sun. Or a Mr. Fugly who can debate with me about why Pluto should or should not be one of the nine planets in our solar system.

Hmmm....I'll take Mr. Hottie.

ETA: He did watch "Mission to Mars" with me though.

[RU OX Alum]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

I'm a member of an astronomy and physics club, so I've actually met guys that are into astronomy like me, but all of them were fugly, and a few of them were fubar. The guy I'm seeing now is a cutie but wouldn't know a planet unless it appeared on his XBox.

So, I guess I could have one or the other. I could have a Mr. Hottie who probably thinks the Kuiper Belt is a belt to wear around his waste, or a Mr. Fubar who can tell me that the Kuiper Belt stretches from the edge of Neptune's orbit to about 7 billion miles from the Sun. Or a Mr. Fugly who can debate with me about why Pluto should or should not be one of the nine planets in our solar system.

Hmmm....I'll take Mr. Hottie.

ETA: He did watch "Mission to Mars" with me though.

point is: he's trying....go with the guy that is make the effort, because most people don't

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

I'm a member of an astronomy and physics club, so I've actually met guys that are into astronomy like me, but all of them were fugly, and a few of them were fubar. The guy I'm seeing now is a cutie but wouldn't know a planet unless it appeared on his XBox.

So, I guess I could have one or the other. I could have a Mr. Hottie who probably thinks the Kuiper Belt is a belt to wear around his waste, or a Mr. Fubar who can tell me that the Kuiper Belt stretches from the edge of Neptune's orbit to about 7 billion miles from the Sun. Or a Mr. Fugly who can debate with me about why Pluto should or should not be one of the nine planets in our solar system.

Hmmm....I'll take Mr. Hottie.

ETA: He did watch "Mission to Mars" with me though.

Oh Cheerful... What am I going to do with you...

Some Fugly can be cleaned up, well... If they are fugly on the outside, what are they like on the inside? If they are handsome on the inside, then the fugliness can be cleaned up unless we are talking total birth defects with 12 fingers on one hand et al...

Mr. Hottie could be an asshat on the inside and would that be worth your beautiful intelligent mind? ESPECIALLY when you are keeping both your outsides and insides clean and presentable...

Now if dude is FUBAR'ed, and you are not a plastic surgeon or he is not studying to be one, then welp--you can think like my folks did, "if you marry a frog, you'll have tadpoles"... But sometimes you kiss a frog and he turns into a prince!!! Maybe a frog prince...

And getting some guys, especially the fugly one's to clean up, is not that hard if you appeal to their vanity and make it a challenge. Like, take for instance, craters on the face, it's usually a combination of issues, but most likely, folliculitis and using poor shaving technique--i.e. dull razors or not sealing that pore. There are other things like what they eat, but for now, just say it's those two things... Get a men's regimen--an the "beauty stores do not have a good men's line" and sometimes its proactiv--personally, I like Mary Kay products and get that stuff cleaned out!!!

If it's jumbled up teeth, well, take him to an orthodontist!!! If it's decaying teeth, he needs to see a dentist...

If it's jumbled up toes--hammertoes, etc. get him a spa pedicure.

And don't be mean about it, just use your wiles of persuasion... LOL...

[DSTCHAOS]

I belonged to a singles' ministry about 7 years ago. It wasn't a dating pool. It was just Christian singles who didn't have family responsibilities so we wanted to hang out. Very platonic environment.

It was fun but, again, singles' events are sometimes too obvious of places to find dates. The obvious places often don't provide what you need. I still say let your guard down in your normal routine (work, leisure, hobbies, etc.) and what God has for you will be for you.