lonely and depressed...

[James]

Thats a wise observation.

Originally posted by dphies00
Hey guys - not to solve complex problems and emotions with a simple statement, but it a rough time of year. The holidays are over, resolutions are forcing us to deal with aspects of our personality and lifestyle that we know we should want/need to change. And with the letdown after decorations are taken down and the parties end... well its depressing to begin with.

And its cold and disgusting in most of the nation this time of the year.

Just a thought to consider when it seems like maybe its too much... outside factors are contributing to your emotions.

[kwazi19]

I understand what everyone is saying and how everyone feels because I at times feel that way as well. I've been in one serious relationship that ended with the ex cheating on me and lying to me for a couple of months; but its like some of my best friends have told me.... Patience is going to pay for us all; and happiness and love will find us all..

[EPTriSigma]

I totally feel your pain! Somewhere around 95% of my chapter is taken! It's crazy. Most of those who aren't taken are "semi-seeing someone" or have prospects. Me--- Single....very single. It used to bother me.... not so much anymore. Those of us who are single started our little singles club. I have actually started to like being single. It lets me focus more on my classes, work, family and sorority obligations. I figure my time will come.

[dphies00]

When I was in high school, with a huge group of friends, around junior year, a few people got in serious relationships.

So me and my best friends started the SGC - Single Girls Club.

When we're (ahem) feeling lonely and depressed, we call a charter member meeting and get really dressed up, looking as fine as we can humanly get, and convene a meeting at some lonely hearts bar. Meetings nowadays usually involve a great deal of alcohol and a random group of guys.

Sometime I wish we were lonely and depressed more so we could have more SGC meetings.

[Optimist Prime]

this is the personal feelings forum its okay. I'm sure you'll find some one soon though, just smile a lot, and you'll be happier. also, some zoloft/welbutrion, etc might help

[DZTUBAGIRL]

Thanks for everyone's responses. I don't want everyone to think i am a depressing person because i'm not. Really I'm not depressed at all. I just get lonely sometimes. But usually I go and hang out with some friends and I am ok. Actually I have a little good news....There is this guy that goes to the same bar as me and some of my friends. Well I have had a crush on him for a long time but I was scared to tell him. Well I got up enough courage last weekend and it turns out he is interested in me too. We are suposed to go out this weekend. I'm really excited...but not too much because I don't want to set myself up for getting let down. But we will see how it goes. Hope everyone has a good week.

[EPTriSigma]

For Valentines we are planning a HUGE dinner for all the singles we know. We are all going to get all dressed up and head out to Neighbors (a pretty neat italian restaurant). Power in numbers... especially on the worst day of the year to be single!

[dphies00]

For Valentines we are planning a HUGE dinner for all the singles we know. We are all going to get all dressed up and head out to Neighbors (a pretty neat italian restaurant). Power in numbers... especially on the worst day of the year to be single!

Did anyone else ever think that the best night to go out EVER as a single was Valentine's Day?!?! Everyone else is single - or they'd be with someone else. If you're out a looking for love on Valentine's Day - you're really single. I always feel when I'm going out on Valentine's Day, it is the one night a year where I'm pretty sure I don't have to ask if a guy has a girlfriend.

[EPTriSigma]

Originally posted by dphies00
Did anyone else ever think that the best night to go out EVER as a single was Valentine's Day?!?! Everyone else is single - or they'd be with someone else. If you're out a looking for love on Valentine's Day - you're really single. I always feel when I'm going out on Valentine's Day, it is the one night a year where I'm pretty sure I don't have to ask if a guy has a girlfriend.

OMG!!! That's awesome. Never thought of it that way! lol

[XOMichelle]

Originally posted by dphies00
Did anyone else ever think that the best night to go out EVER as a single was Valentine's Day?!?! Everyone else is single - or they'd be with someone else. If you're out a looking for love on Valentine's Day - you're really single. I always feel when I'm going out on Valentine's Day, it is the one night a year where I'm pretty sure I don't have to ask if a guy has a girlfriend.

this IS awesome. I've been with someone for the past 6 or 7 years, lol and am happy to have a valentines day to be single. whew.

[christiangirl]

Originally Posted by sairose

I have no interest in being married yet, not at ALL. I don't understand how my friends are married...I feel like we're all too young. I also don't expect guys to just fall at my feet...but I'd like to know what it's like to have someone that likes you. I'd like to know how it feels to be asked out.

*bump* I started to start a thread titled "This is where we b$%^& about being single" but this seemed appropriate.

This is my sentiment and I thought I'm schpiel about it. I'm almost 23 and NOT in the market to be married. I don't even really want a serious relationship--it would only complicate my life right now. I decided I'm not looking for ANYBODY until I get my Master's because there's no way I'd want to stay in this area. As soon as graduation hits, I'm moving (if I had my preference) so there's no point in getting into anything long-term, I've already gotten through my first year. But I would like to date around in the meantime. At least go out with a guy every now and again for fun. However, I've always been the one to do the asking. I've always been the one to say "I like you" first. I want to know what it's like when the guy you like wants you to like him, wants you to go out with him. I don't get that. I'm not looking for a proposal (I've had that once, it really sucked) I just want to find a good man and have him tell me he likes me and wants to spend time with me. Too much to ask?

Seriously, I've given up on dates. I went out with I guy I've been crushing on for 6 months and told my friend "That wasn't a date; that was a go-see." I just wanted to know if we were compatible and that kind of thing is strictly a go-see in my book (takes the pressure off). He turned out to be a total wuss. We went to a theme park and when I refused to get on his favorite ride (one that scares the CRAP out of me) he sulked about it for 12 HOURS. I'm a little sorry I asked him, but at least now I know. I'd like to do more of that but all the guys in grad school seem to be married, engaged, or serious. Plus, there are only about 5 of them in my program and that DOES NOT HELP.

[knight_shadow]

Originally Posted by christiangirl

*bump* I started to start a thread titled "This is where we b$%^& about being single" but this seemed appropriate.

This is my sentiment and I thought I'm schpiel about it. I'm almost 23 and NOT in the market to be married. I don't even really want a serious relationship--it would only complicate my life right now. I decided I'm not looking for ANYBODY until I get my Master's because there's no way I'd want to stay in this area. As soon as graduation hits, I'm moving (if I had my preference) so there's no point in getting into anything long-term, I've already gotten through my first year. But I would like to date around in the meantime. At least go out with a guy every now and again for fun. However, I've always been the one to do the asking. I've always been the one to say "I like you" first. I want to know what it's like when the guy you like wants you to like him, wants you to go out with him. I don't get that. I'm not looking for a proposal (I've had that once, it really sucked) I just want to find a good man and have him tell me he likes me and wants to spend time with me. Too much to ask?

I feel you on this. I'm 23 now, and it seems like everyone around me is married/engaged/seriously dating/with child. This has never seemed "right" to me. I've always been the one who wants to get my stuff together before I throw another person into the mix.

So in my eyes, your last statement is not too much to ask. That's what I want too

Seriously, I've given up on dates. I went out with I guy I've been crushing on for 6 months and told my friend "That wasn't a date; that was a go-see." I just wanted to know if we were compatible and that kind of thing is strictly a go-see in my book (takes the pressure off). He turned out to be a total wuss. We went to a theme park and when I refused to get on his favorite ride (one that scares the CRAP out of me) he sulked about it for 12 HOURS. I'm a little sorry I asked him, but at least now I know. I'd like to do more of that but all the guys in grad school seem to be married, engaged, or serious. Plus, there are only about 5 of them in my program and that DOES NOT HELP.

WOMP on the sulking. I hate seeing that when I'm out.

[DoubleTDG]

I am feeling you there. All of my friends are getting married, two of the guys I dated in high school have kids (3 and 1), and I keep getting asked at weddings why I don't have a ring or where my significant other is. I am almost 23 as well and have 3 more years of school and from what I have heard law school ends relationships, so why would I want to put forth too much effort into one?

[Lady Pi Phi]

Why is everyone getting married so young???

Ok, I'll admit, I'm scratching my head wondering why anyone would get married at 23? At 23, marriage and kids was the last thing on my mind. It was also the last thing on the minds of my group of friends. To me, 23 seems so young (granted, I don't know these people so I really can't say and don't want to be judgmental about their reasons for getting married).

I'll be 29 when I get married (I just became engaged a few weeks ago) and sometimes that still seems young to me.

If you want to get married at 23 or 103, that's up to you. At the end of the day, you need to do what's best for you, so don't worry about what everyone else is doing.

[tld221]

i suppose ill throw my "woe is me, im single" post:

ive been single for... a few years, i guess 6 years now? the last real relationship i had was short and sweet. ive been on a couple dates over the years since then, but they were all lame ducks--dudes who wanted to do the friends thing, dudes who liked dudes, dudes who had girls already, etc.

i've done the "im single and loving it" thing. and the "im single and hating it" thing. and then the "im gonna dress really provocatively and see who will take me home" thing. and then the "im gonna be a total spinster and see who will ask for my number. the "ill be a woman of the new generation and ask HIM out" thing wasnt so empowering.

so now im doing the "welp im almost 25 and ive never felt this much pressure to be in a relationship" thing. of all my friends, one recently got married, another engaged, and the rest are either in committed relationships (im the oldest of 4 and all my siblings are in relationships!) or desperately single like myself.

so now... im just doing me. which is what i shouldve done all along. but dammit, man company is nice you know!