Rush - What to NOT do or say

Originally Posted by novaread

Hi,
I don't know if I am on the wrong website or not but I wanted to ask a question about membership. How do you go about become a part of a graduate chapter? I am interested in becoming an AKA, I live in Georgia.

novaread

Alpha Kappa Alpha Pearls of Wisdom
How to become an AKA

The search function is a wonderful tool.

[Trisana58]

What are some service sororities that are really involved with helping children (education)?

Oh, and this question has probably been asked already, but I havent seen it, so: Can you join a sorority at another university?

[UGAalum94]

Originally Posted by Trisana58

What are some service sororities that are really involved with helping children (education)?

Oh, and this question has probably been asked already, but I havent seen it, so: Can you join a sorority at another university?

I'm not sure you are posting in the right place because this thread, I think, is for examples of what not to say.

Do you really want answers or are you giving examples of what questions not to ask?

[Trisana58]

Originally Posted by Alphagamuga

I'm not sure you are posting in the right place because this thread, I think, is for examples of what not to say.

Do you really want answers or are you giving examples of what questions not to ask?

My bad... Didnt know where else 2 post this... but yes, its a real question.

[Nicole AΦ]

We follow the rule of the three B's Boys, Booze and Bank Accounts as the thinks not to talk about.

[VeniceIsSinking]

Well I got around to contacting my greek office and it looks like my marital status/class ranking will have no negative affect on me. All of the chapters on campus allow married women to be active members and there are no local by-laws regarding married women as well. Also a lot of sophmores participate and are placed! The Greek advisor is really excited about having me go through recruitment and plans on helping me out.

Thanks for the heads up ladies, I appreciate it. I'm just glad that in the end it worked out in my favor.

[AChiOhSnap]

Originally Posted by VeniceIsSinking

Well I got around to contacting my greek office and it looks like my marital status/class ranking will have no negative affect on me. All of the chapters on campus allow married women to be active members and there are no local by-laws regarding married women as well. Also a lot of sophmores participate and are placed! The Greek advisor is really excited about having me go through recruitment and plans on helping me out.

Thanks for the heads up ladies, I appreciate it. I'm just glad that in the end it worked out in my favor.

I'm glad to hear that the greek life office was so helpful for you! Just to remind you though (since you said you wanted to be fully prepared) that just because a chapter's policies don't disallow a married woman to join a chapter does not mean that her marital status won't have a negative affect on a married PNM's chances depending on the campus culture -- we can't really say for sure that it's not going to negatively affect you. That said, I really hope it doesn't, especially since you're so enthusiastic about recruitment! Check through some of the previous "married PNM" threads to read some stories about similar situations worked out.

I'm really glad that lots of sophomores get placed because class standing is usually a big factor in whether or not PNMs get placed at very traditional schools. It sounds like all systems are go for you at this point, and please keep us updated in the fall when you're going through recruitment.

[VeniceIsSinking]

Thanks AChiOhSnap. The advisor was incredibly helpful and is also helping me get more involved on campus to increase my chances for a successful recruitment. She really wants things to work out for me, so she's "grooming" me into not only a better person, but a better future sister. Her advice has been wonderful and she's really making me feel like I am accomplishing something at my school.

And you're absolutely right, while the laws say it's ok.. some girls may see it otherwise. I guess my goal during recuritment will be to make it very clear to every sister I encounter that my marital status is just an extension of me, and will not affect my commitment to XYZ sorority. I will obviously not make that the basis of my conversations, but make it a key point! I'll see what I can dig up on the board about married PNM's.

I will definitely create a rush thread in the recruitment stories board when the time comes.

[Frienze2010]

I would say...Dont get so nervous that you decide to chain smoke moments before entering a house...not like you should be smoking anyways. I'm betting that factored into my last cuts. ewww.

[lillylover3]

when i was a PNM once, i had an active tell me how she vomitted in her mouth while watching tv the night before.

keep your mouth shut[pun intended] especially when tlaking to roommates/friends during FR!!! you don't want things to be misconstrude and you end up getting dropped from a house you like--i know too many girls that's happend to!

[ΑΓΔSquirrel10]

It was during rush, and I was in the cafeteria when I noticed that one of the girls rushing was standing behind me in the line. I clearly overheard her say, "I really hope this sorority stuff is worth it, because I've already missed 3 frat parties this week."

PNM's, be careful of what you say ALL THE TIME! It could come back to haunt you.

[SthrnZeta]

Originally Posted by ΑΓΔSquirrel10

It was during rush, and I was in the cafeteria when I noticed that one of the girls rushing was standing behind me in the line. I clearly overheard her say, "I really hope this sorority stuff is worth it, because I've already missed 3 frat parties this week."

WOW - we know where her priorities were...

[KSUViolet06]

DON'T make a Greek Chat username/AIM screename/etc with a sorority name in it if you're not a sister.

For example: IwannabeDZ, FutureChiO, TriDeltHopeful, GonnaBeAnAKA

[SigKapAngel767]

My best advice would be to be gracious to everyone

[skylark]

No matter what DON'T ... show up to ABC sorority's event and immediately say as you walk up to a greeter "Oh my gosh, I just got done having the best cake at XYZ's event. By the way, do you know where the DEFs are having their event?"

It happened to me at this year's recruitment.