Rush - What to NOT do or say

[SWTXBelle]

Originally Posted by ThetaPrincess24

Watch your language!!! The "F" word should not come out of your mouth at all while talking to sorority members at recruitment parties much less multiple times!!!

[Jill1228]

Originally Posted by ThetaPrincess24

Watch your language!!! The "F" word should not come out of your mouth at all while talking to sorority members at recruitment parties much less multiple times!!!

Oh yes, I had that happen!
This was the same chick who came in chewing gum and later was desperate to find a place to spit it out. I had to dig in my purse for a tissue
And yes I was like "WTF?
I thought it--I didn't say it!

[cali_gossip]

Originally Posted by ThetaPrincess24

Watch your language!!! The "F" word should not come out of your mouth at all while talking to sorority members at recruitment parties much less multiple times!!!

Ugh I can't stress this enough! Last fall we had a girl come through and when she was asked why she wanted to go greek her response was (and I kid you NOT), "I f**ing hate girls but I thought I'd rush to learn to get along with them. All the other sororities I just saw were a bunch of c**ts though and y'all are the best. F*** the rest of those b***es I wanna go DZ!"

Needless to say, she did not come back.

Another thing related to this, if the girl that is rushing you drops an F bomb, don't think it's okay to do it too. It may feel like it's a really laid back conversation but other girls around you can hear it and not take it well.

[Caty]

No lie, I've spent the past two days reading this ENTIRE thread. I'm a senior in high school (or will be, I guess, this fall ) and I'm planning on rushing next year, and I want to make sure that I'm well prepared. Thank you all SO much for this.

[kathyrowl]

I thought Continuous Open Bid would be more relaxing. It isn't! After being asked if I were available on a certain day, I responded with times, but haven't heard back!! What now, nothing?

[33girl]

Originally Posted by kathyrowl

I thought Continuous Open Bid would be more relaxing. It isn't! After being asked if I were available on a certain day, I responded with times, but haven't heard back!! What now, nothing?

See the responses in the other thread that you started. Heed them.

[maddisaurus]

when, if ever, is it appropriate to tell a sorority (honestly) that they are your favorite?

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by maddisaurus

when, if ever, is it appropriate to tell a sorority (honestly) that they are your favorite?

I wouldn't ever tell a chapter that, but that's just my opinion.

Favorite may not feel the same way about you, and that puts the active in an awkward position.

[maddisaurus]

okay in the general advice thread someone suggested telling your fave that they are your fave... but i agree that seems a bit awkward in person. recruitment at my school is fairly relaxed, thank goodness, but still stressful with what to say!

[Alumiyum]

Originally Posted by maddisaurus

okay in the general advice thread someone suggested telling your fave that they are your fave... but i agree that seems a bit awkward in person. recruitment at my school is fairly relaxed, thank goodness, but still stressful with what to say!

I would not say it unless you are the PNM who would rather not be greek if you can't be in that sorority. Otherwise you could change your mind, put another sorority first, and cause hurt feelings.

[pibetaphi2013]

Originally Posted by Alumiyum

I would not say it unless you are the PNM who would rather not be greek if you can't be in that sorority. Otherwise you could change your mind, put another sorority first, and cause hurt feelings.

I think you can say, "I've really loved meeting the girls in your chapter!" or "I feel very comfortable here!" or other less awkward things to tell the chapter they're your favorite if you're still unsure. Though if it's pref night, or some other point and youre 110% sure a chapter's your first choice, it's good to tell them, imo.

Similarly, try not to let your second choice know they're your second choice, just say you're interested.

[kt8319]

I think you should never flat out tell one sorority they are your favorite. A one girl in particular did that while I was in recruitment. She wentt on and on about how all she wanted was this one sorority, and she ended not receiving any bids because that sorority didn't want her and all of the others knew she didn't want them. Definitely not a great idea!

[SWTXBelle]

Originally Posted by kt8319

I think you should never flat out tell one sorority they are your favorite. A one girl in particular did that while I was in recruitment. She wentt on and on about how all she wanted was this one sorority, and she ended not receiving any bids because that sorority didn't want her and all of the others knew she didn't want them. Definitely not a great idea!

Apparently her problem wasn't that she told one sorority they were her favorite - the problem was she told EVERYONE that the one sorority was her favorite. Big difference between going on and on about it to everyone in your rush group, and whispering in your rusher's ear at pref that her sorority is your favorite.

[33girl]

Even whispering it in your rusher's ear - unless you KNOW 90% of the women in the group and know what they're thinking - can come off as desperate or creepy, if you whisper it to the wrong person. I would also think "I wonder if she's sincere or if she's telling EVERYONE this to try and secure a bid?"

Just let your real feelings shine through and don't try to be so cool and collected that no one can get to them. Do you straight up tell a guy on a date that you would love for him to ask you to marry him and ravish you right now? No. You let him know in other more subtle ways. It's the same with rush.

[Drolefille]

^^ Agree to disagree. I've seen it work for PNMs particularly when they're the 'rush crush' of an active. I've NOT seen it backfire when it was a personal comment and not a facebook posting/tent talk thing.