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carnation · #1 07-28-2006, 10:59 AM

bump again!

CuriousWildcat · #2 08-03-2006, 01:20 PM

Thanks for bumping this time and time again! I will definitly keep an open mind during my rush! This thread is very helpful!

tld221 · #3 06-20-2007, 02:31 PM

LOL i didnt even realize that thisthread was 6 YEARS OLD until i saw you bump it the first time!

that was a great story!

ClassicBeauty · #4 06-20-2007, 02:40 PM

I'm rushing at a competitive university this fall. (well, I hear that it's competitive) I dont think dirty rushing is as bad as LSU, but I'm sure it goes on. Ahh, it really scares me. I know what to expect now, but still I know I might be gullible to that situation.

srmom · #5 06-20-2007, 03:35 PM

Carnation,

Thanks for bumping this thread. It is very much as I have surmised and I am worried and anxious for all of my friend's daughters who will all be rushing at southern campuses this fall! Yikes

It makes you wonder how we ever got in back in the dark ages!

I don't know if i will direct my friends to this thread, they are nervous enough already

carnation · #6 06-20-2007, 03:51 PM

Y'all might want to read, "justamom, how's LSU?", the sequel to this thread. It's all about how post-recruitment life panned out for that crowd!

AnchorAlumna · #7 07-17-2008, 01:09 AM

Oh yes, a scary thread but lots of great information. I do miss justamom...we have a lot in common.
Maybe she'll come back one day!

carnation · #8 08-24-2001, 03:24 PM

Justamom, it was harder for me to watch my daughter rush than for me to go through. My feeling when a group would cut her was, "How dare you? She's beautiful, has a 4.0, all these top-grade activities--what's WRONG with you?" (Actually, my child was pretty cool about it herself.) And my own mother was afraid for me to rush because she'd grown up on the U. of Arkansas campus and seen girls leaving school for good in tears during rush. Then I even got upset when fabulous girls from our hometown were cut left and right during rush at UGa and Tech. The girls said the sororities made it so obvious that they already knew who they wanted during rush and all but ignored them during parties.

I don't know what the answer is. It isn't letting everybody into any group they want because the locals at the college where I teach do that and it has always been disastrous (can't wait until they nationalize). You get lots of really wild girls in your group and your rep is destroyed. Furthermore, it kills the smaller groups. So does having really huge quotas, which may be why the huge-quota schools are unable to get any more sororities to succeed on campus. Everyone wants the biggies who are already established.

I just don't know what the answer is.

newbie · #9 08-24-2001, 08:06 PM

Please tell your girls that we wish them the best of luck!!! I hope they end up where they are happy!!

aephi alum · #10 08-25-2001, 10:51 AM

Good luck to your daughter and everyone else! I can't imagine a rush this cut-throat - it simply wasn't like this at my school (in the Northeast) - sororities cut hard for prefs, but until then virtually everyone was invited back. (But we only had 5 sororities and 2 rounds of invites...)

justamom · #11 08-25-2001, 05:33 PM

I have never been so angry in my life. My daughter just fell victim to dirty rush. I warned her, but she was so moved...I could just spit nails. Last night at one of her Pref parties, this young lady WHO WAS A FRIEND, said to her, "I better see you on our front lawn tomorrow." She told her,"Don't worry, we want you." She of course bought into it. She went to bed thinking she had made all the right choices, followed all the rules and was going to wake up tomorrw a part of______sorority. Yes she got her second choice, and yes, she does like them, but right now she is ready to drop. She called me ON THE BUS -said she felt like she was kicked in the gut. She is going to give it 24 hours to make her decision. THIS is why Greeks have problems!

Oh, I promised I would name the school. Haven't you guessed?
LSU

amycat412 · #12 08-25-2001, 05:40 PM

justamom,

sounds to me like your daughter ended up in the best sorority for her, even if it was her second choice. why be a part of a group who would make a veiled promise to her on pref night only to make sure they were requested as the #1 choice on more pref cards??

i would suggest/advise that your daughter give it some time. she likes the group she was bid by enough to have preffed them--and you mentioned in an earlier post that there were TWO houses of the four she preffed that she was really interested in--- please don't let her momentary disillusionment get in the way of what could be a wonderful sisterhood for her.

i had a feeling all along you were talking about LSU, and I would love to know which houses they are--but understand it may not be in the best interests of this board to name the one that dirty rushed her. Which one did she pledge?

Amy

justamom · #13 08-25-2001, 05:54 PM

Actually, she has called me twice. The first time was when they announced their house. In the background I could hear all the excited voices, "Who did so and so get? Oh she got her first choice...so and so got blah blah blah" and then, there was her usual confident voice sounding so tiny, so broken. I have kept all her e-mails and some of the things that happened were just plain wrong! I NEVER tried to influence her because I didn't want to color her opinions. Even when I was told things about this group, I never said anything because she liked them. Now I feel like I failed her in my capacity as someone she trusts. I know she is the type that will give it a good, hard look, but right now she is so upset with the whole system, it may not do any good. I do believe she will stick it out for the lock in. She is very astute, I don't know how she missed this one.

PenguinTrax · #14 08-25-2001, 05:59 PM

Justamom,

You and/or your daughter MUST inform Panhellenic about this recruitment infraction. This is a violation of the NPC unanimous agreements and the only way to put a stop to this kind of behavior is to report the offending chapter to the proper authorities.

I hope your daughter does give her new sorority a chance and she doesn't let this experience make her bitter and anti-Greek.

Please e-mail me if you'd like more information. We'd also like to know where your daughter is pledging!

LeslieEMU · #15 08-25-2001, 06:09 PM

Justamom, please tell your daughter to wait at least a week and give her new sorority a chance! If she decides to stay in, can you let us know which sorority she is pledging? Also, as Barbara mentioned, let your daughter know that she really should let Panhel know so this doesn't happen to more girls!