Indiana University Recruitment 2020 - Page 6

PNMmom18 · #1 01-19-2020, 04:01 PM

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What is the name of the FB page? Just curious (nosy) to go see what people are saying.

Sorority and Fraternity Life - Indiana University for Parents

BBH · #2 01-19-2020, 06:10 PM

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Sorority and Fraternity Life - Indiana University for Parents

Didn’t know about that page. Just scrolled through it.

IndianaSigKap · #3 01-19-2020, 03:37 PM

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I think the thread is quieter because there is now an IU FB group like this thread. I just read on there someones daughter maxed her options and got no bid for Prefs. I didn't think that was possible if you listed all your houses available?

No, this is not possible. I don't think preference parties are even over. So bid matching has not even begun, so she cannot be bidless. I think the mother might be confused, maybe the PNM in question did not receive any invitations to preference?

PNMmom18 · #4 01-19-2020, 04:03 PM

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No, this is not possible. I don't think preference parties are even over. So bid matching has not even begun, so she cannot be bidless. I think the mother might be confused, maybe the PNM in question did not receive any invitations to preference?

Right no invitation to preference, I am sorry I must have worded it wrong. Still I thought that was impossible?

carnation · #5 01-19-2020, 04:07 PM

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Right no invitation to preference, I am sorry I must have worded it wrong. Still I thought that was impossible?

No, you can be cut totally at any stage before Bid Day.

95SisterMom19 · #6 01-19-2020, 03:21 PM

I know last year was crazy with XO, so did that make a difference as far as chatter? Is there usually some sort of "scandal" each year? Since last year was my first year back in the Greek scene, it seemed CRAZY, but I didn't know if that was abnormal.

Good luck to anyone going to Pref today BTW. My daughter believes it's complete TORTURE to make PNMs wait for bids tomorrow with no classes to keep them sane. Am I naive or is it truly refreshing to see how much present members worry about PMNs connecting to the house and being happy/successful vs thinking PNMs will be theirs to harrass and "haze" so they know their place?!?! I don't believe it's just her house, but all sororities in general are trying to spread a culture of building each other up vs tearing down.

BBH · #7 01-19-2020, 07:42 PM

I saw a few comments about a chapter passing notes to the PNM, I thought that was against the rules?

33girl · #8 01-20-2020, 07:15 AM

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I saw a few comments about a chapter passing notes to the PNM, I thought that was against the rules?

In what context?

BBH · #9 01-20-2020, 08:30 AM

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In what context?

On the FB page, one PNM didn’t get any houses back for pref, the mom posted that an active sent her a note after a round that said they really liked her implying that she would be invited back. It sounded like the PNM was being told she’d be invited back and then was cut.

Anyone can join the FB group, just send the request to the admin.

FSUZeta · #10 01-20-2020, 08:55 AM

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On the FB page, one PNM didn’t get any houses back for pref, the mom posted that an active sent her a note after a round that said they really liked her implying that she would be invited back. It sounded like the PNM was being told she’d be invited back and then was cut.

Anyone can join the FB group, just send the request to the admin.

That is dirty rushing. I would encourage your daughter to think about turning that chapter in.

ivyrose2 · #11 01-20-2020, 09:33 AM

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Right no invitation to preference, I am sorry I must have worded it wrong. Still I thought that was impossible?

I'm not an expert on this by far, but seems to me like it would be very difficult to end up with no parties at the end when there are houses that are struggling to make quota, IF you are listing EVERY house you are invited back to EACH time. I would think it is more likely that the PMN with no houses at the end chose to list only certain houses at some point (which, I would think, her rho gam would advise against). I am also thinking that a PMN who actually maximized options at every round would be helped by her rho gam at this point to be available for a snap bid if she was open to it? Of course, I am not talking about someone who may have been eliminated due to negative behavior, making negative comments about houses, or a rush infraction.

FSUZeta · #12 01-19-2020, 08:54 PM

It's possible. It is ordinarily if you attend pref parties and list all chapters where you attended pref, that you will receive a bid.

IUmom20 · #13 01-20-2020, 01:08 AM

Hey all! Mom of a rushing freshman this year. Round one was a shock, but she was happy with some options. Then round two was a major shock and lots of tears, but she regrouped and reassessed her list (kudos to the rho gam for getting the girls their lists hours before the first party. Lots of time to cry it out and gather themselves.). Really enjoyed one of her sisterhood houses. Got Two invites to preference round. Loves one, is borderline with second. But her rho gam (who is very invested in her group) encouraged her to put both down. I personally would have encouraged her to suicide so if she didn’t get the bid to her first choice (which was originally in her top 5 during 22 round) then she could have been eligible for informal. But it isn’t my process or experience and she and the rho gam made the decision together. Cheers to trusting the process. Praying it works out.

Also praying for those poor mamas who have devastated daughters without invitations.
I read that on the fb page also.

I’ve been a stalker, and have enjoyed your comments.

ivyrose2 · #14 01-20-2020, 01:59 AM

Cheers IUmom20 and glad you posted! Glad to hear that your daughter's rho gam was helpful! Best to you and welcome to the group!

80sHoosier · #15 01-20-2020, 10:03 AM

I think it is possible to end up with no invites to preference. One way would be to be released by every sorority. Based on what my daughter knew of other's invites two years ago when she went through, I'd say this does not happen often. It seemed like the PNM's in her group at least had one of the two chapters back that are lower performing in formal recruitment. But I'm sure there are some PNMs that get released by every sorority.

But another way it could happen is if after the open house round the PNM ranks these sororities last, ends up with a full plate of 16 sororities back which excludes say the 3 or 4 weakest recruiting sororities. However, over the course of philanthropy and sisterhood, this PNM gets released by all the other sororities she had at 16. No invites left for Preference.