Rush - What to NOT do or say - Page 30

brokengymnast75 · #1 02-20-2009, 02:43 PM

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Originally Posted by Xidelt

If you are hoping to rush again, I wouldn't talk crap about any of the groups on your campus. I would also be vague about which ones you like or dislike the most. You never know where you will end up next year.

Okay thanks, I will try to be more vague.

HotDamnImAPhiMu · #2 02-20-2009, 06:31 PM

Agreed, but then we went to the same college, so that sort of makes sense.

ZTA72 · #3 02-20-2009, 09:03 PM

^^^
Great advice. Really great advice for all of life. You NEVER know who knows who and saying bad things always comes back on the person who says it. You know that *karma* thing.

alphasamm2007 · #4 04-28-2009, 02:13 PM

Never Ignore the question, even if you think it shouldnt have been asked in the 1st place

One of my good friends got turned off by the other sorority on our campus because one girl did not answer a question she was really curious about. the question was "What makes your sorority better than the other one"
The girl replied we arent better we are just different and left it at that, not giving her reasons or examples of how they were different.

If you dont feel comfortable answering questions you should at least find someway to answer it even if it means finding another sister to do so.

LucyKKG · #5 04-30-2009, 02:47 AM

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Originally Posted by alphasamm2007

Never Ignore the question, even if you think it shouldnt have been asked in the 1st place

One of my good friends got turned off by the other sorority on our campus because one girl did not answer a question she was really curious about. the question was "What makes your sorority better than the other one"
The girl replied we arent better we are just different and left it at that, not giving her reasons or examples of how they were different.

If you dont feel comfortable answering questions you should at least find someway to answer it even if it means finding another sister to do so.

I can see how it seemed like the sister dodged the question, but that's kind of a recruitment no-no (on the PNMs part, I mean). The sister was probably trying to be Panhellenic and not bash the other group. I agree that she could have talked about different activities they do, but I'm sure a question like that would leave me taken aback as well.

BaltoAlphaPsi · #6 05-01-2009, 12:10 AM

That almost sounded like an interview question.... "why should we hire you and not someone else" It wasn't a bad question, but i think it would be hard to answer. I agree, you should say why you're events are different.

"So, what makes XYZ better than the other sororities"
"Well, we're always looking for fresh ideas, last year we did our first male beauty pageant for our philanthropy, and it was amazing. We love having the campus involved"

nichole13 · #7 05-01-2009, 12:50 AM

Seriously, this info actually helps a lot. I'm going to be a freshmen next year. Any advice on how long we should wait / look into a sorority before we rush / pledge?

KSUViolet06 · #8 05-01-2009, 12:54 AM

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Originally Posted by nichole13

Seriously, this info actually helps a lot. I'm going to be a freshmen next year. Any advice on how long we should wait / look into a sorority before we rush / pledge?

Depends on the type of sorority and your school.

If you're talking about Panhellenic sororities, I suggest doing so freshman year. However, depending on where you go to school, waiting until sophomore year is no big deal.

But there ARE some schools with highly competitive recruitments at which it is highly difficult for non-freshmen to get bids.

Leopards5113 · #9 05-03-2009, 01:49 AM

im a freshman now and im transferring to a new school in the fall. this school doesnt hold sorority rush until the fall of sophomore year so i havent missed anything which is great! but i was just wondering, should i not mention that im a transfer? also i rushed at my old school and dropped after the first round. im guessing i shouldnt mention that? if they asked if i rushed should i just say no? thanks!

KSUViolet06 · #10 05-03-2009, 03:01 AM

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Originally Posted by Leopards5113

im a freshman now and im transferring to a new school in the fall. this school doesnt hold sorority rush until the fall of sophomore year so i havent missed anything which is great! but i was just wondering, should i not mention that im a transfer? also i rushed at my old school and dropped after the first round. im guessing i shouldnt mention that? if they asked if i rushed should i just say no? thanks!

Chances are good that the sorority will know you're a transfer by your transcript or something of that nature.

I'd say don't mention that you rushed elsewhere. It shouldn't come up, but if asked, don't lie.

truelies · #11 05-13-2009, 05:48 PM

My sorority is one of the only organizations on our campus that does not put down other organizations on campus. I always tell PNMs to go where they feel they belong and if that means not following their friends, so be it. This is not a decision that can not be taken back (most sororities, mine included do NOT take girls who have dropped from another sorority's pledging) and must not be taken lightly. If needed I tell the story about how my friends and I went into recruitment saying that we were going to pledge the same sorority but felt at home with different organizations.

Since other organizations and non-greeks love to spread rumors about hazing we got a lot of questions about it. I basically explain that whoever spread those rumors is not a sister and if they are not a sister/did not go through our process then how do they know what it entails? I also go into the school's anti-hazing policy.

General convo I talk about shopping, TV shows, music, etc... I tend to stay away from political/religious issues because you do not want to risk offending someone.

Leopard - if I does come up as to why you dropped just give an explanation as to why.

FSUZeta · #12 05-13-2009, 07:17 PM

"Since other organizations and non-greeks love to spread rumors about hazing we got a lot of questions about it. I basically explain that whoever spread those rumors is not a sister and if they are not a sister/did not go through our process then how do they know what it entails? I also go into the school's anti-hazing policy." Truelies

But if the question was "do you haze?" you have not answered it. if i were a pnm, i would wonder why.

truelies · #13 05-13-2009, 07:30 PM

I have never been asked if we haze, just specific questions (like do you make your girls eat dog food/goldfish, etc...) One rumor that was spread about my organization when I was a pnm was that we circle fat. This was told to me by a sister of the sorority that my best friend was pledging and she actually said "Oh, don't pledge the DEBs, they circle your fat." Now I am a plus sized girl so you could imagine I FREAKED. I still would have even if I was a size 2. I went into our tea (preference) freaked out about this and was reassured by my now sisters. Obviously it was just a rumor, I would have never stood for that and would not expect anyone else to.

Regarding the "do you haze?" - I tell them that I do not know for sure about other organizations because I did not pledge them but to know their own boundaries. If they are being asked to do something that is going to physically/mentally harm them and compromise who they are as an individual then do NOT do it. Also, if we give you a bid to join our sorority that means that we potentially want you to be our sister and why would we degrade girls that we want to be sisters?

tigers01 · #14 05-16-2009, 11:00 PM

this information is all really helpful! Im going to be rushing this fall as a freshman and am really excited but also nervous because ive heard from older friends that it is a stressful week! i have a couple questions though..

as far as recommendations go my school websites info says that its not the pnm's responsibility to get rec.'s nor is it required but you can if you know someone.. but idk if most people are going to have rec.'s and i will be the only one without any? i dont know any adults who have been in sororitys.

also i have a cousin at uga who is in a sorority, is that considered a legacy? she hasnt graduated yet though shes only a sophomore.

im pretty clear on what not to talk about, however i AM very worried about the cost of pledging but i dont want to ask about it, do they usually inform us about the financial aspect of the sorority at some point of rush week?

lastly, ive heard from a lot of people that its a good idea to deactivate your facebook during rush and some people have said to do it as soon as you register for rush because they will start looking you up once they get your info.. is it really that big of a deal? ill probably look through and make sure i dont have any inappropriate pictures but ive heard that they judge as harshly as not considering girls who have red cups in their pictures or have their arms behind friends backs in pictures because apparently in college thats how they hide drinks in pictures?? i just think this sounds a little extreme, does anyone know how seriously they judge pictures??

thanks for all the help =)

GammaPhi88 · #15 05-16-2009, 11:14 PM

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Originally Posted by tigers01

this information is all really helpful! Im going to be rushing this fall as a freshman and am really excited but also nervous because ive heard from older friends that it is a stressful week! i have a couple questions though..

as far as recommendations go my school websites info says that its not the pnm's responsibility to get rec.'s nor is it required but you can if you know someone.. but idk if most people are going to have rec.'s and i will be the only one without any? i dont know any adults who have been in sororitys.

It doesn't really matter what the website says, but if you are going to a school with a competitive recruitment, get recs. I couldn't tell you why they tell you that it is the sororities job to get recs, but in most cases, that isn't true. Even if your school is not that competitive, get recs anyway, it can only help. Also, you say you may not know any adults in sororities, but you have no idea who may be. Ask teachers, people at your place or worship, parents friends, and you may be surprised at who is in a sorority. Adults may not wear lettered sweatshirts, but you never know who went greek in college

also i have a cousin at uga who is in a sorority, is that considered a legacy? she hasnt graduated yet though shes only a sophomore.

That depends on the particular sorority's legacy policy. In Gamma Phi Beta, that is not a legacy. Even if you aren't a legacy, try to get your cousin to right a rec for you.

im pretty clear on what not to talk about, however i AM very worried about the cost of pledging but i dont want to ask about it, do they usually inform us about the financial aspect of the sorority at some point of rush week?

Generally, sororities distribute a sheet containing financial information during one of the rounds. I know at my school it is required by the college Panhellenic.

lastly, ive heard from a lot of people that its a good idea to deactivate your facebook during rush and some people have said to do it as soon as you register for rush because they will start looking you up once they get your info.. is it really that big of a deal? ill probably look through and make sure i dont have any inappropriate pictures but ive heard that they judge as harshly as not considering girls who have red cups in their pictures or have their arms behind friends backs in pictures because apparently in college thats how they hide drinks in pictures?? i just think this sounds a little extreme, does anyone know how seriously they judge pictures??

Chances are, they won't be looking that closely, as sororities do not have time to facebook stalk every PNM in that great detail. With hundreds of PNMs going through and only a week or so to recruit, I doubt sororities will take time to look through every picture a PNM has. But it IS a good idea to edit how you present yourself on facebook. Make your profile private, edit down your info (i.e. take "I LOOOOOOVE beer bongs!" out of your About Me area). I also recommend taking down pictures of yourself doing anything illegal or embarassing (such as sitting on a toilet at some random party giving the peace sign...not illegal, but probably not great for facebook either). A general cleanup of yourself and the pictures tagged is a great idea to do in general, because it can save you a job or internship in the future as well. Also, don't be that freshman that friends EVERYONE. You never know who sees your personal information.

thanks for all the help =)

Hope that helped!